Preggo Rage

Knottie99642553

What is this rage? I'm almost 21 weeks pregnant and I thought the moodiness was supposed to ease up the second trimester!! I know it is irrational because I hardly ever got angry before I got pregnant. And I am so worked up over the most trivial and I mean trivial of things. It's especially awful when the target is my sweet husband. But this has been unreal. 

I have been seething over the same silly issue all day. When I finally confronted him about it I exploded yet I don't feel any better. Now I'm worried that this anger and stress is affecting my baby girl. I know I'm being silly, but my goodness I am out of control. 

Anyone else experience/ experienced this before? 

smlowe9311

I definitely have it and had it after dd was born. I don't really have any answers but know you aren't alone. I also plan to ask my dr tomorrow but am assuming I'll be told it's nothing to be worried about.

bgriest

I've been experiencing boughts of anger and rage over the stupidest things lately and normally I'm a very laid back and easy going person!

At least you recognize it though and aren't using it as an excuse to be rude or mean to people!

I find that taking a little time to myself to destress, like a bath or cuddling my cats, and just thinking about why I'm really mad helps me calm down. Usually I can rationalize how irrational I am being and how much I'm blowing something out of proportion and calm down.

Not sure if that'll help! Sounds like you're already kind of trying to do that! Just know you're not alone and that it's your hormones but don't let them control you or your feelings.

zaclina

Hello fellow rage sister!!! Last Wednesday I had this unexplainable fury from the moment I woke up. I'm a fairly happy, easy going person so I was a bit amazed at the intensity. Hasn't yet returned, but affectionately terming it "baby rage."

I like to listen to "All the Pregnant Ladies", a spoof of Beyoncé's song and it never fails to make me giggle by the end.

Kristyhana

I have broken up with my poor boyfriend twice since becoming pregnant. I rage at him for no good reasons. It's very frustrating for me because I'm usually cool as a cucumber. I'm lucky that he is so patient and understanding with me.

smlowe9311

Oh the I'm so pregnant parody always mess me laugh too!!!

zaclina

And the "I'm Pregnant and I Know It". Hahah!!!

beckles112

I have two coworkers that constantly gripe about random things and I have totally hit my limit with them. I had to call my mom so I could gripe to her about them griping. I'm so glad I only have two days left of school so I can have a break from them!

cgummie

I am counting down the weeks until I get to leave work. I don't deal well with petty bullshit and it enrages me when I have to put up with it now. I've packed up my stuff to walk out twice- my favorite coworker has talked me out of it both times. Thank goodness its never directed at DH. He's the only human I can stand most days.

I was much better at keeping my cool before and hopefully it doesn't get worse.

Knottie99642553

Yes!!! I wake up with it too!! It's the craziest thing because I am so laid back too. I've tried to explain it to people and they don't believe me I am capable of the things I told them I was doing haha. Just checked out all the pregnant ladies! Thanks for the lols! 

last14real

Mine isn't so much rage as complete lack of patience. The little bit I do have is used on our 4 and 1 yr old. I feel like poor DH has it the worst bc I usually vent on him. In my defense he keeps doing stupid crap!

komorebi

I have bouts of it too. It really only happened with my second pregnancy and this one. I freaked out two days ago and was so upset with myself. I've been trying to work out more and step away when i feel myself boiling over.

komorebi

Kristyhana said:

I have broken up with my poor boyfriend twice since becoming pregnant. I rage at him for no good reasons. It's very frustrating for me because I'm usually cool as a cucumber. I'm lucky that he is so patient and understanding with me.

Oh my, glad I'm not the only one. I swear i go to the breakup place weekly. Which is so dumb because i know that's not what i want. We've been together almost ten years but he brings out my rage like nobody else.

elmann1

cgummie said:

I am counting down the weeks until I get to leave work. I don't deal well with petty bullshit and it enrages me when I have to put up with it now. I've packed up my stuff to walk out twice- my favorite coworker has talked me out of it both times. Thank goodness its never directed at DH. He's the only human I can stand most days.

I was much better at keeping my cool before and hopefully it doesn't get worse.

Agreed!!! I worked with 4 petty middle aged women. They drive me NUTS. I can't wait for maternity leave! DH is the only person in the world that i can stand. He's the best but gosh work drives me mad.

jefinley1

I love this. Yes. Although for me, it's because I have become even more decisive with pregnancy, so I see a lot less gray area in decision making. This can result in blind rage reactions, that, as an already pretty intense person, have shocked even me. Fortunately I'm totally able to contain them to vent sessions with my husband. The even stranger thing to me though, is that he seems to be experiencing the same thing. So it has actually kind of expedited our decision making process with all things surrounding us and baby, and made it much easier for us to just disregard unsolicited opinions or put the kibosh on clear boundary breaches. We're normally so empathetic that it can be really hard when all parties aren't supportive of our decisions (fortunately most are), and we would mull a lot more. I've wondered if it is in any way biological or an evolutionary imperative in order to more easily be hyper protective of our young. Just a thought...

komorebi

That makes sense @jefinley1 . I definitely have less issues saying no and i tend to people please normally.

rms924

I identify SO much!!!

Before pregnancy i was not what you would call laidback but at least I knew how to keep my temper under wraps. Now there's no stopping the rage. So far today, it's claimed 2 victims (justified but I should still keep it somewhat classy...)

The struggle is real.  

Rikdoll

I'm with you ladies! I sometimes cry bc I feel like all I do is get snippy with my kids. My patience isn't up to where it normally is and I hate it! I feel terrible when little things make get snippy. I usually have to go out and take a ride somewhere just to gain my sanity. Joys of pregnancy!!!

mrsdhouse89

My son got hurt last night (just a scratch on his leg, could have been worse) because of my husbands lack of common sense and stupidity. I could have strangled him, especially when he can't just take responsibility and just say sorry I messed up. That's all I'm looking for, not excuse after excuse. It's this kind of stuff that puts me over my boiling point.

savsimon

I ripped my fiancés head off this morning because I am out of town for my sisters graduation and his best man just got to town to hang out before our wedding this weekend and the office at our apartment called me and said they were playing music too loud. I didn't know pregnancy rage was a thing until I wanted to throat punch him for that.

ginarae73

I've been feeling like I want to tear someone's face off lately, yes. And any tiny little thing could set me off.  I wish I was still allowed to do kick boxing.

Krysta6

Yes! I should not be allowed to get behind the wheel right now, the slightest dumb thing people do makes me lose my temper. I used to be pretty laid back but now I'm totally aggressive on the road!

CamiB30

@Krysta6, I am totally a road rager now!! The stupidest things piss me off and frustrate me to the point of tears. It's so so bad but I go from annoyed to pissed off before I know it.

kristaellerbrock

Today is a day of pure rage! I blame part of it on co-workers who irritate me; the other part on not feeling well. I have been dizzy since lunch time and my equalibrium is messed. How I didnt fall over while walking at work is amazing. I just wish I could have a decent stress reliever. YOGA just isnt going to cut into the rage I have been experiencing.

LATXwoman

Oh, phew, so happy I found this thread. I'm a little over 20 weeks and had my first day of truly meaningless, "I woke up like this, don't mess with me" rage. Lasted almost all day, but I'm better now.

eat111315

I'm pretty angry to begin with but pregnancy makes me super crazy angry. My old boss said he knew I was pregnant before I told him because "hell has no fury like a pregnant woman". He probably deserved it.

kellymarie329

I have such pregnancy rage! Most days I want to kill my husband! Every little thing he does (or doesn't do) drives me crazy. I cannot wait for this to pass!

beckles112

Today I got super annoyed because one of my students kept turning around to look at me while we were watching a movie. I don't know if she was just trying to see my reaction to the movie or what, but it was annoying and I'm a monster. I only reacted internally though.