How to cope with being alone?

tomi1010

I recently left my boyfriend and the father of my child. I was unintentionally very dependent on him. I have goals for myself and I am trying to focus on them but I have this voice telling me I can't do it alone and I need help. I don't really want to be in a relationship right now as myself and my child are my priority. I just wanted to know if there were any other single pregnant mommies and how you guys deal with it?

laceyjaep

I am not single but just wanted to say that I would bet money that you are stronger than you think you are! You were already strong enough to make a difficult choice because it was the best thing for you and your baby. I hope you have some friends and family you can lean on for support. Just because you are not in a relationship does not mean that you are all alone. It's fantastic that you have goals for yourself. Try not to get overwhelmed by the big picture or the whole process. Maybe focus on accomplishing small goals and celebrating small milestones. Before you know it you will accomplish those goals. You can do this!

itslizzietime

I agree with laceyjaep, you are absolutely stronger than you think you are. I'm going to be a single mama too, the father of my baby (who I dated for three years) decided he doesn't want to be with me, but won't man up and admit it. And through all of that I've realized that my little boy and I are the only ones who can make me happy. Live for your baby. Live for yourself. You're doing to do so well. I promise.

LiveNLove44

My colleague came to interview with us when she was 9 months pregnant. She had driven back across the country to escape an abusive relationship and be around family in our state. We hired her because she was the most qualified for the job. She is one of the strongest women I know, and I am happy and fortunate to call her friend. Her daughter is 6 and thriving because she made the difficult but necessary decision to leave a toxic relationship that would have led down a dangerous road for her and her daughter. When you feel like you just can't do it, or you think about going back to someone who wasn't good to you, remind yourself of why you left. Write it down and put it somewhere so your memory can't change the story. You are stronger than so many people, and your LO is already blessed to be yours for it. 

Take one step at a time. Figure out what you are qualified to do, and just start there. Figure out who your support system is, and work on strengthening those relationships rather than questioning whether you need to have a romantic relationship or not. You can do this. Give yourself time