confirmation letter??

arie2173

My ex boyfriend does not believe I am pregnant and wants a "confirmation letter" from the clinic, is this something they will give me if I ask? Or will I need to get it from my actual OBGYN? 

Jessie42613

Unless it's his, I'd tell him to eff off.

arie2173

The baby is his. he said he won't help me financially unless I get a confirmation letter. 

BeachBum678

I've never heard of such a thing as a "pregnancy confirmation" letter. I doubt it even exists. And why exactly does he want to know, anyway? I'm guessing the baby's his and he doesn't want to take (parental and financial) responsibility for his child?

ETA: Yep. Just saw your reply. Sorry, pretty sure there's no such thing as a confirmation letter. You can show him blood draw results or other such paperwork from your doc if you've got it. Frankly, he sounds like a real winner. If it were me, I'd POAS and then throw it at him.

Amstreagle

In CA planned parenthood gives proof of pregnancy paper to take to get med-cal

arie2173

yes he does not want to take responsibility and only will if i get a confirmation letter. I am thinking I might as welll just wait and give him the paternity test when the baby is born. 

Everyusernameistaken

I had to get one for work with my due date on it, maybe they could do something like that? Your ex sounds like a real winner. Sorry you're dealing with that.

BeachBum678

arie2173 said:

yes he does not want to take responsibility and only will if i get a confirmation letter. I am thinking I might as welll just wait and give him the paternity test when the baby is born. 

You know that's what he'll be asking for next, right?

oneblessedmess

arie2173 said:

The baby is his. he said he won't help me financially unless I get a confirmation letter. 

That's cool. He can wait until he gets hit up with an official court order then.

If you mean you need help right now, I'm not sure about a confirmation letter. It doesn't hurt to ask. It shouldn't matter to him if it's from a clinic or an OB. If not, can't you just show him a positive pregnancy test?

BeachBum678

Amstreagle said:

In CA planned parenthood gives proof of pregnancy paper to take to get med-cal

Cool, didn't know that.

keenebride2015

This is something you need to be discussing with your OB, not strangers on a public forum.  Yes, they can write you a pregnancy confirmation letter, as they routinely send them for uninsured mothers to get state/federal medical insurance based on immenent need.  

oneblessedmess

arie2173 said:

yes he does not want to take responsibility and only will if i get a confirmation letter. I am thinking I might as welll just wait and give him the paternity test when the baby is born. 

Just a thought- Are you sure you want to be relying on him financially? He sounds like a douche who will give you nothing but hell for it. I understand if you have no other options though.

CaliforniaDream87

Sounds like even if you get him some type of "letter" he still won't believe it's his. I would wait until the baby is born, get a paternity test and file for child support ASAP.

taahira

I agree, I doubt the confirmation letter will be enough. He probably will want proof the baby is his

joneka

My BF didn't believe I was at first...after I showed him the positive test....he went out and bought another box for me to pee in front of him...no problem...it turned in like 2 seconds!! He was still in shock...so at the first appointment he went too....and the doctor confirmed...so he heard it from the horses mouth! He also went to my second appointment which she did an U/S and we saw our little peanut!

it exist....I received a proof of pregnancy at my first appointment.....it was just given at the end of my appointment.

I wouldn't be difficult.....give him the proof of pregnancy and go from there..... good luck

diesel29

I got a confirmation letter from my Doc.  It just states I am pregnant and under Dr. Soandso's care, and the due date.  I needed it for work to be accommodated from certain duties.  It's fairly common around here to get one.  And it didn't cost me a thing.

tinktink20

I'm not sure a confirmation letter will make him help you, unfortunately. Wait and get a paternity test and then take him to court.

Miz_Liz

Based on the fact that OP only had one other discussion that was posted back in April and was about drama with whether or not to have an abortion because the baby daddy did not want her to keep it as it was the result of a one night stand...I am saying that this is either all MUD or the OP has a tragically drama filled life.

thelittlestbee

Miz_Liz said:

Based on the fact that OP only had one other discussion that was posted back in April and was about drama with whether or not to have an abortion because the baby daddy did not want her to keep it as it was the result of a one night stand...I am saying that this is either all MUD or the OP has a tragically drama filled life.

Definitely MUD. Otherwise OP has the worst taste in men. Ever.