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Things they don't tell you about pregnancy/labor. Go...!

I feel like this would be a good thread for all the first time momma's out there. So ladies, add your two cents...

Things they don't tell you about pregnancy and labor/delivery/postpartum... 
Liam Tyler & Emma Grace 
...baby #3 boy MC at 10 weeks


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    In my 3rd trimester my hips would lock up if I sat for too long. One time it took me 10 minutes to get out of a booth in a restaurant. So embarrassing and painful. I had no clue this was a thing! Never read about it in any books.

    Postpartum night sweats are insane! I'd have to change my pillowcase every day. My hormones were almost crazier postpartum than being pregnant.
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    Oh here's a couple:
    Epidural can cause u to scratch like an addict.
    You may poop while pushing in labour.
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    You may lose bladder control for a bit after you give birth. And your hair will fall out from hormone changes. It grows back, but it's takes forever.
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    Amen to the PP night sweat! ...ugh I hated those!
    Liam Tyler & Emma Grace 
    ...baby #3 boy MC at 10 weeks


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    You can poop while giving birth
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    The night sweats after giving birth! I would wake up in the middle of the night for the first 6 weeks drenched with teeth chattering. Thought I had a fever but Nile, just the hormones.

    Also, I did not realize I would be most swollen on my legs after I gave birth. That first week was crazy. All that water and no bab to give it to, my body was confused;)
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    During labor, if you're switching positions at all to get baby moving, it makes the pain so much worse. Moving around is so hard.
    And yes, most of you will poop during labor too. Completely normal.
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    I was armed with witch hazel pads, advil, nipple creams, etc. for postpartum recovery from my vaginal delivery. I didn't need anything but the peri bottle. That was REALLY surprising because I had a second degree tear, but hardly any recovery pain.

    For a couple of weeks after delivery, I had to remind myself to pee every few hours because I had no feeling telling me I had to go. It came back though!

    Also, I didn't swell while pregnant but OMG the swelling that came after was terrible! They put me on a diuretic and I literally peed (and sweated) out 20lbs.

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    When your water breaks, it typically isn't like the movies..... whoosh and over.... oh no, it keeps going and going!! I was like, "what is happening to me?"
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    After having baby... vaginally OR via csec, they come in and massage your uterus to help it contract. It can be pretty uncomfortable.

    This is absolutely my LEAST favorite part. I HATED them pushing on my tummy :( ...oh and the more kids you have the worse the postpartum contractions are!!!
    Liam Tyler & Emma Grace 
    ...baby #3 boy MC at 10 weeks


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    If you don't have a pregnancy pillow do yourself a favor a buy it! Yes, even if they are $60, it will be the BEST money ever spent. 
    Liam Tyler & Emma Grace 
    ...baby #3 boy MC at 10 weeks


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    I was so focused on what was happening during the pregnancy, and how to prepare for delivery, that I was totally shocked by the whole post-partum business.  

    Passing blood clots the size of golf balls - terrifying!  I made a nurse come in and look at a particularly large one I was so scared.  She was an angel.

    The "subway sandwich" of a diaper my nurse prepared (her term) for me to wear for days following delivery, which needed to be changed OFTEN.  So much stuff coming out!  Giant cotton underwear, giant cooling pads, witch hazel "cheese" slices, and a nice spray of numbing stuff over the whole area.  You must waddle while wearing all that.

    Cramping as your uterus begins contracting - painful and also triggered by nursing.  Nursing can be painful in the beginning, but it is well worth it to stick with it, nipple scabs and all.  

    Definitely all the sweating as your body gets rid of all the extra fluid you've been carrying around.

    And when your milk comes in.  Boobs so huge and painful and leaking everywhere.  I was miserable.  I asked my mom if my boobs were going to stay that way as long as I nursed, and she looked at me like I was a total moron and said, "well, yeah!" and I actually cried.  But it only lasted a few days!!  Your body will find that equilibrium of how much to produce based on what baby needs.  So don't let that freak you out like it did me!

    During labor, a lot of that is a blur now, but I definitely peed on the doctor.  My nurse said it happens all the time, they're used to it.  Hee hee.


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    If anyone tells you during the 3rd trimester, "sleep now while you still can," feel free to slap them in the face! Between the hip pain and the heartburn, I could hardly sleep the last few weeks.

    Postpartum recovery sucks, but once that baby is out and no longer putting all its weight on your hips, you'll feel so much better!

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    @mamaowl15 def agree! TUMS were my BFF with all the heartburn I would get ughhh! and then having to sleep, yeah nice try! I would end up in a sitting position and my mom (I was single with my first) thought it was cute, only because she wasn't the one in pain! My gosh I would cry!!! I didn't have a vaginal delivery but I can add my two cents on post baby! SLEEP WHEN YOUR BABY SLEEPS! lol 
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    If you're not a first-time mom, don't expect to get treated by hospital staff like you are. In fact, don't expect to get treated much at all. I barely saw my nurses the second time around, even though it was my first time delivering vaginally. The first time around I was treated like a queen. Everyone was so helpful and kind. It was awesome.
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    The hamster sized blood clots were by far the scariest. I had a ridiculous amount of tearing (tmi but my bag lips split all the way around) so having my whole vag stitched really sucked and I wasn't prepared for it at all. The subway sandwich in my undies with the foam was a god send. Being asked when I was due 5 weeks pp was heartbreaking.
    I had was very fortunate with breastfeeding so I was very pleasantly surprised. Holding our daughter and snuggling her definitely made all of the hurt worth it!
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    awww I feel so bad for ftm mom's reading this. lol. So I just want to say that just because someone experienced something doesn't mean you will either. Like, I didn't tear with my first, I pushed him out super super slow and that's why. I didn't experience pain for days after a vaginal birth. In fact the next morning I was itching to get up and go for a walk. I found that pacing and moving positions a lot was the only way to manage pain for me (unmedicated homebirth). I did not bleed very much. It did however last for a long time. I spotted for weeks which I guess is a sign you are doing to much to soon. I did not look pregnant after birth. My stomach was very flat and by the end of the first week I was skinnier than when I'd started my pregnancy.
    The things that surprised me the most were the yoyoing during pushing. haha I had no idea that you could push and then baby would slide back in. and push and his head would come out a little more and disappear. It was very disheartening. haha
    I was not expecting a burning desire to get naked. And I did and didn't care at all. haha. I was at home though.
    I was not expecting the love hormones to be quite the way they were, I knew they were an important part of bonding butI was telling everyone how much I loved them when they were cleaning up and weighing my baby.
    Or the spaced out-ness that happens on a un-medicated birth. During transition I felt like I was in a different world. My husband said it was kind of scary how looped up I was.
    I was not expecting it to last so long. It took forever.
    I also knew you had a big change in hormones after a few days but I was not expecting the tears and the fear of something happening to my little guy. it lasted about two days for me. It was very intense.
    I was not expecting puking the entire time. Or how much I hated anything touching my skin. It was just to much sensation. Especially the goop they use for the heart beat doppler. At one point I was in tears begging them to wipe it off.
    Anyway, That said I guess it's good to know what to possibly expect but don't freak yourself out about things. They don't happen the same for everyone :)
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    Your lady parts will be swollen for days, and make it painful to sit. And on top of that bleeding is terrible.

    Days after birth you will also have the biggest poop of your life. I was in shock and horror to know how much had built up in my system, I swear I lost a few lbs!
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    Similarly to @Carmofrap, I barely tore with my first (no stitches needed) and only felt sore on the days when I didn't soak in the tub at least once. The bleeding was no worse than a heavy period although the clots were definitely weird.

    Breastfeeding was agony. Thank God for a good lactation consultant who helped me through problem after problem for NINE WEEKS. It went much better the second time. :) But seriously, get good support if you need it!
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    The GIANT pads you need to wear and the multiple step process for using the bathroom after you give birth. And after birth at least the first few times you go to the bathroom a nurse goes with to show you how to "clean up" and check your bleeding. Note: take as many pairs of the mesh undies home as you can!

    Also, about 2/3 days later your milk comes in and it feels "heavy" like a weight on your chest. I woke up and bent over to pick something up and started leaking everywhere. Have breast pads on hand. I always preferred Johnson & Johnson disposables.

    If you plan to try breastfeeding, try to wear a nursing bra to the hospital for delivery. They have you try to feed the baby soon after delivery, and if you're wearing a regular bra you'll have to take it off. This saves the shred of modesty you might have left ; )
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    Wow. Thanks everyone!
    What is this peri bottle you mentioned?
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    After you give birth to help with swelling they will fill baby diapers with ice and you wear them as pads...it was great!

    In addition to pooping during pushing yoy may also pee. I almost nailed my midwife in the face...it was hard for me to look her in the face at my post pardom appointment.
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    plumpous said:

    Wow. Thanks everyone!
    What is this peri bottle you mentioned?

    The peri bottle is what you use on you lady parts to wash yourself off after using the restroom. This is assuming you have stitches. You cannot use TP on stitches. The bottle itself is a plastic squeezable bottle that you fill with water. The water squirts out of the top when squeezed. They should give you one at the hospital, but ask for another so you can keep one in multiple bathrooms.
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    Lol I already have something like this. TMI but I used it as a portable bidet because I had issues with wiping after poop. TP left me very itchy for a while back.
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    I'm a ftm and slightly freaked out. Thank you for your honesty tho. Nobody ever wants to tell you the bad stuff.
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    I want to add your hands locking up in the third trimester. I literally had to open and close my hand several times in order for it to feel relatively normal.

    Oh and full boobs. Those things are painful. I sometimes would just hope for LO to wake up so he could empty them.
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    When I was laboring, I would get exhausted of a particular position (i.e. standing) and want to lay down but then the contractions seemed worse. My midwife said that every time that you move, the contractions seem more intense but sometimes moving is still necessary. I also found that laying on my back was the worst possible position (though more relaxing during the moments between contractions) and standing with birthing partner pressing on my hips was the best.
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    Yeah maybe it's good not to know this stuff, but then again it's not as scary if you know it's normal. The night sweats were a total surprise and I'd have to change clothes completely and flip my pillow in the motn. The lochia (bleeding pp) smells awful! And you will have blood clots that you'll pass. I had one the size of my palm and it freaked me the hell out, but normal! Also, I think not everyone has these as bad as others. My DS had a good latch and while I def walked around with no shirt and nearly cried when he first latched for feedings during the first week or two, I never bled and it got better. Ended up BFing for 13 months!

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    Having a baby is like taking the biggest dump ever. The first poop pp is like having another baby . It was scary and painful . Tmi . When my milk came in it scared the crap out of me . My boobs were rock hard and they just started leaking while I was in the shower. I yelled at my husband to come see . I didn't know how to stop it so we just put my son on. Lol oh and the Peri bottle and heated pads and frozen tucks pads applied .... Heaven
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