Advice.. Snarky remarks from doctors

Knottie70261981

Ok so I'm super sensitive right now but we have to see a different doc in the practice each time .. My first official visit with a doc was a nice woman at least I thought so at first... We started talking about the blood test offered to older moms and I said if nothing runs in my side or husbands side if the family should we worry.. She said "that's not what the blood test is for" I said oh ok what is it for? She said "let's be honest old eggs spoil" this left me hurt and thinking if the test showed abnormalities it would be my fault. It made me stressed for weeks. Fortunately everything was fine.

Yesterday I went to the docs because I have had bluebell ice cream and was kinda panicked. The nurse was sarcastic about taking my weight and made some remark and then the nurse practitioner who saw me said we you shouldn't even be eating ice cream. It has no nutritional value and that's not what your baby needs.

Seriously???? Come on people. Rudeness!! What would you do??

on_the_move

It sounds like the culture at your office.  It isn't something life threatening, but I would think about changing doctor offices.  You are going to deal with these people for the next 6 months, sensitivity and kindness are really an important perk.

cnorth82

Switch practices.

sante12

You should never accept being treated this way by your medical team. Switch doctors.

mgdunn

My doctors visits are one of my favorite things about being pregnant because i LOVE my baby doctor and all the nurses. They are there to make it a wonderful experience not tear you down. Switch!

jamielynne1533

Switch!!! Nobody should be treated like that!

Knottie96391996

If we ever treated patients like that in our office, we wouldn't have patients..... I love my OB! He's such a genuinely sweet guy. I would switch doctors right away! Check reviews on them too so you can see what other patients have experienced! I hope you find a better doctor who doesn't treat you this poorly.

Beccas387

I am so sorry for your experience! I'm a nurse practitioner and it makes me so mad to hear other medical professionals talking to Patients that way! I had a bad experience with one of the nurses at my OB office. Right after I got my positive test I became really backed up (tmi) so called to make sure I could take colace she first laughed at me and said "your only 4 weeks why are you calling?" I was sooo upset I knew I was really early but that doesnt mean I didn't want to start doing all the right things for my baby growing in me! I haven't had any issues with anyone else there and like my doctor so I stuck around but if she ever talks to me that way again I don't think my prego hormones will let me politely hang up lol!

kirsty100

When I first thought I was pregnant I went to doctors asked for test said was too soon which is fine but then started saying I'm to young I should have house be set up mind you he has no Idea I'm 23 I have a house we are are stable or else we wouldn't of gotten pregnant in the first place. He said come back in a we can we can talk about contraception which was obviously to late because I'm pregnant never went back there again Change doctors!!!

Knottie70261981

Thanks everyone. I would LOVE to change but they are the only practice here the one I went to 4 yrs ago for my daughter no longer does OB. I'm pretty much stuck as no one else delivers at the hospital here and the next closest doctors would be over 30-40 minutes away and much further from me for the hospital. So I'm kinda stuck. Just not sure if I should say something to the practice or not??

Chirorocks15

Knottie, you have every right to speak to your providers in private and let them know that you have been offended and that you deserve to be treated with respect from now on (that shouldn't be something that has to be said, but in this case!...) What they said was beyond unprofessional and you have every right to be upset.

millette2015

I agree -- if you can't change practices, definitely talk to them about how you are feeling. It is within your rights to do that, and you deserve the respect. I can't even imagine being told that I shouldn't be eating ice cream anyways. Hope everything gets worked out and you have some better experiences and can start enjoying your doctors visits! 

jenn2132

So rude! You would think they would know how to talk to a pregnant woman being in their profession. Besides I heard babies like ice cream! :>

lirunyc09

Definitely switch practices- you shouldn't have to feel this way! I agree with the comments- it sound like the culture in the office is "spoiled!" Jump ship- otherwise it will be a long 6 mos. I know our hormones make us extra sensitive but the nurses sound like royal bs! And you should have at least some consistency In the doc you see!!

lirunyc09

Ps I wonder what they would have to say about the sleeve of Oreos I murdered before dinner

abyronj

Switch!!! Your visits to the doctor should be fun and exciting...NOT stressful!!

KLHauck12

Of course, you should do what you are comfortable with....and if you don't want to go further, you shouldn't. But I would at least consider checking out the other practices. I drive 55 minutes to my doctor & hospital where I will deliver (the place I have been going for years and now live further away from).
My insurance isn't accepted at the doctor/hospital in my town.... Which is actually a relief because I have heard bad things about it (and have had some bad experiences myself). Its worth it to drive some place I trust and feel safe and comfortable.
I wouldn't put up with being treated that way...there are wonderful doctors and nurses out there to be found!

erinboehme

My doctor never shuts up about my "old eggs." I swear if she says it again, I'm going to punch her in the face!

furelise93

I would definitely switch doctors, even if that means driving 40-50 minutes. There's a hospital that's literally a half mile away from where I live, but since I didn't like the doctors, and the hospital doesn't have the best maternity ward, I am driving 45 minutes to another hospital. To me, it is so worth it! I am so sorry that you're being treated the way you are. That is unacceptable! If you can't switch, I would at least talk to them about the way you're being treated. No one should be treated that way!

sugarplum513

I am about 40 minutes from my OB's office. Great drs are absurdly worth the drive. I am also delivering about 45 minutes away, where my OB delivers. I have a top hospital 8 minutes from my house and several OBs within 10 minutes. Again, I am comfortable and confident in my OB, so I will continue to commute to her practice. No one should treat you like they are.

sugarplum513

Absolutely worth the drive, not absurdly. Darn autocorrect.

sugarplum513

Absolutely worth the drive, not absurdly. Darn autocorrect.

Knottie17464161

Sorry you have to go through that! It sucks cause you don't want it to be more awkward than it has to be when you visit, and you just want to have a positive experience.
Maybe be honest and say that, something like it might just be my hormones but the things you say are offensive and cause me anxiety. I'd really like to have a positive experience, can you help me with that?
Sweet words often go a long way, even though they definitely don't deserve them. I think going about it this way will help you have a more pleasant experience.

lanaloulittle

If you absolutely do not want to switch, talk to them. I however would switch even if it meant being 30-40 minutes away. We have a hospital 5 minutes from my house and the next one is 20-30 minutes and then the next is 30-40. I would 100% go to the furthest one if it meant I was happy with the care I was receiving. I would not put up with a dr or anyone for that matter, treating me that way. 

Because of insurance reasons my sister went to a hospital that was an hour and a half away with her first and didn't have any problems making it on time or such. Yes, appts were a little more of a hassle but it was worth it to her. 

cnorth82

Sometimes all it takes is a direct look in the eye and a "you know, that really hurts my feelings and comments like that make me dread coming here instead of being excited about it."

Boonhilde

Beccas387 said:

I am so sorry for your experience! I'm a nurse practitioner and it makes me so mad to hear other medical professionals talking to Patients that way! I had a bad experience with one of the nurses at my OB office. Right after I got my positive test I became really backed up (tmi) so called to make sure I could take colace she first laughed at me and said "your only 4 weeks why are you calling?" I was sooo upset I knew I was really early but that doesnt mean I didn't want to start doing all the right things for my baby growing in me! I haven't had any issues with anyone else there and like my doctor so I stuck around but if she ever talks to me that way again I don't think my prego hormones will let me politely hang up lol!

I hate how so many medical people treat pregnancy as "not real" until you're 8 weeks along.

sdesai1221

OMG! how did he even get his license to practice!

MirandaC1984

You need to switch practices. I had a similar experience early in my pregnancy after issues when I lost my last pregnancy. I went in to have a UTI test because I knew I had one. The nurse asked me my symptoms and I told her frequent urge to urinate and pain. She said well sometimes that can just be pregnancy. You ARE pregnant right? I was like seriously? I'm not even 4 weeks pregnant. Seriously the urine on the test had barely dried. Besides, even though you may have to go more often when you are pregnant, it shouldn't hurt! Then they told me we'll give you the benefit of the doubt until the culture comes back and give you macrobid. You can stop taking it if there isn't an infection. Of course there was. I called and scheduled with another practice that day. Haven't looked back.

MamaOwl15

I'm just wondering . . . Who in their right mind tells a pregnant woman she can't have ice cream?