My problem is people saying that as a working mom I'm letting someone else raise my kids.
I'm not. They're in care/they're in school, but rest assured I'm raising my children. Trust me if there was a problem I'd be the person sought, not the day care teacher.
I'm not writing this to start a debate or fight with SAHMs. I think SAHMs are great. I love them and respect what they do. My mom was one, but for my husband and our marriage and children it is our choice to have a 2 parent working home. As such, be careful when posting about choices to work or SAH. Neither side needs to be taken, just each opinion respected. We are ALL doing our best for our families as we see fit.
Re: I have a problem
Look ladies, I'm super hormonal today and annoyed, so apologize in advance. That just gets me so riled up. My other favorite is someone who bonded BETTER with baby because they didn't have an epi or breastfed. I just don't go around in life saying those things to people and we wonder why PPD and depression is so prevelant. We are never enough no matter what we do.
George (3)
bpv101283 - I'm SO with you!
I had 2 C-sections. 1 urgent, 1 scheduled. I didn't get to hold older dd til she was 5 hours old. Because she needed the care. Not because I didn't want to... well actually I needed the care too. But I got to hold 2nd dd within minutes. I'm bonded with both my girls. I breastfed as long as I could but not as long as others, but you know I did the best I could for both.
I've had 2 friends whose babies didn't latch because of tongue ties and they wore themselves out pumping and feeding and it got in the way of their enjoying being a new mom. We need to do what is right for us as moms because when we do that baby will be happy too. They pick up on stress and being a new mom, whether first or third time, it's still a time of hormones, stress, worry and love.
My SIL is the biggest offender with her comments. Before she had her baby she was going on that in African culture (keep in mind she's as white as me!) it's not regarded as childbirth unless you do it drug free and vaginally. All I said was - I didn't know how I was a mother of 2 in that case. It just blows from there
My in-laws have him three days a week, daycare two days.
To be perfectly honest - I get jealous of my in-laws. DS loves them, they get to go to the museum, play outside and basically get him for his best hours of the day. During the week we scramble around to get ready in the morning, pick him up after work, make dinner and wind down at night. I live for nighttime snuggles and we are super greedy with our time on the weekends.
No idea what my point is here, but end of the day I'm really grateful that he's developing a wonderful relationship with his grandparents (I didn't have that) and they really do stick to our "rules" which allows me to still feel like we're in control of how he's being raised when we're not physically there.
The way I see it, with most things related to childrearing, there isn't a right or wrong answer as long as it's what's best for your family.
My mom and dad both worked when my siblings and I were young. My parents are the ones who raised us. There is no question about that. And I loved the time my brother, sister and I had to bond in the couple hours they were babysitting me before our parents got home. Personally, I plan on staying home and I take a lot of shit for that choice too. People just want something to bitch about.
...something like that usually works :-)