September 2015 Moms

Someone on S15 got their wish...

MadisonpennyMadisonpenny member
edited March 2015 in September 2015 Moms
It seems that overnight someone's wish was granted. Congratulations, Nuttmegger2 was banned. 
I think it's very unfortunate, you just lost a valuable member of this board. Someone who may not have always agreed with everyone and their opinions but who also had a wealth of information, experience and advice and shared it. 
Whoever did this must be incredibly proud sitting behind their screen. Do you have enough balls to admit who you are? What Nutt did to cause you to hit that button one more time? 
Your so quick to react but how many times has it been said that 1-Tone can be hard when your just reading the words 2- Disagreeing=\= Mean, Negative or Rude. 3- This board is what you put in and take from it. If you give support, you get support.  She supported, but clearly some of you don't see it that way. 4- The report button is not a 'dislike' button.
We're not all going to agree on everything all the time, can you imagine how boring that would be if we did? But it seems at least one person here has that objective. 


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Re: Someone on S15 got their wish...

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  • How in the world did she get band?? The drama is long over?! Ugh. Like I said before just because someone has a different opinion than you doesn't mean they're being rude or mean. And it's very easy to take things out of context because we're just seeing words on a screen that we may interpret any way we feel. Come on ladies we're better than this!
  • :( I like nuttmegger2 >:-(
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  • Rhill30 said:

    That's what I though too @lovelee85. Maybe we can petition to get her back! Seriously I'm starting to know everyone by screen names here and honestly you guys are really becoming my "gang"

    I said that in another thread! I feel like I'm getting to know people and their personalities, and I like it! September15 is great and we have a long way to go...I don't know if anyone saw my recent Lyme post, but I'm definitely going to need all the opinions and support that I can get!!!
  • LoveLee85 said:

    I don't know if anyone saw my recent Lyme post, but I'm definitely going to need all the opinions and support that I can get!!!

    I haven't :( link me??
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    That sucks she was banned! I am not one to say she was my favorite person here. I have seen her post great advice here. I dont think she should have been banned, warned yes but banned no, i would even be apart of that petition if we could do one.
    I have a question if you can only get kicked off to TOU vio and people keep reporting her so much wont the people banning her research why and don't they determine if it's a TOU?
    I had seen on another board she called most here on S15 F*cking stupid and she only stayed here in this group to help fix the stupid. That is more than an opinion. I have been PM several times about how mad people were over that so maybe thats why people kept reporting her. Again she wasnt my favorite but i didnt see reason for her to be banned completely. I have seen someone come back under another email after being banned
  • Obviously she wasn't my favorite person here as I did report her on one occasion because I felt that she was just instigating drama. However, the bump will look into the post that was reported and if they don't think it's a policy violation I'm sure they wouldn't do anything.
    As a side note- her join date was Feb 25th and she seemed pretty familiar with the bump to have only been here a short time. My guess is this isn't the first time she's been banned.
  • I usually just pass over these posts but feel inclined to say something. I personally have never had any interaction with nutmegger but I have seen some of her posts. I've seen mean things said about s15 on other boards by her BUT I have also seen her giving good advice to people. The things said on the other board I don't take personally because they aren't about me and I think that the reporting is getting out of control. I have seen my fair share of comments that I thought were out of line by different people, but I just pass them by and ignore it. You won't agree with everyone so rather than getting worked up and pushing the report button just move along and live your life.
  • What do the TOU trigger - happy people do in real life situations at work or in social settings, etc? If your boss or team member totally thinks that your project you are working on just isn't cutting it and tells you so, what kind of button do you push then? If you are at a store and hear a conversation between two women, and one of them says something that "offends" you, where is the button for that? The Internet, man. A breeding ground for all sorts of bravery. I'm not even taking a side here. No matter who it was, I just cannot get why adults behind screens get so easily, well, pouty, because Susie isn't saying things like they were written in a preschool book. Normally I stay out of this kind of stuff. I just truly want to know how the real world is handled by certain people because this button does not exist there.
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  • I can't figure this out.  Suddenly in the last week/10 days I'm reading posts about the board being mean and nasty and yet I haven't seen it.  Where are the mean and nasty posts?  Is it that I'm avoiding them by not reading anything that has FTM on it?  What is the story? 

    And I've seen nutmegger's posts on the threads I read/partook in - I didn't see anything untoward there.  Can some please enlighten me as to where the mean and nasty is? 

  • Obviously she wasn't my favorite person here as I did report her on one occasion because I felt that she was just instigating drama. However, the bump will look into the post that was reported and if they don't think it's a policy violation I'm sure they wouldn't do anything.
    As a side note- her join date was Feb 25th and she seemed pretty familiar with the bump to have only been here a short time. My guess is this isn't the first time she's been banned.

    It's possible that after the whole with TB being "revamped" a month or so ago (for those of you FTM that are here and weren't part of the TB before January, TB was a lot different than it is now), she requested her prior histories to be deleted as they contained pictures or information of her family.  Wanting to participate again, it's possible she signed up under a different screen name. 
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  • edited March 2015
    joco said:

    I can't figure this out.  Suddenly in the last week/10 days I'm reading posts about the board being mean and nasty and yet I haven't seen it.  Where are the mean and nasty posts?  Is it that I'm avoiding them by not reading anything that has FTM on it?  What is the story? 

    And I've seen nutmegger's posts on the threads I read/partook in - I didn't see anything untoward there.  Can some please enlighten me as to where the mean and nasty is? 


    It all get's deleted by admins because it keeps getting reported
  • I've said it on another post, and I'll say it here. I don't think the issue is with disagreeing with people in any way shape or form. There are a few people, nuttmegger included, that have been outright nasty. Berating people for being "stupid" or repeatedly calling people out for something that she feels is stupid or silly or irrelevant was going overboard. I did not report her because her attacks were not aimed at me and therefore not so much my business, but she definitely did violate some rules there.

    That being said, I do think it is sad that she is gone because aside from the nastiness she did sometimes give excellent advice. And I think we probably haven't seen the last of her. I agree with another poster that this likely wasn't her first rodeo, which says to me that this has been a problem before... and if it's happened before, all signs point to it being her problem. I doubt it was just one person that reported her.

    So- maybe now we can get some peace on this board? I realize we're all hormonal, but let's move on and be friends again please. Before a few days ago this place was awesome.


    :)>-
  • joco said:

    I can't figure this out.  Suddenly in the last week/10 days I'm reading posts about the board being mean and nasty and yet I haven't seen it.  Where are the mean and nasty posts?  Is it that I'm avoiding them by not reading anything that has FTM on it?  What is the story? 

    And I've seen nutmegger's posts on the threads I read/partook in - I didn't see anything untoward there.  Can some please enlighten me as to where the mean and nasty is? 


    It all get's deleted by admins because it keeps getting reported

    Ohhhh...I only ever saw one questionable exchange! I was curious also.
  • Why would she be banned if she didn't violate TOU? Does TB not review the reports and just send out warnings and bans for no reason?

    In my honest opinion tho, I couldn't care less if someone has a difference in opinion from me, if I go on a public forum and ask for people's opinions I expect to get opinions I might not like. But with that said, to run to another board and talk shit about this board is pretty lame in my opinion. If you don't like here don't come here. Plain and simple.
  • Cupcakequeen1000 - I just didn't know.  Am I wrong in saying there's been an uptick in complaints? 
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  • melewen said:


    Oh and the "mean girls" do report :) a friend of mine and I have both been the object of a heavy report finger

    A post of mine was reported!! I was like, whaaaaaattttt?? Literally said out loud, "someone must be bored"
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  • I have not posted many threads on here I think I have posted one or two. I have commented on a lot of post though. One of the post I posted (the baby shower post) I knew everyone had there own opinions on the subject so I didn't go off when people started to get a little harsh. Even though I had stated many times I wasn't asking about having one I am having one my family is throwing it and my friends are already asking what we need and want I was simply asking should I have another small one with just one side of the family or since we have a nice big home now should we have a bigger one. But I was told repeatedly that was gift grabby and tacky and a bunch of other things to have another one which again was not what I was asking. I felt hurt by some things that were said and felt like I needed to defend myself (others were very nice) but instead of getting all crazy about it I just let it go I didn't fight or report. Other people had opinions and they expressed them even though it was not what I asked by even starting something about a baby shower I knew it would happen so I just read what people had to say (cried a little since I'm super hormonal and take everything way to personally) and moved one and decided to do whatever I want because in the end people can give you their opinions but your going to do whatever you want.
    Anyway this was basically my experience with posting something and people being very opinionated about the subject and hurting my feelings but me just moving on because that's what you do...or at least I thought it was.
  • twinamato said:

    LoveLee85 said:

    I don't know if anyone saw my recent Lyme post, but I'm definitely going to need all the opinions and support that I can get!!!

    I haven't :( link me??
    I embarrassingly don't know how to do that on here?! I'm on my iPhone. I posted it at midnight-ish last night so it's already on page 2 today. Just says 'Lyme Disease..'
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  • What do the TOU trigger - happy people do in real life situations at work or in social settings, etc? If your boss or team member totally thinks that your project you are working on just isn't cutting it and tells you so, what kind of button do you push then? If you are at a store and hear a conversation between two women, and one of them says something that "offends" you, where is the button for that? The Internet, man. A breeding ground for all sorts of bravery. I'm not even taking a side here. No matter who it was, I just cannot get why adults behind screens get so easily, well, pouty, because Susie isn't saying things like they were written in a preschool book. Normally I stay out of this kind of stuff. I just truly want to know how the real world is handled by certain people because this button does not exist there.


    I haven't experienced things people on here have been fighting about in real life thankfully lol and i highly doubt 98% of the "mean things " would be said to someones face in real life. Most adults can be mature about disagreements and opinions in real life. Thats the benefits in hiding behind a computer screen and people getting to hit the TOU for it but in reality its the admins decision. I am not happy she has been banned but I would think it's not hard to skip a board that makes you feel inclined to personally insult someone
  • melewen said:

    I did not report her because I felt it would only start a personal war BUT she definitely violated TOU over and over. Personal attacks especially.. And totally unnecessary! I too have seen the "other board" where she (and some others to be fair) just talk sh*t about us constantly. If you really like TB, don't sh*t where you eat, in my opinion.

    I have to thank her, though, because I have made several close relationships with women who PM'd me to talk about how rude and horrible she was! Not DISAGREEING, no one is saying they cared about that.. But being an outright slovenly jerk about it

    Oh and the "mean girls" do report :) a friend of mine and I have both been the object of a heavy report finger

    The "other board" has nothing to do with this, in my opinion. Also, personal attacks would be considered name calling. Did she call you nasty names or call you (not your ideas) stupid? From what I had seen, I don't think so. I'm going throw this out there: this place does, in fact, exist for support. That's support for all kinds, including the people who think the board was better the way it used to be. It is unfortunate that this keeps happening because at the very top of every community there is a thread that says "We Are Making Community Better for EVERYONE".
  • irenejeanirenejean member
    edited March 2015
    It's possible that someone on the other board reported. I also saw what was written there, and it seemed like a personal attack on a specific group of people, myself included, to me. But she was helpful at times, and it's too bad she was banned. I also don't think it's the end of the world, I joined back in January, a bunch of people were banned a while ago, and some of them are back now. 
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  • adtaylor2015adtaylor2015 member
    edited March 2015
    I think the other board people are talking about was a different month bump club, not a different board all together. I may be wrong but I read some pretty harsh things about S15 on one. I believe the thread was deleted.
  • edited March 2015
    joco said:

    Cupcakequeen1000 - I just didn't know.  Am I wrong in saying there's been an uptick in complaints? 


    I dont know, i wouldn't say your wrong but i honestly dont know how many complaints there have been i have only noticed a couple people that other's are complaining about. i have also seen the other side where certain people get defensive if you dont agree but again i have only seen a little of that and just ignore it
  • edited March 2015
    I don't know who that person was but the sad part here is we are a bunch of pregnant, opinionated women. I think if there's malicious nasty people here that do more harm in the overall moral of the entire community than good, maybe this isn't the place for them to spew toxic garbage. Theres women here of all sorts of ages and backgrounds. Degrading other people who might not be as educated is wrong. This should be a safe place to share experiences, fears and maybe advice/piece of mind on topics in between doctor visits and exams. It should be about support.
    Growing up would be a good first step.
    Maybe it was deserved, maybe it wasn't, but the people in charge obviously thought so.
    Hopefully lesson is learned and as momma always said "if you don't have anything nice to say........"
  • I saw that last night. I'm disappointed and to be honest pissed off. There's not a lot more I can say about that if I don't want to get banned myself so I'm going to have to leave it at that.
  • I will miss her. I'll be banned in no time since my tone isnt super giddy crunchy uniquely natural ultra happy mommy cheerleader. Whatevs.
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  • I saw that last night. I'm disappointed and to be honest pissed off. There's not a lot more I can say about that if I don't want to get banned myself so I'm going to have to leave it at that.


    Quite pitiful when you can't even express an opinion on how you feel, isn't it?
  • I'm sorry to hear that she was banned. As I tried to say on my thread, I was in no way trying to target anyone or pick out anything other than the overall atmosphere we had begun to create on our board. It's unfortunate to hear some of the things that were evidently being said via other boards, because that certainly does shatter the idea of disagreement not being personal or negative, but that really just is what it is. I in no way reported anyone or advocated for it, so I'm sorry to hear that it happened. In the past two or three days I haven't really been participating, because I did want to see if we could change, and it was honestly seeming as though we had. The threads I was seeing were far and wide positive and supportive (even in disagreement, which truly never was the issue for anyone), and I was seeing posts that Nuttmegger was making that were very helpful and good spirited. People were responding as such and not pigeon-holing her into some "mean girl" role. There was at one point a post, @madisonpenny I think?, about not starting board wars, so I guess it wouldn't be incredibly surprising if she was truly out there calling people over here "fucking stupid," and they found out about it. Like it was said, if you're talking about people elsewhere, they'll find out, and they'll defend themselves. I don't know what actually happened, but it is unfortunate that it did.

    (By the way, it really seems to me that you can come back from a ban. I've seen many comments about banned posters saying "I hope she wasn't banned again," or "oh no, is she gone again?" which certainly makes it sound like it's possible to return.)
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