Hi- I was on the pg after 35 board before this. I am very sorry to all of you for your losses. I had a miscarriage 3 years ago and was really hopeful that would be my only one. I went for my first ultrasound today at 9 weeks 3 days and dr. could not hear a heartbeat. Sent me to the hospital and they confirmed no heartbeat.
I was told I will have to have a D&C (bled terribly with 1st early miscarriage). I couldn't make any decisions and couldn't give up hope that maybe they just couldn't find the heartbeat yet. Dr. told me baby measured 8 weeks. I read that missed miscarriages only make up for 1% of miscarriages.
I asked her if she saw movement and she said no and that she is certain it is not a viable pregnancy.
After 2 vaginal ultrasounds, I guess I need to accept the doctors are right, and go for the D&C? She said I could wait until Monday for another ultrasound but again she is sure of her decision. So confused.
Any advice, suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you and take care~
So very sorry that you are going through this. I also experienced a loss 3 years ago but mine was to ectopic. I was very uncertain and scared that there was a mistake so I understand your fears. My Dr was much less nice and refused another u/s and I received the mtx shot. I hope they see a heartbeat next week. Of they don't I'm so sorry and I'm here for you. Please update. Your I'm my prayers that all is well.
I haven't intro'ed yet (and not sure if I will... it might be too hard to stick around here) but just wanted to say that I had the exact same experience as you, word-of-word (except this is my first m/c)-- also happened yesterday, also supposed to be 9 weeks and change, also measured 8 weeks, also no heartbeat, also had loads of doubt and questioning. I basically begged the doctor to express some morsel of uncertainty, to give me some hope. But in the end I moved forward with the D&C, same day. I just wanted it to be over. I don't really have any suggestions or words of wisdom because this is all very baffling to me as well. Maybe an extra U/S would help get you closure, and maybe it would just prolong the inevitable.
So sorry for what you are going through. Im also over from pg after 35. I had my ultrasound Sunday, also missed miscarriage but 8 weeks rather than 9. I did ask for another ultrasound but had the same result in the end and a miserable week until the d and c on Friday. Do whatever feels right for you. Best wishes
Thank you both so much. I am so very sorry for your losses.
I basically begged the doctor too for a hint of uncertainty, but none at all in either doctor.
Rae- I am sorry your doctor was that way, but he/she must have been 110% sure, as I'm sure my doctor was.
It is so hard to accept.
I changed my mind and wanted the d&c ASAP but they weren't able to confirm today. Now I am spent waiting this way through the weekend. Feels like I'm in hell. As I know you both know too well. I hope you are all finding some clarity now and peace and feeling a lot better.
Thank you again for the support...and the prayers!
So sorry for what you are going through. I'm like you I held on to every inch of hope and rightly you should because that's what a mother does for their child. Get all the confirmation you need. Hoping the best for you.
TCann thank you so much. Hopefully the dr. can see me tomorrow. I am so very sorry for you loss. I hope each day you are finding more peace and clarity. Take good care of yourself.
Thank you expat so much and everyone. Dr. finally called. She is having me to to hospital at 3:00 for an evening d and c. I am a nervous wreck of course. She assured me they do everything to prevent excessive bleeding. They will give me twilight through IV and a local. I am still so nauseous. I just need to this to be over. I am not longer going to request a 3rd ultrasound because if the 2 top doctors at the hospital were 100% certain of no heartbeat, why prolong the misery.
Thank you all so much. I hope and pray I am okay enough tomorrow to update on here with how it went.
Thank you all so very much. Yes, better with time. These dreary cold winter days will turn into springtime..and I hope we are all feeling so much better soon.
Re: Very bad news today at first ultrasound. Missed miscarriage?
Good luck and I'm sorry for your loss