Misscarriage- d&c on Friday

misslissa32

Went into regular dr apt today at 11 weeks, couldn't find heartbeat on Doppler so did an ultrasound and saw baby stopped growing at 8/9 weeks. I had no bleeding or any other symptoms. Was shocked and so sad. Now I have a d&c and have to wait until Friday afternoon! Seems cruel to make me wait so long. Feeling scared and nervous and if anyone has any advice or experience please share!

ivfmommy1228

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a D&C yesterday and went back to work today. Physically, it was quick and easy for me. My babies stopped growing at 7w. Although, I passed a lot in my own. It does seem horrible to have to wait. It was almost a month between my initial severe bleed and my D&C. Emotionally it may be difficult but physically you should be fine. For me, because I was bleeding so long the D&C actually made it more final for me and now I can start healing. I hope the same is true for you and wish you the best. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

rachrobertson

Sorry for your loss. My d&c went smoothly, with light bleeding/spotting for about 2 weeks after. I will be a month out from my d&c this Friday and the first week is so difficult emotionally, but as the weeks have passed, things have become easier. I still get angry when I see a pregnant person or people talk about a tiny baby, but I think that is a normal part of the grieving process. Once I had my d&c, I felt I could start grieving, bur the week I waited between finding out I was having a mmc and when I had my d&c was long and heartbreaking. I hope all goes well for you on Friday! Also wanted to add, I have seen some people go back to work the next day and I could not emotionally handle that. Depending on your job too, it may be too strenuous to go back the next day. I felt well enough the day after my d&c to get up and clean but paid for it the next day with sharp pains that were helped with a heat pad and Tylenol. Don't feel pressured to go back to work with what the 'norm' is, go when you feel physically and emotionally ready.

smithnwb

I am SO sorry you're having to go through this. Unfortunately I can relate. I went in for my 10 week ultrasound checkup this past friday and was told they could not find a heartbeat and our baby was only measuring about 8 weeks. I too had no bleeding so it was a shock. This is our 2nd miscarriage and we've been trying to get pregnant since the last one 2 1/2 years ago It's hard, I know. I had to wait 5 days. But for me personally, it gave my husband and I time to process our loss, and ask my Dr any questions we had. And since our ultrasound experience was not a good one and I was not comfortable w having the D and C my Dr fit me in for another sonogram yesterday w a new sonographer just for my peace of mind and it really helped. This one was very compassionate and she took the time to show me the baby and explain everything so it gave me the closure and peace of mind I needed ... and I got to see our sweet baby one last time, which helped me.

I had my D and C this morning. I was SO nervous about being put to sleep for the first time and about what to expect afterwards, but physically it was not bad. They gave me a sedative to relax me via my IV right before taking me back to the operating room. Then they put a mask on and a few seconds later I was out and woke up in post op recovery a little over an hour later (but it will only feel like a few mins). When they first pulled me out of the anesthesia I was SUPER groggy and could hardly keep my eyes open but within a few minutes I was just really tired but alert. In fact I was much more alert than I thought I'd be. I was cramping a bit right after but they gave me a high dose of ibuphrophen via iv for the pain and it helped right away. I've had some light bleeding and my throat has been a little sore (I assume from the tube) but nothing bad.

So sorry for the LONG, detailed post. I know every experience is different, but I just hope that maybe hearing my experience might give you an idea of what to expect and hopefully help you not be quite so nervous and scared. The physical part isn't bad, it's the emotional part that's the toughest Praying for peace and comfort for you.

MarielaO

Thank you for sharing

I had an emergency D&C yesterday because I was bleeding heavily. I was 7 weeks and I had some bleeding before but it was considered normal spotting. My experience is the very similar to what @Smithnwb described. If felt like it only took a few minutes and after I only had light cramps and a sore throat. I was very nervous as well because it was my first surgery. It is also my first pregnancy.

I pray and ask God for a fast recovery. physically I feel ok but emotionally its the worst experience. About work, I won't go back this week, I just want to make sure I heal and take time to relax and I don't want to answer any questions from coworkers at this moment & I teach History so I would have to see hundreds of students & I am just not ready. So it depends on where you work, take your time.

I am sorry you all had to experience this. I pray and ask God for a fast recovery for you. I pray and ask God to heal your body and your soul and I know we all will get to share good news soon, in Jesus name.
Xoxo

amt20

I too am having a d&c on friday for my MMC. I also have had not spotting /bleeding or any other symptoms of a MC. This is my second MC in a row. I have no children and am terrified that this is just going to keep happening. ... I'm just feeling completely lost and empty

jarchbol

I am so glad I found this group! I started spotting over the weekend called my doc and they scheduled me for an ultrasound first thing Monday. I was 11 weeks pregnant (my first pregnancy) and unfortunately there was no heartbeat my baby was measuring still around 8 weeks when we had our first ultrasound, so soon after that the heartbeat had probably stopped. I work in healthcare and have helped many mommas thru D&Cs it is just scary to be the patient! But I know recovery is usually pretty quick. I did not have to have one, but did end up in the ER on Tuesday due to heavy bleeding. Thank you all for sharing your stories it gives me peace to hear I am not alone in this very sad and scary time ❤️