So I mentioned before that my MIL wanted to come right after the birth of our LO. You all gave me great advice with how to handle her so I thought I'd run this by you too :-)
DH and I decided to have MIL come a few weeks after the birth (she lives a plane ride away so would be staying with us). We talked about what boundaries we will set and feel ready to handle that time with her.
Now, my SIL wants to come right after the birth too (she often competes with MIL and can't stand the thought of not seeing the baby if her mother gets to). SIL is much more high maintenance (she takes over our house completely). She is several years older than me and despite not having any children, still tries to act like a parenting expert and gives me "useful tips" about everything baby related.
MIL will want to stay for 2 weeks. Then SIL wants to stay for two weeks but DH said she had to wait until baby was a month old. This would essentially put me having high-maintenance house guests for a month straight. MIL and SIL don't get along well and SIL's husband really doesn't like MIL. Basically, they all tolerate each other. Plus SIL will want to bring her dog to stay (so I have to have someone take ours for that time as her dog "doesn't like other dogs, she thinks she's people"). Even though all these people don't get along that great, I don't want to deal with a month of houseguests plus a very spoiled dog right as I'm becoming used to our new baby.
DH and I are thinking that maybe we will tell them they can all come when the baby is 2-3 weeks old and stay for a week to ten days. And they have to come at the same time, not spread out, disrupting my very short maternity leave and wearing me out. I know that it will be stressful but I feel like it would be one very stressful week, or a long month of dealing with everyone. What are your thoughts? Should I try to coordinate the houseful for a week/ten days, or just keep the chaos more limited but longer in duration? They don't get into heated fights but they definitely don't love hanging out. Am I being unreasonable in trying to make them all come at the same time?