I love cuddling my ds who is 8wks old. We slept solo and swaddled the first couple weeks but at some point during his third week would not go back to sleep without being held or cuddled by me and I found myself nursing him to sleep and leaving him to sleep at my side. Now it is the only way he will sleep. If I do somehow get him down in a swing or crib he will wake after 30 min to an hour and cry when he realizes he is alone. If he sleeps with me he will sleep 4 hrs at a time. While I love cuddling with him it is hurting my relationship with my husband. I tried rolling him to his back to try and slowly transition him from the cuddling to the crib but just that small change causes him to wake crying after 30 min to an hour. So I guess my real question is, is there anyway to teach him when he wakes not cuddled close to me that it is OK? And it is pretty much an instant cry. I've watched it, he doesn't try to self soothe he just wakes and looks around for two seconds before bawling. I know people say enjoy it they will eventually grow out of it but I miss cuddling with my husband and I can tell it is hurting my husband too. Sure he will out grow this phase but my marriage won't want to wait....
Re: baby can't sleep without cuddling-help
I hate to say it but this is pretty common with BF babies and most moms love the bed sharing! Me, not so much. I need space and my kids always do better in their own room. With that being said, your husband should try to be a little more understanding. Things are really hard for the first 6 months or so and that baby needs you. Especially at 8 weeks old.
I don't recommend any sort of sleep training or anything like that because your LO is too young so you might have to tough it out for a little while longer or keep putting him in his crib and hope he figures it out and eventually is ok in there.
Also, are you sure no swaddles work? I don't see how any baby can sleep without being swaddled when they are that young! Mine sure couldn't.
Nope, you are doing fine. Your LO will leave your bed one day. It all gets easier as they get older too and in turn, things with your H should improve as well.
We room shared until 7 months until her sleep was being disturbed by us, she has been in her own room since then. To transition, we started putting her down for naps in her own room in her crib at 6 months, within the month she was sleeping in there and through the night. At 18 months, she is still on the 7 pm - 8 am sleep schedule she put herself on.
Something to think about. ..
All this will fizzle away when they grow up.
Enjoy the cuddles while they last.