Husbands Reaction

Frstimer24

Hi all,

First time pregnant, my husband and I talked about wanting kids and were actively trying. I just found out two days ago and share the news with him. He has been very distant since. I have all these physical changes happening and think about being pregnant/having a baby 24/7 he on the other hand never brings it up, never asks how I am feeling, if I ask him a question about it or state a new fact he responds quickly and then moves on. I don't understand. He is a fantastic guy and great husband - he is a thinker and not a feeler so maybe he is still processing? I have been dreaming of this time my whole life and I expected a different reaction. I am going to try to chat with him today and see where we get. But anyone have anything similar? Or feel similarly?

tewinkle27

it can takes a while longer for some guys to process/accept their new roles. Just give him some time and I'm sure he'll be excited once it really sinks in guys aren't as emotionally attached as we are because they're not really going through all the physical and mental things we are with our pregnancy, they're just going through it as an outside prospective congrats though!!

yl1m32015

Men and women are very different. Maybe it's not real for him yet. Right now there's just a bunch of cells in your uterus and he's not as connected as you are. Or with him being so logical, maybe he knows that 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage so he's protecting himself. Maybe he's nervous about the financial stress of a baby? Either way, just give him time to get excited and let it sink in.

amm0512

When I was 22 weeks pregnant with DS, my husband got drunk every night while his brother was visiting. He said he needed to get it out of his system "before the baby gets here". I flipped out, the baby IS here! He had already felt him move, we had already named him. But DH didn't grasp him as a real being yet. They're just men...they are trying their best, but it's not a 24/7 experience for them like it is for us.

Frstimer24

Thanks ladies! Just after I sent this out he came downstairs and asked me how I was doing. We have talked all day about "the baby". I showed him all I have learned and showed him a video of what stage our baby is in now. I don't think he realized all that has happened/ is happening and it took him a few days to process/take it all in.