My sister is graciously hosting a baby shower for me because I will be a first time mom. I feel strongly about following etiquette and not seeming rude, but I have run into an etiquette issue I am unsure on. She has asked me for a guest list, especially for DH's family. Should I invite long-distance relatives who I know cannot make it? I feel I could offend a relative by not inviting them even though they could not attend. I also feel I could offend them by inviting them if they felt I knew they could not come. Could it seem that I just wanted them to send a gift? I am in no way concerned about getting gifts, I just do not want to offend anyone by not inviting them either. What is the proper etiquette here?
Re: Etiquette Question - Long-Distance Invites
Just invite the people you are closest to, regardless of where they live. An invitation is not a summons; the people that you are closest to that live far away will just send their regrets and not feel pressured to attend. That having been said, DH's closest relatives were invited to my shower as well. But if your husband doesn't feel like that is something his relatives would be into, it's fine to not invite them. It would be appropriate, however, to at least invite his mother and sisters (if he has them).