I dislike "nice." The vast majority of "nice" people are boring and often not very intelligent. I don't mean kind, sensitive people. I mean the ones who run around wanting everyone to be nice. Go take your participation trophy and shove it. Sorrynotsorry. UO yo.
I am so uncomfortable without a bra. I can't not wear one. My boobs have always been large but until pregnancy they 'stood their ground' so to speak... I've been accused many times of them being fake. Well, that's all over. It's such a foreign feeling to have them touch my skin underneath or touch each other in the middle I can't deal with it. Yuck! I told FI after I'm done having kids I want a lift to put them back where the good Lord intended.
Under normal circumstances, this is me. But since becoming pregnant (and having my boobs have like a massive growth spurt - up 3 cup sizes and my milk hasn't even come in yet!), I'm all about no bra when I'm at home. Especially at night. I think that 90% of the problem is that I'm probably not wearing the right size bra anymore, but I really don't want to buy new ones when I'll probably just need to again in a few weeks.
People always say my 12 year daughter will be busy this summer helping me with the baby, and she will be a good second mom. Well no, I'm not going to expect my daughter to be a main caregiver to my son.. She still is a kid herself..Does that mean she won't want to be a helper? No, she's so excited for him to come and she will help out on her own terms, but I'm not expecting her to be another parent.. They always ask her "are you ready to be up all night to feed the baby?" Like ... What? I won't be waking my daughter to feed the baby, dad and I got this :-bd
My UO has to deal with rude kids or stranger danger kids. My DS LOVES kids. Every time he sees one at a store, at the park, or wherever he runs up and says hi. Then he tries to engage in play (if appropriate). I shit you not, 8 times out of 10 the kid will ignore him, run and hide behind their parent or give him a dirty look. I kinda understand the shy thing, but seriously people!!! I feel like parents are raising total social misfits. He's just saying hi! Most of the time the parents won't ask their kid to say hi back, they just reinforce the behavior by ignoring the situation or protecting their child from the happy toddler. WTH?! It drives me nuts.
My UO has to deal with rude kids or stranger danger kids. My DS LOVES kids. Every time he sees one at a store, at the park, or wherever he runs up and says hi. Then he tries to engage in play (if appropriate). I shit you not, 8 times out of 10 the kid will ignore him, run and hide behind their parent or give him a dirty look. I kinda understand the shy thing, but seriously people!!! I feel like parents are raising total social misfits. He's just saying hi! Most of the time the parents won't ask their kid to say hi back, they just reinforce the behavior by ignoring the situation or protecting their child from the happy toddler. WTH?! It drives me nuts.
I go back and forth between loving humanity and thinking most people are freaks. I trend toward love, but sometimes...
My UO has to deal with rude kids or stranger danger kids. My DS LOVES kids. Every time he sees one at a store, at the park, or wherever he runs up and says hi. Then he tries to engage in play (if appropriate). I shit you not, 8 times out of 10 the kid will ignore him, run and hide behind their parent or give him a dirty look. I kinda understand the shy thing, but seriously people!!! I feel like parents are raising total social misfits. He's just saying hi! Most of the time the parents won't ask their kid to say hi back, they just reinforce the behavior by ignoring the situation or protecting their child from the happy toddler. WTH?! It drives me nuts.
I find that those kids are often the ones praised by adults (because they don't create any kind of "noise")... It's a shame that securely attached children who go up to others appropriately don't have their behavior reinforced.... My son is also the kid who will greet children and want to play with them.... There is also this bizarre crop of parents who teach their kids not to share... WTF!
@ElRuby and @lovethatcolosun I totally agree and to piggy back, I hate when parents answer for their kids. Like when you ask a 4 year old a question and their parent immediately answers. Teach them to speak for themselves!
@amccoy129 This is my SD! She's 7 and I end up the bad man because I make her acknowledge people and respond to hellos and things like that. This is also the kid who can't button/snap her own pants at our house because her mother has never put her in anything with buttons or snaps! It's a struggle. I could go on and on!
speaking of stranger danger. The boy I work with tends to ignore me when I ask him to wait for me when we go on walks. He's even walked away. Soooo.. If my kid does that more than 3 times after I talk to her and explain why it's not safe, I'm gonna get a friend she doesn't really know to sneak behind her and just snatch her up. Traumatizing? Yes. Will she keep walking away? Probably not.
NPR UO: I am pro-gun and I hunt (when I'm not pregnant). Obviously, I use extreme caution and I have all guns locked away in a safe. Flame away! Lol.
Lol I love that the link to the gif is "fat guy shooting his gun".
I own my own gun as well, though I was not able to bring it when we moved to NJ- ridiculous laws here. I have always enjoyed going to the shooting range with my dad, it was our bonding thing as I got older. Never been one for hunting though.
NPR UO: I am pro-gun and I hunt (when I'm not pregnant). Obviously, I use extreme caution and I have all guns locked away in a safe. Flame away! Lol.
Lol I love that the link to the gif is "fat guy shooting his gun".
I own my own gun as well, though I was not able to bring it when we moved to NJ- ridiculous laws here. I have always enjoyed going to the shooting range with my dad, it was our bonding thing as I got older. Never been one for hunting though.
Haha. Didn't even notice. I finally figured out how to GIF. So I've been adding them to almost every post just because I can! It lightens the mood.
My papaw taught me to shoot. I'll always cherish those. I totally forgot it could be considered unpopular until I realized that not everyone on this board is from the same area I'm from. I don't know a single person around here who doesn't own a gun.
NPR UO: I am pro-gun and I hunt (when I'm not pregnant). Obviously, I use extreme caution and I have all guns locked away in a safe. Flame away! Lol.
Lol I love that the link to the gif is "fat guy shooting his gun".
I own my own gun as well, though I was not able to bring it when we moved to NJ- ridiculous laws here. I have always enjoyed going to the shooting range with my dad, it was our bonding thing as I got older. Never been one for hunting though.
Haha. Didn't even notice. I finally figured out how to GIF. So I've been adding them to almost every post just because I can! It lightens the mood.
My papaw taught me to shoot. I'll always cherish those. I totally forgot it could be considered unpopular until I realized that not everyone on this board is from the same area I'm from. I don't know a single person around here who doesn't own a gun.
I don't think I actually know anyone at the moment who owns a gun! I mean, I know people who do own guns, but no one that I currently see/talk to. I did shoot some once at an indoor range, though, but it wasn't for me. Crazy how different it is in different areas!
NPR UO: I am pro-gun and I hunt (when I'm not pregnant). Obviously, I use extreme caution and I have all guns locked away in a safe. Flame away! Lol.
Lol I love that the link to the gif is "fat guy shooting his gun".
I own my own gun as well, though I was not able to bring it when we moved to NJ- ridiculous laws here. I have always enjoyed going to the shooting range with my dad, it was our bonding thing as I got older. Never been one for hunting though.
Haha. Didn't even notice. I finally figured out how to GIF. So I've been adding them to almost every post just because I can! It lightens the mood.
My papaw taught me to shoot. I'll always cherish those. I totally forgot it could be considered unpopular until I realized that not everyone on this board is from the same area I'm from. I don't know a single person around here who doesn't own a gun.
I don't think I actually know anyone at the moment who owns a gun! I mean, I know people who do own guns, but no one that I currently see/talk to. I did shoot some once at an indoor range, though, but it wasn't for me. Crazy how different it is in different areas!
Definitely crazy! There's a man at my church who carries his at all times and no one thinks it's weird. He also always wears overalls to every service. (I swear I'm not a redneck. I just attend church with these people. Ha)
That's one great thing about these online forums, you actually get to see outside your own backyard and get others perspectives. It's easy to think everyone thinks/acts just like you. It's nice to get out of my own bubble for a change.
So there was a legit study about whether the U.S. Is actually functioning as a democracy. The conclusion is we are an oligarchy, run by lobbyists and large corporations - our public policies do no reflect popular opinion, but rather minority opinion of special interest groups. One fact they used to support this was that 85% of Americans would actually be supportive of some limited gun control measures (eg, universal background checks) - but lobbyists and politicians make it such a polarizing issue, we all think we are much farther apart on these things than we really are.
Maybe I've mentioned this before. It's my go-to on the gun topic.
My family had one gun growing up. Everyone around me had them. My uncle has a huge closet full. Whatever. I find it a crying shame that we allow Newtown and school shootings to continue happening with zero response. This is why I am so focused on finding a middle ground.
We own too many guns. What else are we supposed to do in Nebraska? Ha.... See that.... I did my own little stereotype. We have a locked gun cabinet. I just want my LO to be safe.... It makes me nervous at times because accidents happen.
Is this an unpopular opinion? I don't know. It certainly will be unpopular with my MIL. But... I really, really don't want anyone other than me or my husband (excepting necessary medical care) to hold baby right after birth. Maybe the first 24 hrs or so? Probably won't be able to get away with that. (But counting on using the importance of skin-to-skin contact as a valid reason to avoid handing her over to grandparents in the first couple hours after birth.) I just feel so protective of her already, it makes me feel queasy to think of sitting in the hospital room with visitors who are holding her for an extended period of time, I already feel myself wanting to say, "Give me back my baby!" And even after those first sacred hours, I don't anticipate wanting to hand her over to others much. The desire to stay physically connected to her seems to even override my (strong) people-pleasing desire, because when I picture people asking if they can hold her, I feel ready to say, "Thanks so much for asking, but no, not right now." Sure, there will come a time when I'm too sleep-deprived to care or simply have to get in the shower, but we've waited SO long for this baby and I don't know if I'll ever get to go through pregnancy or birth or have a newborn ever again... I want to hold her every moment I can.
Is this an unpopular opinion? I don't know. It certainly will be unpopular with my MIL. But... I really, really don't want anyone other than me or my husband (excepting necessary medical care) to hold baby right after birth. Maybe the first 24 hrs or so? Probably won't be able to get away with that. (But counting on using the importance of skin-to-skin contact as a valid reason to avoid handing her over to grandparents in the first couple hours after birth.) I just feel so protective of her already, it makes me feel queasy to think of sitting in the hospital room with visitors who are holding her for an extended period of time, I already feel myself wanting to say, "Give me back my baby!" And even after those first sacred hours, I don't anticipate wanting to hand her over to others much. The desire to stay physically connected to her seems to even override my (strong) people-pleasing desire, because when I picture people asking if they can hold her, I feel ready to say, "Thanks so much for asking, but no, not right now." Sure, there will come a time when I'm too sleep-deprived to care or simply have to get in the shower, but we've waited SO long for this baby and I don't know if I'll ever get to go through pregnancy or birth or have a newborn ever again... I want to hold her every moment I can.
Get the nurses on board! They will keep people out as long as you want them to! Also, what we're doing is texting people when we're ready for them to visit. Everyone has already been alerted to this. If they decide to be in the waiting room, fine, but they're still not going to be coming to see baby until they get the text saying we're ready for visitors. And that's not happening until not only skin-to-skin is over, but I've also had time to shower and rest up a bit!
NPR UO: I am pro-gun and I hunt (when I'm not pregnant). Obviously, I use extreme caution and I have all guns locked away in a safe. Flame away! Lol.
Not a UO with me! We're big gun fans around here. I grew up around a dad and uncles who hunted. I shot a little in college but a few years ago me and my sister decided we wanted guns of our own. She got two, keeps one in her nightstand and one in her truck (concealed weapons license). DH and his dad are very into shooting and a couple months after we got married I went to a gun show with them. They were looking for ammo and were kinda mad that I was the one that walked out with a gun. It's a purple Ruger SR22 and they even like shooting it. We have 2 gun ranges within 5 minutes of our house and FIL loves buying range time and gun accessories for us as Christmas gifts. DH and I had actually just gotten our concealed carry license and were looking for a carry weapon for me the night before BFP. I haven't shot any while pregnant because it's loud, but it is great stress relief and I would love to get in a range. Like @klkonwi we have a locked gun safe, but I do understand being nervous. Definitely plan on teaching LO gun safety and respect from a young age. I was always taught to treat any gun as if it's loaded and they are not toys. FIL wants to buy LO a Henry rifle since his name is going to be Henry, but I'm fighting him on what age is appropriate to start shooting.
@joyfuljenny After my LO was born we allowed grandparents to visit right away, however I did not hand her over for a solid 3-4 hours to be held by others. And even then among 4 grandparents there, she was only gone from my arms for less than 30 minutes. My LO was a preemie at 36 weeks and 5lb3oz so she either had to be skin to skin or dressed and double swaddled at all times. This was totally my excuse to hold her all the time. I did have the grandmothers remark that I didn't want to share the baby - but I have decided that decisions my husband and I make for baby are what goes. I will put my foot down as she is my child.
So there was a legit study about whether the U.S. Is actually functioning as a democracy. The conclusion is we are an oligarchy, run by lobbyists and large corporations - our public policies do no reflect popular opinion, but rather minority opinion of special interest groups. One fact they used to support this was that 85% of Americans would actually be supportive of some limited gun control measures (eg, universal background checks) - but lobbyists and politicians make it such a polarizing issue, we all think we are much farther apart on these things than we really are.
Maybe I've mentioned this before. It's my go-to on the gun topic.
My family had one gun growing up. Everyone around me had them. My uncle has a huge closet full. Whatever. I find it a crying shame that we allow Newtown and school shootings to continue happening with zero response. This is why I am so focused on finding a middle ground.
Ah! This!
I'm not anti-gun. My husband is in the service. He handles weapons every day. He carries weapons every day. We've talked about getting a handgun and a shotgun. BUT - I do not understand why normal average joes need to own an assault rifle, or a crazy ass sniper rifle. Under what circumstances would an average person need an assault rifle for?
So yes. There needs to be a middle ground. I'm not hoping to take your guns away. But do you, random person, need a weapon that has the word 'Assault' in its very name? What are you going to use that for?
I don't know what the compromise is. But some gun nuts are outside my frame of reference, is all. West coast progressive hippy chick just doesn't understand why someone needs to own a Tommy gun :-/
It grosses me out when adults kiss their kids on the mouth. I grew up believing that kisses on the lips were reserved for romantic encounters only.
Hahah Guilty! Mind you my DS is only 2.5. However, now that I think about it, it used to gross me out when my sisters kissed my nieces and nephews on the lips.
It grosses me out when adults kiss their kids on the mouth. I grew up believing that kisses on the lips were reserved for romantic encounters only.
Hahah Guilty! Mind you my DS is only 2.5. However, now that I think about it, it used to gross me out when my sisters kissed my nieces and nephews on the lips.
You may come around. Haha
I think it's "weird", too. It just wasn't the norm for my family. Growing up, every time a neighbor or family friend who did kiss hello or goodbye on the lips would kiss me, I'd be confused and ask my mom about it. To each his own, though!
I have a feeling I'm not going to be able to express my affection for this baby-o-mine adequately enough without licking him up with a spoon. Lol what's gonna happen to me when I'm flooded with oxytocin????
It grosses me out when adults kiss their kids on the mouth. I grew up believing that kisses on the lips were reserved for romantic encounters only.
Hahah Guilty! Mind you my DS is only 2.5. However, now that I think about it, it used to gross me out when my sisters kissed my nieces and nephews on the lips.
You may come around. Haha
Guilty too! I used to think it was weird and now I kiss DD on the lips all the time. When she goes to kiss people she always goes for the lips so even my parents have come around!
Re: Unpopular opinions Thursday!!!!!!!
Sorrynotsorry. UO yo.
There must be a special place in hell for him/her.
This is my SD! She's 7 and I end up the bad man because I make her acknowledge people and respond to hellos and things like that. This is also the kid who can't button/snap her own pants at our house because her mother has never put her in anything with buttons or snaps! It's a struggle. I could go on and on!
2nd round exp 8/20/18.
I own my own gun as well, though I was not able to bring it when we moved to NJ- ridiculous laws here. I have always enjoyed going to the shooting range with my dad, it was our bonding thing as I got older. Never been one for hunting though.
My papaw taught me to shoot. I'll always cherish those. I totally forgot it could be considered unpopular until I realized that not everyone on this board is from the same area I'm from. I don't know a single person around here who doesn't own a gun.
That's one great thing about these online forums, you actually get to see outside your own backyard and get others perspectives. It's easy to think everyone thinks/acts just like you. It's nice to get out of my own bubble for a change.
Maybe I've mentioned this before. It's my go-to on the gun topic.
My family had one gun growing up. Everyone around me had them. My uncle has a huge closet full. Whatever. I find it a crying shame that we allow Newtown and school shootings to continue happening with zero response. This is why I am so focused on finding a middle ground.
We have a locked gun cabinet. I just want my LO to be safe.... It makes me nervous at times because accidents happen.
I'm not anti-gun. My husband is in the service. He handles weapons every day. He carries weapons every day. We've talked about getting a handgun and a shotgun. BUT - I do not understand why normal average joes need to own an assault rifle, or a crazy ass sniper rifle. Under what circumstances would an average person need an assault rifle for?
So yes. There needs to be a middle ground. I'm not hoping to take your guns away. But do you, random person, need a weapon that has the word 'Assault' in its very name? What are you going to use that for?
I don't know what the compromise is. But some gun nuts are outside my frame of reference, is all. West coast progressive hippy chick just doesn't understand why someone needs to own a Tommy gun
:-/
I think it's "weird", too. It just wasn't the norm for my family. Growing up, every time a neighbor or family friend who did kiss hello or goodbye on the lips would kiss me, I'd be confused and ask my mom about it.
To each his own, though!
I have a feeling I'm not going to be able to express my affection for this baby-o-mine adequately enough without licking him up with a spoon. Lol what's gonna happen to me when I'm flooded with oxytocin????