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people who have never been pregnant

GeorgiaaMayyGeorgiaaMayy member
edited March 2015 in October 2015 Moms
Never let you use your pregnancy as an excuse. Like when you're exhausted, and they're like "why are you tired? You got to sleep in?" And you say well I am pregnant and it is like 11 at night. Then they're so quick to be all "oh come on you can't use that for everything"

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    Perfect timing for this post! I've been up since 3 wired, fully awake. I've got to shower and get ready now and I want sleep so bad I'd almost quit my job to get it. I work with 2 men in a woman owned business. All the women are in New York and are pioneers for women in the work force so they don't like excuses and here in the back office the guys don't understand what I'm dealing with. What do I do???
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    I think even those who have been pregnant before forget too. My mom has three of us and only remembers the "beautiful experience". She can't figure out why I'm throwing up and feel exhausted because it wasn't part of her experience. I keep telling her she must've blocked out those memories lol
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    People who've never been pregnant, AKA husbands. My husband's like, "why are YOU tired? I'm the one that moves furniture all day." Uh, yeah, in growing a human from two microscopic cells over here, while also chasing an almost two-year-old all day. Not saying hubby's not exhausted, but it's not like I spend my days at a spa!

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    earthtomomearthtomom member
    edited March 2015
    Omg my hubby says the same crap!!! Stuff like, "oh yeah that tiny little thing makes you tired"...smart ass comments that make me want to punch him. Lol. He is meaning it sarcastically but I still see red every time. When I was pregnant with my first, my mom gave me the what to expect while expecting book. He had the nerve to tell me that I suddenly started getting the symptoms I was reading about! I still make comments about that to this day! "Oh you have the flu? Did you read about that today?" Lol
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    Wigglesx2Wigglesx2 member
    edited March 2015
    I have a friend and Everything is "not that bad" and everyone is "different" so my concerns mean nothing. She's upset that I didn't go out partying with her. I can't drink now and I'm sick! Seriously? She's still living the college life and I'm way past that. WAY PAST.

    She wants me to throw an announcement party and gender reveal parties for "reasons to drink" but you know, she doesn't want to actually throw the parties.
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    Wow, Wigglesx2, that would drive me crazy!
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    anorthro said:

    Wow, Wigglesx2, that would drive me crazy!

    I have tried to ignore her and not answer her texts. She was my MOH, which is sad but she's become so selfish. I guess I just needed to rant for a moment. :)
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    My brother is driving me crazy!! When I say I can't do something or can't stomach a certain food he says....well I don't understand ur not THAT pregnant!!! Ummm hello I'm still pregnant!!
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    Yeah, or there's that one girl who thinks everyone's pregnancy is supposed to be like hers. This server at my job was always acting like that, like when my hormones were bad and I'd get frustrated or cry around 9 weeks she'd be all "your hormones shouldn't be that bad yet it's too early"
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    @abyronj , my brother said the same thing to me! Ugh!
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    anorthro said:

    Another classic is, "oh, c'mon, your'e not THAT pregnant."  As if I can be varying degrees of pregnant.  I'm freaking pregnant.  And just because you don't see a huge baby bump on my body, it doesn't mean that my hormones aren't at "I'm going to kill you" levels!

    Hubby says this once in a while and I wanna take a fork to his eye ...I swear its so annoying! U try it u try barfing and not enjoying what you eat !!!!!!!!!!!!

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    ehebaeheba member
    my MIL tells me I need to relax and enjoy pregnancy.. uh I am enjoying it but i can't control my crazy hormones and emotions!!! And telling me to relax won't help!!
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    I have a friend who had a baby about a year ago. She had the nerve to tell me I'm feeling sick because I'm thinking about getting sick....morning sickness is apparently in my head! And when I told her I switched to maternity jeans at about 10 weeks because my jeans were too tight, she said she couldn't wear them until 7 months because 'they just fell off! Hehe'. I was livid.
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    I had to buy a size bigger pants this past weekend. My husband thought I was joking when I kept telling him that my work pants were getting too tight around my stomach (I'm 10.5 weeks) to the point of making my nausea worse. Now that I have pants that fit, I haven't been sick one day at work since.
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    At times I couldn't tell if I was genuinely tired due to the pregnancy or just milking it. But now that I regained my energy I see I truly was experiencing first trimester fatigue. I felt guilty all the time like I was being a terrible wife because I couldn't do anything around the house but then again you just gotta listen to your body I guess.
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    DH was mad at me last night because I slept in the other room. He had seriously gag-inducing gas and I know from experience our room was just going to fill up all night since we don't have a fan and it's too cold to open the window. He just doesn't get how sensitive I am to smells right now!
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    Right! Im like you guys dont even understand. Like I WISH I had more energy. Im tired of being tired ALL the time. Especially because I know I have things I need to be getting done. Being nauseous and my emotions being all over the place is definitely not my idea of a good time!
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    I realized exactly how out of tune my guy was with the whole thing the other night. He's been a trooper, but he'll piss me off occasionally saying it can't be THAT bad. I'm working and he has a 2 year old that lives with us every other week and I handle everything almost like I did before except my treasured wine is gone. I should preface this with the fact that I have to have a C Section for medical reasons. Well, the other night he didn't understand why I wanted to take a power nap after work. My hormones kicked in and I got upset about everything that's happening to my body and he said that "it's not like you even have to do the whole thing! You don't even have to go into labor!" OMG. I googled photos of C Sections and he doesn't make comments anymore.
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    I tell them straight up, I can and will use this "excuse" whenever the heck I want to because it's not an excuse it's real and it's exhausting. And until they feel it themselves to keep quiet. I'm kinda bitchy now that I'm pregnant lol.
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    I feel bad because I'm bowing up on my 7 yr old he and I normally do everything together but lately I can't handle it , hubby is kinda trying to just mediate n mellow me out it makes me feel worst to know that he now has to pick up my slack n I get into an even worse mood....I'm so happy to have my bump gals !!!!!! Ahh venting !!!! I'm being such a bitch at home !!!!! I hope the second trimester is better !





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    Kitta+1 said:

    Yes, the less experience they've had the more advice they'll spout, lol.  I'm lucky in that all my coworkers are pretty nice about it, my clients practically fawn over me, and my fiancee dotes on me and lets me do whatever I want while picking up all the housework, cooking, errands, etc.   I almost feel guilty how good I have it, lol.


    The only things that have really pissed me off was one lady that keeps telling me that my dogs will 'turn into vicious brutes and murder the baby' and that I have to get rid of them.  Also, the cats will steal the baby's soul and the rats are unhygienic.  The cats go outside at night (their choosing not mine), my rats are cleaner than she is, and my dogs have thus far been pretty good.  I will deal with my fur babies as I see fit - I'm not tossing loyal family members out on their tails before they have even done anything wrong!

    That, and those telling me that I'm 'wrong' about not wanting pain meds and that I'll be calling for them once labor starts no matter what.  It doesn't matter that I have sensitivities to narcotics and some other meds, doesn't matter that plenty of women have survived an unmedicated birthing before me ... that one is usually from other women that have had the epi.  I always want to make a snippy remark
    (I've gotten downright snarky when I'm irritated, lol), but in the end it doesn't really matter so I just walk away.  

    Anyone tried to tell me my pregnancy is not 'that bad' though would end up with their head in the toilet as I tell them, "oh, you're not drowning that much," lol.  Pregnancy is all or nothing - and we really do give all of ourselves to it!  You ladies have enough on your plates without everyone else trying to dictate your pregnancy!
    My father in law is constantly saying to get rid of our cats and now he's using the baby as an excuse because the baby is going to be allergic to the cats. Not happening. I'm not allergic to the cats, my husband only is only slightly allergic but he survives. There's no for sure reason the baby will be allergic.
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    Wigglesx2 said:

    Kitta+1 said:

    Yes, the less experience they've had the more advice they'll spout, lol.  I'm lucky in that all my coworkers are pretty nice about it, my clients practically fawn over me, and my fiancee dotes on me and lets me do whatever I want while picking up all the housework, cooking, errands, etc.   I almost feel guilty how good I have it, lol.


    The only things that have really pissed me off was one lady that keeps telling me that my dogs will 'turn into vicious brutes and murder the baby' and that I have to get rid of them.  Also, the cats will steal the baby's soul and the rats are unhygienic.  The cats go outside at night (their choosing not mine), my rats are cleaner than she is, and my dogs have thus far been pretty good.  I will deal with my fur babies as I see fit - I'm not tossing loyal family members out on their tails before they have even done anything wrong!

    That, and those telling me that I'm 'wrong' about not wanting pain meds and that I'll be calling for them once labor starts no matter what.  It doesn't matter that I have sensitivities to narcotics and some other meds, doesn't matter that plenty of women have survived an unmedicated birthing before me ... that one is usually from other women that have had the epi.  I always want to make a snippy remark
    (I've gotten downright snarky when I'm irritated, lol), but in the end it doesn't really matter so I just walk away.  

    Anyone tried to tell me my pregnancy is not 'that bad' though would end up with their head in the toilet as I tell them, "oh, you're not drowning that much," lol.  Pregnancy is all or nothing - and we really do give all of ourselves to it!  You ladies have enough on your plates without everyone else trying to dictate your pregnancy!
    My father in law is constantly saying to get rid of our cats and now he's using the baby as an excuse because the baby is going to be allergic to the cats. Not happening. I'm not allergic to the cats, my husband only is only slightly allergic but he survives. There's no for sure reason the baby will be allergic.
    Studies show that babies in a home with pets are less likely to develop allergies. Tell him that.
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    MerVerMerVer member
    edited March 2015
    I know I feel bad because we have a roommate right now who happens to be my husband's best friend and his smell can be repulsive to me at times. When I say something I feel like they don't understand why I'm being so picky but it's seriously so strong! His job requires him to chop onions and garlic in a small kitchen for sometimes hours for a company that distributes salsa! I just so happen to be completely disgusted and nauseated by garlic and onions! Haha so when I make a fuss I feel bad because they look at me like I'm being dramatic but smells are crazy strong!!!
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    Mine is irritated I spend half my time on the couch. But holy after a few hours of doing shit around the house I want to curl up and sleep. I do things in shifts so I get it done slowly but at least I'm getting it done -.-!
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    akfbookwormakfbookworm member
    edited March 2015
    Kitta+1 said:

    Yes, the less experience they've had the more advice they'll spout, lol.  I'm lucky in that all my coworkers are pretty nice about it, my clients practically fawn over me, and my fiancee dotes on me and lets me do whatever I want while picking up all the housework, cooking, errands, etc.   I almost feel guilty how good I have it, lol.


    The only things that have really pissed me off was one lady that keeps telling me that my dogs will 'turn into vicious brutes and murder the baby' and that I have to get rid of them.  Also, the cats will steal the baby's soul and the rats are unhygienic.  The cats go outside at night (their choosing not mine), my rats are cleaner than she is, and my dogs have thus far been pretty good.  I will deal with my fur babies as I see fit - I'm not tossing loyal family members out on their tails before they have even done anything wrong!

    That, and those telling me that I'm 'wrong' about not wanting pain meds and that I'll be calling for them once labor starts no matter what.  It doesn't matter that I have sensitivities to narcotics and some other meds, doesn't matter that plenty of women have survived an unmedicated birthing before me ... that one is usually from other women that have had the epi.  I always want to make a snippy remark
    (I've gotten downright snarky when I'm irritated, lol), but in the end it doesn't really matter so I just walk away.  

    Anyone tried to tell me my pregnancy is not 'that bad' though would end up with their head in the toilet as I tell them, "oh, you're not drowning that much," lol.  Pregnancy is all or nothing - and we really do give all of ourselves to it!  You ladies have enough on your plates without everyone else trying to dictate your pregnancy!
    I love your all or nothing quote! I feel so bad about being tired all the time, thankfully my hubby is good about picking up the slack with complaining. I did threaten to stab my BIL (I was in the kitchen cooking) when he said he can see I'm getting a baby belly. 10 weeks pregnant it's not the baby it's bloat from the junk food I've been eating since I've been too tired to cook.
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    My boyfriend had the nerve to tell me "You better not let your pregnancy get in the way of everythingg fun. You're only pregnant, you're not ill." I was fumingggg. Or when they try to tell you that their day was harder than yours. We do everything that you do PLUS grow a human! 

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    First words out of my hubby's mouth was 'You better not become a nun!' Like... we never knew if his sperm were good due to various things and I had (and still have) a vaginal issue that might impact child baring so the fact we were pregnant was a big fantastic deal and those were the first words out of his mouth?

    He now admits those words were rather stupid and he was just expressing a fear incorrectly or at least in a way that felt harmful or rude to me. It was just not nice to hear when only 30 minutes before I had discovered I was going to be giving up wine for a while. A long while.

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    My best friend is the same way!! I wasn't interested in being black out drunk before, much less now. It sucks but it feels like I'm outgrowing her.
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