September 2015 Moms

Happy Doctors Appointment! (and financial worries...)

So I am 11 weeks 1 day today and I just had my first doctors appointment! Previously I'd only had a meeting with a nurse and basic blood work. This is my second pregnancy, and I am very low risk. Today with the doppler a nurse found our little bugs heart beat tucked wayyyyyyy into my right side at 170 bpm. It was wonderful and almost had me crying. Then we got to meet our assigned doctor (it's a large practice) who, thank god, was AMAZING! He had great bedside manner and was not only supportive about me not wanting pitocin in during labor, but seemingly thrilled about the fact that I absolutely did not want any unnecessary surgeries, including a c-section and surgery for my chronic sciatica. He even managed to make my pap smear more comfortable then ever before. OH man! AND he was pro-doula (which is very important to me as a doula in training!)
Any way, my boyfriend was happy that I was happy and liked the doc as well. He was less then thrilled about the high heart rates association with female babies (lol)
On a less positive note I am concerned about making enough money once this little bug arrives. I don't really want to go back to work after 6 weeks because not only is breastfeeding extremely important to me, but I just don't trust infant daycare. Even the 'good ones'. I want my baby to have as much one on one bonding time with ME and DADDY as possible. Not sitting in a bouncy seat surrounded by strangers. Idk, am i being ridiculous? with stuff like THIS: https://www.mlive.com/news/grand-rapids/index.ssf/2015/02/3-month-old_boy_died_at_kentwo.html happening i just... ugh. 
Any way, I don't make a lot of money as it is, but it is still crucial to our finances as far as I can tell. I just don't know what to do. Any advice ladies?

(p.s. i know this was lengthy. thank you for reading.)

TL;DR heard the heart rate for first time. 170bpm yey! wish I could work from home somehow after baby is born.
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Re: Happy Doctors Appointment! (and financial worries...)

  • WDDCHWDDCH member
    Oftentimes the cost of daycare isn't worth the income coming in for some families, after the childcare costs and gasoline, so the mom decides to stay home or work part-time. Some just work for the insurance but almost all of the actual income goes toward childcare, I realize that insurance is a big concern is daddy's job isn't providing it. Can you work part-time (like when daddy would be home with baby) or from home? Or does your man want to be a SAHD?

    If there is a will, there is a way. You have to weigh what is most important to you and then find a way to make it work. Good luck!

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  • First off, congrats on all the baby excitement! I'm glad you love your doctor. When it comes to finances, I think most of us are strapped and nervous. Just try to save and work as long as you can, and then spend as much time with baby as you can, especially if the cost of daycare is the same as your paycheck, why even work? It will work out, just plan and prepare. You can even do childcare out of your home so that you can stay home longer! Congrats!
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  • Daddy is a painter (like apartments and houses, both interior and exterior) and he brings in the primary income for the household. We are set on insurance regardless of either of our jobs, and our family qualifies for an infant headstart program that would bring our childcare costs down to about $100 a week. I only make a little over $200 a week right now however, so I'm not so sure the cost is truly worth it in the long haul.... particularly when you count in the possibility of the cost of formula if pumping doesnt work out (which i just couldn't with my daughter, even though I had no issues with supply or regular feedings) .
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  • I've been a Sahm since I was 3 months pregnant with my first, over 4 years ago. My Dh makes only about $38,000 a year and we get by just fine. There are always unnecessary bills you can cut out. Internet, tv, phone, use the car less, cloth diaper, cloth wipes, shop the sales and start couponing. If it's important enough to you, make it happen. :)
  • There are some great at home ways to make income. You just need to be pretty passionate about the process. I have several women I know who make easy money at a skin care company called Nerium. There is also stuff like Arbonne? I don't know it's a rough situation. I'm also very nervous because I can't do my job anymore after about mid july. Maybe look into temp jobs from home. Anyway good luck!
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    Thank you for the encouragement! I really hope so. Luckily my bf is supportive of me staying home. currently we dont have cable, and we for sure shop sales. I could probably make our phone bill cost less if I could get the bf to sacrifice lol. cloth wipes or at least homemade wipes I can do, but i have read mixed things on cloth diapering and the true amount of money saved. Would love some more opinions though. @kelbel90
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  • I havn't really though about that, but that would make sense! I am currently an assistant teacher at a preschool, which requires me to have a certain amount of training hours every year in early childhood development. I have a friend who is pregnant atm (a month ahead of me) who I could at least ask... although idk that she wants to go back to work either :/
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