Pain after sex?

swizzlefish

It started recently about two or three weeks back, i noticed that the insides of my vagina literally feels like it has taken a pounding. Sorry for graphic details lol. Im not sure if it has to do with vericose veins down there that has caused my vagina to swell or what. Im a little concerned, dont know how to approach my doctor on rhe matter. This is my first pregnancy, i am STD free and 34 weeks along tomorrow.
Thankyou for any input and anyone who can relate!

urani

swizzlefish said:

It started recently about two or three weeks back, i noticed that the insides of my vagina literally feels like it has taken a pounding. Sorry for graphic details lol. Im not sure if it has to do with vericose veins down there that has caused my vagina to swell or what. Im a little concerned, dont know how to approach my doctor on rhe matter. This is my first pregnancy, i am STD free and 34 weeks along tomorrow. Thankyou for any input and anyone who can relate!

Lol, thanks for sharing your STD status

ashleyrh661

Um. If you don't feel comfortable asking your doctor about this you shouldn't be having a kid. Seriously. Things are going to get really uncomfortable at the birth when a million people look at your lady parts.

Ashlee692

swizzlefish said:

It started recently about two or three weeks back, i noticed that the insides of my vagina literally feels like it has taken a pounding. Sorry for graphic details lol. Im not sure if it has to do with vericose veins down there that has caused my vagina to swell or what. Im a little concerned, dont know how to approach my doctor on rhe matter. This is my first pregnancy, i am STD free and 34 weeks along tomorrow.
Thankyou for any input and anyone who can relate!

So I am no doctor, but I have had this same issue. It actually started to hurt around the fourth month of pregnancy for me and still does. My fiancé and I actually asked the doctor together as to why it would be that painful to have sex and she said it was because of increased blood flow! One of the many joys of pregnancy I guess, at least we only have 5-6 weeks left!

cinderella105

cinderella105

Don't know if my first gif worked but this post is so ridiculous it needs MOAR GIFS.

urani

cinderella105

lib1974

pearsforpoops said:

Well OP if you hadn't clarified that you're STD-free, I still never would have assumed you have an STD. Let me try to explain why.

YOU ARE 34 WEEKS PREGNANT. You have a fucking squash or kumquat or whateverthefuck fruit living inside you. It makes sense that when you also shove a penis in there (hopefully repeatedly...heh) you may have some soreness.

Pro tip: if your vagina hurts after having sex, and you don't enjoy that, stop having sex.

BOOM. Doctored.

Masterful. Also now that i have NOTHING TO DO BUT LAY HERE in the hospital I have all the time in the world to bump. Need to be not so busy anymore somehow......

deeohgee

Maybe you SO has a huge dick

happybabe123

WTF OP. You can tell a shit load of Internet strangers but you can't ask your Dr.?!?!

Your Dr. is paid to examine vaginas all day long. I'm sure they've heard and seen it all.

So be a grown ass adult and ask.

Whitfry

Sex. Ur doin' it wrong.

finallyourturn2

Yeah I have the same problem and I just took a vacation from sex...BOOM...problem solved. Problem solving skills are highly valued in the 21st century.

mrsburks=0429

I know exactly how you're feeling. I've definitely been through that phase already. You don't have to stop having sex. You want to have sex because it will help when you finally go into labor. The doctor I see suggested that if or when it hurts after sex use a heated rag (not too hot), take a hot bath or shower or soak it Epsom salt when u take a bath to relieve pain. I've also been told that it would probably be best if you took control during sex, like being on top. All of these suggestions worked for me. You should try them if not one.

finallyourturn2

Sperm actually has some cervix ripening qualities. For most of us that will happen on its own, so if it hurts DONT DO IT! To keep doing it because it may help your cervix ripen in 6-9 weeks is just bad advice.

Akrystofiak

Did someone just suggest a hot bath to make your vag feel better after painful sex? Did I just read that? 

1. If sex hurts, do something different. 

2. Every piece of medical advice I've gotten (doctors, nurses, WTE) explicitly states that hot baths are a no-no. So WTF? 

StacyJYay

I wouldn't be concerned that something is "wrong," as sex towards the end of pregnancy is painful/uncomfortable for some if not many women.  There are all sorts of possible pressure/swelling/fluid retention/circulation issues going on down there and everywhere else, it seems.  Communicate this to your partner and bear in mind that he can take care of himself -- you should not feel pressured in any way.  OBs field these types of personal questions and concerns multiple times per day, so please don't be ashamed to run this by him/her.  OBs are used to it!   

ngolimento

Haha, now TB is deleting my posts too! I feel special.

youngbride3752

You all are so mean...I do agree you should talk to your Dr but I also understand that I too can be modest about what goes on behind closed doors...Dr or not...try different positions or being "gentle" sometimes there is nothing wrong other than your baby is laying on you funny...but talk to your Dr and just make sure everything is safe for sex, sometimes it's not...

emilyjustinger

It could be Vaginosis. It doesn't always start out with a smell or discharge, sometimes there aren't any signs except for maybe pain after sex. I would ask about it, better to get one embarrassing appointment out of the way than have to suffer through something that should be enjoyable (:

finallyourturn2

youngbride3752 said:

You all are so mean...I do agree you should talk to your Dr but I also understand that I too can be modest about what goes on behind closed doors...Dr or not...try different positions or being "gentle" sometimes there is nothing wrong other than your baby is laying on you funny...but talk to your Dr and just make sure everything is safe for sex, sometimes it's not...

Do you even know what the word all means? I wasn't mean, I was honest. I'm not gonna blow smoke up her ass. Common sense...if it hurts don't do it. If it hurts and you don't think it should talk to your doctor.

emsillick

There are so many 'shoulds' and rules on this forum about what constitutes a stupid question. We are meant to be supporting one another through potentially the most vulnerable and significant time in our lives. I do not understand the desire to make somebody feel stupid for turning to other women in the same boat as them for advice.

Some women are younger than others, some, like me, are pregnant for the first time and have no idea what's going on, and yes some are less medically informed than others but why not treat each other with a little kindness and humanity? You have no idea how poking fun or shaming someone could shatter their confidence in pregnancy and motherhood.

Anyway, yes you should definitely mention to your doctor for the peace of mind rather than anything else. Sex for me has been uncomfortable all the way through this pregnancy and it's true that you are a lot more tender and sensitive 'down there' for a number of reasons. If it is painful, I would personally suggest avoiding penetrative sex altogether until after the baby's born and you've recovered fully. There's no point in engaging in sex if you're not enjoying it so try and find some other ways of pleasuring one another instead. Not long to go and it's best to look after your body as much as you can right now!

Hope that helps good luck with your LO.

emsillick

Plus if you think the question is stupid then you're under no obligation to respond or even pay attention to it

finallyourturn2

emsillick said:

There are so many 'shoulds' and rules on this forum about what constitutes a stupid question. We are meant to be supporting one another through potentially the most vulnerable and significant time in our lives. I do not understand the desire to make somebody feel stupid for turning to other women in the same boat as them for advice.

Some women are younger than others, some, like me, are pregnant for the first time and have no idea what's going on, and yes some are less medically informed than others but why not treat each other with a little kindness and humanity? You have no idea how poking fun or shaming someone could shatter their confidence in pregnancy and motherhood.

Anyway, yes you should definitely mention to your doctor for the peace of mind rather than anything else. Sex for me has been uncomfortable all the way through this pregnancy and it's true that you are a lot more tender and sensitive 'down there' for a number of reasons. If it is painful, I would personally suggest avoiding penetrative sex altogether until after the baby's born and you've recovered fully. There's no point in engaging in sex if you're not enjoying it so try and find some other ways of pleasuring one another instead. Not long to go and it's best to look after your body as much as you can right now!

Hope that helps good luck with your LO.

Well aren't you cute. I hate that first time mom argument. News flash...I'm a first time mom. I research when I have a question. I go well beyond Google because I want to be well informed, but even a basic Google search would work. If there is a concern you ask a doctor. It is that simple.

jpavenski

I have had the same thing on & off for a couple of months. I did ask my doctor who said it was completely normal especially in the third trimester. I actually put an ice pack down there afterwards & that seems to help. You really shouldn't feel uncomfortable to ask your doctor, I'm sure they have seen everything!

jnowosielski

emsillick said:

There are so many 'shoulds' and rules on this forum about what constitutes a stupid question. We are meant to be supporting one another through potentially the most vulnerable and significant time in our lives. I do not understand the desire to make somebody feel stupid for turning to other women in the same boat as them for advice.

Some women are younger than others, some, like me, are pregnant for the first time and have no idea what's going on, and yes some are less medically informed than others but why not treat each other with a little kindness and humanity? You have no idea how poking fun or shaming someone could shatter their confidence in pregnancy and motherhood.

Anyway, yes you should definitely mention to your doctor for the peace of mind rather than anything else. Sex for me has been uncomfortable all the way through this pregnancy and it's true that you are a lot more tender and sensitive 'down there' for a number of reasons. If it is painful, I would personally suggest avoiding penetrative sex altogether until after the baby's born and you've recovered fully. There's no point in engaging in sex if you're not enjoying it so try and find some other ways of pleasuring one another instead. Not long to go and it's best to look after your body as much as you can right now!

Hope that helps good luck with your LO.

Oh I'm a FTM too. What happens when the baby wants to come out? The stork thing comes right? I can't possibly know since I've never done this before.

augustpetals

Before giving these wretched girls anything more to whine about... Because this is obviously not a place to ask questions, receive advice, or be informative... Because few of them have intelligent solutions to offer other than snark; instead they find it as a playground to play with each other.

So as a way to answer your question, in my experience, I have done some googling and research, and have seen some with wacky things like becoming allergic to your significant others sperm during pregnancy. So, when I had vaginal pain after sex, I asked my doctor the next visit I had with him. The problem... Yeast infection. That doesn't necessarily mean that is what you have, just a suggestion to put it there to ask the doc. Best of luck!

erwallace089

This is an advice forum actually. This is a place where where women can come and talk about what ails them during pregnancy. You do not have to answer all questions. You do not have to even read all questions. You can join at any time during pregnancy. You can be a regular or use this site sparingly.

erwallace089

If you don't believe in it why are you continuing to support it with your presence?

lisap0924

jennypm said:

erwallace089 said:

This is an advice forum actually. This is a place where where women can come and talk about what ails them during pregnancy. You do not have to answer all questions. You do not have to even read all questions. You can join at any time during pregnancy. You can be a regular or use this site sparingly.

***f*cking quote box fail***
 
And you also don't have to read all of the responses, if you don't like them. This was a community...emphasis on the 'was' part, but XO corporation decided to destroy that community. This is a place for XO to make money, plain and simple. 



Very strong emphasis on WAS!

Now it's a bunch of morons licking each other's wounds.
"Oh poor you! Your vagina hurts after sex"

Boo hoo! Well then stop fucking doing it. End of story.

Rainbows and unicorns is what they wanted. Now they have it.

erwallace089

But if it's not the way you want it any more and there is a Facebook group of old members why don't you go there. I just don't understand why you want to stay somewhere and continue to support TB by staying an active member.

Whitfry

lorindriel said:

erwallace089 said:

If you don't believe in it why are you continuing to support it with your presence?

Why do we care?

Ok miss plant, let me break this down for you.

Almost 9 months ago a community of women who would birth their children in March of 2015 started getting pregnant. They came to this forum over the course of the last NINE MONTHS and formed bonds, made connections, HELPED and SUPPORTED each other, gave advice, shared the ups and downs of life and loss. We laughed and cried together and we loved this placed housed on the Bump. Many of the women had been here for years, shared birth and loss stories, helped other struggle through trying to conceive, cluster feeding, marital difficulties, hard times, bad baby showers, and avoiding terrible name choices. Six years some women had been here helping each other.

Then the Bump aka XO Corp aka a company that while they may mildly care about our lives wasn't actually ingrained into the community and did not care about our daily symptoms and our losses decided they wanted a change. Because they didn't like us. Because we were deterring them from making more money and competing with new apps that, I can confirm, did not have near the traffic or community loyalty the bump had. Over the course of about six months to a year, they made a series of BUSINESS decisions that negatively impacted the community.

Then, recently, they set fire to it. They destroyed the foundation of our 9-month established support system. They got rid of a core group of people who have their time to work for free and labelled them as trolls and bad apples because they wanted clarification and questioned things they knew would hurt their community of moms and dads. They deleted whole forums, long histories of people's pain and loss and the memorials and outpouring of support and love to their angel babies. They deleted their most active forum and called it a "hacking" to calm us down. They fired all the hard working volunteers that kept their safe space for them thanklessly for years and replaced them with corporate drones. They didn't tell use to leave but they sure as hell booted a number of people out and showed us the door.

If you want to know why we stick around and are so bitter about it, that's why. Because we had an amazing group here with some lovely ladies I'm sad you'll never meet and they burnt it to the ground. I don't know any of these women now, you included, and most of them just come here on their phones to use us as their personal Doctor Google when they should be getting this information from their OB/Midwife nurse line, a doula, a good maternity book, or their moms. And if your OB or Midwife told you an app forum was an ok place to get medical advice I will eat my hat.

This used to be a community of women who shared their lives and now it's a haven for one-timer single question nonsense, where saying Aww and sugar coating life is emphasized. I'm not digging it. I don't want what from people in real life, why the eff would I go online to get it?

[ insert mic drop here ]

QFP

urani

erwallace089 said:

But if it's not the way you want it any more and there is a Facebook group of old members why don't you go there. I just don't understand why you want to stay somewhere and continue to support TB by staying an active member.

That is not what we're doing here. 

cinderella105

@lorindriel‌ I don't think anyone could have explained it in a better way. Adding to my list of M15ers I need to marry. ;;)

erwallace089

The more the merrier! Please do stay! I just wondered why unhappy users were still using TB when there are other apps out there that aren't deleting snarky comments and banning users.



I'm not @ing anyone because nah.

mandi195

RQuinlin said:

Damn it! They deleted my frozen condom advice! That was legitimate (albight humorous) advice. I have a friend who gave birth in a foreign country and they actually gave her those post partum to help ease vaginal pain. Stupid bump.

I just realized they also deleted my "put a popsicle in it" comment. Asses. 

MalVough

erwallace089 said:

The more the merrier! Please do stay! I just wondered why unhappy users were still using TB when there are other apps out there that aren't deleting snarky comments and banning users.



I'm not @ing anyone because nah.

You rebel \m/

MalVough

mandi195 said:

pearsforpoops said:

mandi195 said:

RQuinlin said:

Damn it! They deleted my frozen condom advice! That was legitimate (albight humorous) advice. I have a friend who gave birth in a foreign country and they actually gave her those post partum to help ease vaginal pain. Stupid bump.

I just realized they also deleted my "put a popsicle in it" comment. Asses. 

I really think it's bullshit that our comments can be arbitrarily deleted without warning or notification.

THOSE ARE MY WORDZZZZZ

Agreed... Plus, I see nothing wrong with suggesting OP put a popsicle in her vag; since I can't give medical advice, I might as well give non-medical, for-my-own-entertainment advice. I mean, it's not like I told her to go fist herself with her hand dipped in peanut butter or anything! 

****

OMG. I. Can't. Breathe.

)

mandi195

pearsforpoops said:

mandi195 said:

pearsforpoops said:

mandi195 said:

RQuinlin said:

Damn it! They deleted my frozen condom advice! That was legitimate (albight humorous) advice. I have a friend who gave birth in a foreign country and they actually gave her those post partum to help ease vaginal pain. Stupid bump.

I just realized they also deleted my "put a popsicle in it" comment. Asses. 

I really think it's bullshit that our comments can be arbitrarily deleted without warning or notification.

THOSE ARE MY WORDZZZZZ

Agreed... Plus, I see nothing wrong with suggesting OP put a popsicle in her vag; since I can't give medical advice, I might as well give non-medical, for-my-own-entertainment advice. I mean, it's not like I told her to go fist herself with her hand dipped in peanut butter or anything! 

Because we all know that's how you prepare for a vaginal delivery, not relieve pain after sex.

Obviously!

Jaspersmommy33

To all the wonderful and joyous women on this website.. im a first time mom. 32Weeks pregnant. Im also 19. An outcast to my family and feel alone in World were life doesnt get any easier. Coming on these sites is a bit of hope that i will see stories of struggling moms who made something of themselves instead of mopping about their life.. ive been homless 4 times during this pregnancy.. and its been the hardest thing ive ever been through. Now i have read thoroughly through the comments, and im sorry your community was destroyed, but its women like you that could help rebuild a community, share your glorious or heartbreaking stories to those who arent as fortunate to have the support system you might have. Be an example to the younger moms looking for someone to turn.. not everyone is like you. Not everyone has the confidence you ladies have. I know a particular young women who has suffered a tremendous amount doesnt have a doctor and is younger than myself tjat goes on these sites to seek help.. everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Everyone has a journey they cant fully explain to people in person because they are to afraid. But who are you to judge anyone because of the questions they have. Make something positive out of the negative situation that has presented itself on this site. Your intellectual and intelligent women. Help those who are looking for it. Treat other young soon to be mothers the way you would like to be treated.... you dont know them or their stories. But maybe if you tried to get to know them than you coule create new bonds. But you'll never know if you continue to be bitter.

Akrystofiak

pearsforpoops said:

mandi195 said:

RQuinlin said:

Damn it! They deleted my frozen condom advice! That was legitimate (albight humorous) advice. I have a friend who gave birth in a foreign country and they actually gave her those post partum to help ease vaginal pain. Stupid bump.

I just realized they also deleted my "put a popsicle in it" comment. Asses. 

I really think it's bullshit that our comments can be arbitrarily deleted without warning or notification.

THOSE ARE MY WORDZZZZZ

And who are they to decide that putting a popsicle in it won't really help? Are they doctors? I'm sure that they don't know... A popsicle may be just what this woman needs.