My Aunt is hosting a baby shower for myself and my husband at our home (which we want) however my Mother is creating drama surrounding this. She wanted to throw me a shower but currently is having financial problems (which my Aunt has been forced to loan her money to deal with) and therefore can't host it. My Aunt generously offered to host/ pay for our shower but we wanted to allow my Mom to be involved, not exclude her. We had a planning get together the other night and it turned into a nightmare! I gave them all my ideas (which my aunt and husband loved) and asked for their ideas. My mom spent the entire time trying to one up my ideas. Then when my husband brought up the budget my mother flips out and yells at us saying that he is insinuating that we want her to dish out money, which was not at all the case (she has no money to dish out and we know this).My husband is a planner and is very focused on finances so he was simply trying to get an idea of the budget so we wouldn't needlessly spend. I was ready to say "Forget the shower" at that point. I was in tears. Later my Mom came back and was quiet so we could finished the meeting so that all ideas were out there and in the end we all seemed to agree. Then she sent me an email the next day apologizing an saying how excited she is to help with the shower in any way she can. I SO wish that was the end of the story. Today I called her to confirm our shopping list and what I could go get this week and she brings up the money thing again. She says she thinks my husband is just out to spend my aunt's money because we want to order (inexpensive) invitations rather than make them ourselves. (We made our own wedding invitations and I would never do that again.) So once again I am here crying at the situation and she is mad at me and my husband. Not sure what to do at this point. (Note to self: My mother is planning to somehow throw herself a "Grandma party" because she was upset that our shower wouldn't allow her to be the center of attention.) My question is, in light of what you just read, do you think having the shower is even worth the aggravation?How can I get my mother to stop this immature behavior since there is no way she can't be involved?