What is bugging you today? Come on in and vent!

CML11

So the flu is running through the nursing facility I work at, despite most all of the patients and staff getting the flu shot. And for those that don't have the flu, others have pneumonia, stomach bug or the upper respiratory infection! Oh my! Not in my 2WW!!!

I am wearing a mask the entire time, except for when I eat far away from everyone else on my freshly sanitized desk. My hands are also so dry from washing them every few minutes.

WinoGrrl

@CML11 FX that you keep all the icky bugs away and stay healthy!!

I'm still waiting on the biopsy for my arm. which is killing me - i just want to know already! it was supposed to be a "shave biopsy" which is totally misleading - there is a huge crater missing on my arm. Which I'm supposed to keep clean but I'm not supposed to get it wet. 

Also my boss was on vacation last week and is working from home today - queue 3 billion crazy emails. i'm ready for the weekend!!

vh2014

@cml11  Ick! I think I'd call out sick of sick people.

WinoGrrl clean but not wet? That should be interesting.  Alcohol wipes ok or really not wet at all?  And I get the 3 billion emails.  that's how I felt after the holidays.

AFM.... just the normal sick of seeing everyone else having babies.  We watched Planet of the Apes the other night and the apes were even having babies.  I'm happy for them (even the apes LOL) but I wish they were required to have a warning like on TB.  Then when I don't want to deal with them I don't have to.  It's hard to get away from baby posts when a lot of your "friends" are photographers... who photograph babies. GRR...  

Also annoyed with one of my direct reports today... he's so full of himself... I so want to pull a "i'm the boss of you" do what I say, but I know it's counter productive and not good leadership.  Still, tired of him trying to be the boss.  He wanted my job and didn't get it.  Thought we had worked through all that before Christmas but this week feeling like maybe not.  

WinoGrrl

@clgsquared i hate when people can't just admit when they are wrong, or at least back down when it is CLEAR that they aren't correct. 

@vh2014 I had one of those people on my last team - we both interviewed for a senior position, I got it and he didn't. He was REALLY not a great fit for that position but according to him the only reason I got it was because I'm a girl and the company wants more females in IT. He eventually ended up having to move to a completely different area (still at his same level!) because he was just so irritating and disrupting the whole team. Good luck!!

yeah - i'm not doing alcohol - i think it would hurt REALLY bad. I've got neosporin and I'm changing the bandage once or twice a day. It looks a little bit red around the edges but so far so good? if it seems like it is starting to get infected I'll call the doctor and ask for suggestions...

vh2014

WinoGrrl I'm in IT too... maybe it's the personalities it attracts.  He's also older than me. 

flyliceandcoffee

@clgsquared - I always thought humility and being able to admit when you're wrong is what makes a good leader. It's obvious that he is not. Glad others are seeing it though (i.e. other boss called him on it too). I know it doesn't help the situation but maybe it'll help in the long run?

@WinoGrrl and @vh2014, men in the technology industry are notorious for that shit. It's for sure part of the personality I think. I'm in the development side of that field and being one of the few women around, I have to fight to be heard almost daily. It's flat out ridiculous.

That's actually one of my vents. We work on a team where everyone is "equal" in position. One of my team members wants to move up into a management position at some point, so our director told him he should take more of a "leadership" role on the team. He of course took that mean, that he's the only one with a say on anything and dominates every meeting and conversation. it drives me bat shit crazy.

My other vent. A year ago, a majority of the engineers at our last company got laid off. We all got picked up by our current company (yep, 15 of us) and we were working out of a shared office space for the last year while the main headquarters worked out office space for us. A year later, we still haven't gotten into our real office and now we have to work from home till closer to Feb because we got too big for the shared space. I HATE working from home!

meredithcarole

I'm venting about my post-surgical uterus.  AF is here and I woke up the past 2 nights with shooting pains through my abdomen.  I really can't tell if it was gas with no, um "relief" or cramps - they do use CO2 to inflate your stomach, etc. during surgery so for about a week and a half after the procedure this happened, but it had stopped for the last 2 weeks.  I wonder if there was some trapped in my uterus somewhere and with AF it is releasing?  At any rate, ouch!  And, to top it off, I bled through a tampon and a panty liner in a matter of 2.5 hours this morning  :-w  I guess I am glad I am still on leave.  

mushE

@cml11 FX that you stay healthy!

 

mushE

Mine's a vent, but I'm also grateful that the nurse was proactive.  Since my FSH was elevated, they ordered an AMH test, but said that results will take 3 weeks to come in.  Since they're scheduling out that far, the nurse was kind enough to go ahead and schedule me, even though they normally wait for all the tests to be done.  Very kind of her, but I'm disappointed to wait, because I barely slept last night, thinking about everything that's going on. 

wannabmama23

@flyliceandcoffee‌ so funny, I'd kill to work from home. I used to have job with way more flexibility and I loved being able to work from home when it was possible. I commute about three hours a day and it feels like such a waste! In another former life though I worked exclusively from home and that did get a little frustrating and lonely.

My vent today is that the people at my job have the worst communication and project management skills ever. The whole office is poorly managed and I'm constantly unsure of what I should be doing and what's expected of me. I need a new job, waaaah. (Is it bad that I noticed we have awesome prenatal/delivery/and even infertility coverage and that's part of why I only search for jobs at about 50% effort right now)??

WinoGrrl

@meredithcarole ouchie! hope you feel better soon!

@flyliceandcoffee totally agree with/ IT dudes. Also - I love working from home when I'm doing dev work but since I've been in my leadership role I get absolutely nothing done at home. We have "collaboration workspaces" at my job which means low cube walls and tons of people smashed into the same area (compounded by the fact that we tore down a building and are building a new building and everyone that was in the old one is now added to the remaining space while we wait for the new one to be built) -- it's so noisy and distracting!

Nikolie93

@CML11 I hope the sickness stays away from you!!

@WinoGrrl I had a "shaved" biopsy once and it also left a crater. Irritating! Sorry you have to wait for results..the waiting sucks *hug*

@clgsquared wtf is wrong with some people? So freaking stubborn! 

@vh2014 I feel your pain about seeing everyone having babies all over the place  

@flyliceandcoffee Why do you hate working from home? I worked from home for 9 years before this job I got 5 years ago and it was my first office job EVER. I felt so weird being in an office. I have to say it's nice though, I am also in IT and work for a software development company. It's nice to have everyone around to go to since it takes HOURS for anyone to respond to email. 

@meredithcarole that sucks about AF and the pain! Good thing you aren't at work! 

@mushE waiting for results sucks so bad, I hope the 3 weeks flies by for you *hug*

Nikolie93

Ok, I am going to take a moment to vent here. 

I took a new position in my company because I was sick of traveling and dealing with multi-million dollar projects. In my new role I manage change requests for the support team and after I took the new position the owner decided to add a testing team to the company and put them under me as well. 

There are times it's slow but when it's not slow, I can't even keep my head above water. I am currently up to 8 weekly statuses for different clients each week (that doesn't include all of the change requests I am managing that I don't send statuses for), and I just got 2 more huge clients. One includes 25+ system enhancements and the other is a 300k dollar complete system upgrade. 

My boss is very laid back (too laid back if you ask me) and keeps telling me to relax. Unfortunately I am the type of person that will work 20 hours  a day if there is still to do...and with everything coming up I would need over 24 hours a day just to stay afloat. 

ACK! 

luvmyponies

My general gripe today (besides my everyday gripe that EVERYONE I know seems to be pregnant) is I'm seriously wondering why I live in the Northeast and not Southern California! Taking care of horses in the freezing cold is not fun... frozen water buckets, frozen poop, ice everywhere, ground too hard to ride. We had such beautiful weather in October - clearly we're paying for it now!

And now DH is sick... and it better not interfere with the fertile window! Don't you love my compassion? LOL

FX that everyone stays healthy!!

flyliceandcoffee

@wannabmama23, I don't mind it if it's a day here, or a day there, but a month at home with no "real" interaction makes me stir crazy.

@WinoGrrl - I used to work in the land of cubicles and when I moved here to CO from CA, I was totally overwhelmed by the lack of walls. I love it now though. As a developer, it makes it so much easier to collaborate with others when you don't have a wall separating you. Yes, there's less "privacy", but as long as the people you work with are respectful it's generally okay. As for the noise...headphones make for awesome blockers. It tells people you're in the zone and busy, and you don't have to listen to everyone else!

@Nikolie93 - i need human interaction hahahaha. I hate having to communicate with people over IM/email. It's so easy to take something someone said the wrong way when you can't see them face to face. I'm a strange developer in the sense that in order for me to be productive, I need to be able to bounce ideas off of people and talk it through. It's really hard to do that when nobody else is there. The dogs don't really help with that

URMySunshine77

@meredithcarole: I hope that you feel better soon!

KirstenAlecia

I have a couple vents. 

One TTC/body related one not. 

First the not. Im jumping in 100% to working for myself and not in partnership with another photographer......and let me tell you...Website/blog set up.....TOTALLY not my thing and makes me cray cray. Im not a technical person....Im really more artistic. This ish makes my head spin...seriously.....even the stuff thats supposed to be easier (aka customizable templates) Still hard! 

Second. Id like to STOP BLEEDING. I never 100% stopped from the MC and while it did slow to spotting....that yucky gross brown spotting even that didn't go away and Im pretty sure AF has arrived and she is taking her sweet ass time leaving now as well. Needless to say its been an emotional week cause i was sure when AF arrived that it wasn't her and something was wrong. Unbearable cramping and out of control bleeding the first day. Now Im leaning to it being AF and she just returned with a vengeance. 

@CML11 - I hope you stay healthy and don't catch the bug!

@WinoGrrl - I hope you heal quickly. The name does sound deceiving.

@clgsquared - just punch him.....teehee.

@vh2014 - Im right there with you on the photos. My FB peers are all photographers too.....babies babies everywhere. If its not that its maternity photos. ack. This morning I had a consult with a adorable mommy to be for get this......birth photography. Im happy to say I didn't have any strong emotions when I was there or when I left and I really hope she hires me. 

@flyliceandcoffee - one of the things i love about my job is that i get to do a lot of my work at home!!! But I know its easy to get distracted! 

@meredithcarol - AF is a biotch and so are our uteruses! I hope your post surgical uterus heals quickly!

@mushe I have yet to go through testing so i know soothing of any of it but I wish you luck!

@wannabmama23 I hear my hubby complain about that kind of stuff alllll the time at his job. I hope it gets better.

@Nikolie93 My hubby has ALSO companied about that kind of stuff...you ladies in the corporate world......im sure patience really is a virtue.

@luvmyponies Sounds like your not having fun right now but Im soooooo jealous you have horses. I LOVE LOVE LOVE them. We have a farm around the corner here and its open to the public and my daughter and I go all the time to see the horses.

meredithcarole

@KirstenAlecia‌ just so you don't think its only you, (TMI alert, btw) my cycles were so heavy the first 4 months after my loss that I woke up more than once having to change bedding because I bled through a tampon and a pad. I am not overly surprised by my body behaving this way now since it did that then. I hope yours gets its act together soon.

wannabmama23

@flyliceandcoffee‌ I do understand that isolated/missing interaction feeling. Even though I work in an office there are times I interact with no one and that's the loneliest feeling, too. I miss being on collaborative teams, even the endless meetings, I love to talk and there are days I don't say more than hi all day out loud...until I get home and chat poor DH's ear off!

@luvmyponies‌ I know mucking and feeding and cleaning are way less fun in this weather but man am I jealous! I can't wait until someday when I can have the horses at my house. I'll invest in lots of hand and foot warmers!! Or...move back down south ha!

Nikolie93

@flyliceandcoffee‌ I'm not sure, my dog has been known to give me better ideas than some of my team members lol

MelissaMiso

Monday needed to be throat punched and Tuesday needed to be beaten with Monday's throat-punched carcass.

Mostly work crap (which happens periodically when you work in an inpatient drug rehab) and on top of it my student loan got temporarily denied while my records get reviewed because I've taken over 90 credits (mind you it's my 2nd associates at that school and it's not because I attempted and failed too many classes. So now I have to pay 1/3 or my tuition until they get through the backlog of student reviews for the exact same reason. Fuckers!

syarboro

I work in a pretty small office and everyone wears multiple hats. I feel completely overwhelmed most days and it toots stresses me out. And I can tell that my boss is on the verge of a total breakdown and that isn't good for anyone. Wishing everyone some relief and a better day tomorrow! \m/

CML11

@MelissaMiso‌ I just had to laugh at your first sentence! Hope your week gets better!

C_Girlie

Cancer, that's what's got me down. Just found out my granny was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer (

emsmama15

I'm so sorry @C_Girlie‌! Cancer sucks.

luvmyponies

@c_girlie I'm so very sorry.

@wannabmama23 It's definitely nice having them home, I can keep an eye on everything, and there's nothing like the sound of them whinnying when I walk in the barn in the morning. But there are drawbacks too... it's so hard to schedule a vacation and finding good hay has become my life! Lol!

vh2014

@c_girlie That sucks.  I;m sorry you have to deal with that on top of everything else. Creepy internet hugs.  We have a stage 3 going on in our family right now and I know it sucks and feels so helpless. 

luvmyponies

@TMaggie0424 - I completely understand how you feel... I honestly don't know how to deal with those feelings. Right before Christmas two of my friends announced they were pregnant on FB - one has three kids, and one has one. And of course they both post in the cutest possible way (one was wearing a shirt that said "tis the season to be pregnant," and the other posted a picture of stockings hung on the fireplace for each member of the family, and one "tiny stocking" for "baby #2 due in June."

I feel so angry and jealous, and then I feel so selfish and sad that I can't be happy for them. I wish I knew the answer - I suppose at some point you have to accept reality and be thankful for what you do have in your life. Some days I'm there... other days not so much.

CML11

@luvmyponies‌ If a BFP ever happens for me, I don't think I will ever FB announce it. It just makes me wonder how many of my friends might be going through the same struggles and I don't even know.

KirstenAlecia

meredithcarole said:

@KirstenAlecia‌ just so you don't think its only you, (TMI alert, btw) my cycles were so heavy the first 4 months after my loss that I woke up more than once having to change bedding because I bled through a tampon and a pad. I am not overly surprised by my body behaving this way now since it did that then. I hope yours gets its act together soon.

Im glad to hear that sadly....makes me relax and not freak out. 

kelley72

so sorry for your grandmother's diagnosis @c_girlie  

Peaseblossom55

@c_girlie I'm so sorry

I'm annoyed at myself mostly.  I get annoyed that I'm so sensitive to this TTC stuff. I had a small temp drop today and now I'm wondering if I will get CH's or that I actually ovulated.  I keep telling myself I need to look at the overall patterns not just one temp.  I need a glass of wine. 

flyliceandcoffee

I'm so sorry to hear about your granny @c_girlie.

@Nikolie93, I ask my dogs for their opinions all the time. I'm pretty sure my husband thinks I'm crazy

lcwed

@c_girlie I am so sorry about the cancer diagnosis.

@CML11 Sorry about the icky bugs.  My grandma's nursing home has had a horrible breakout of the flu and pneumonia.  They have stopped having residents about and keep them in their rooms to limit exposure.  We just found out she has pneumonia.

@KirstenAlicia My first few periods were heavy and awful.  Same experience as @meredithcarole had.   After my D&C I bleed for almost 3 weeks and after what I think is success with cytotec, one week later, I am still spotting/light bleeding.

My vent is kicking my sweet tooth.  I joined our work's weight loss challenge and so far have been able to keep up with working out, but the diet coke and sweet cravings are kicking my butt.  Oh why can't broccoli and other veggies taste like chocolate.  I want to win the money so bad!!!

meredithcarole

lcwed said:

@c_girlie I am so sorry about the cancer diagnosis.

@CML11 Sorry about the icky bugs.  My grandma's nursing home has had a horrible breakout of the flu and pneumonia.  They have stopped having residents about and keep them in their rooms to limit exposure.  We just found out she has pneumonia.

@KirstenAlicia My first few periods were heavy and awful.  Same experience as @meredithcarole had.   After my D&C I bleed for almost 3 weeks and after what I think is success with cytotec, one week later, I am still spotting/light bleeding.

My vent is kicking my sweet tooth.  I joined our work's weight loss challenge and so far have been able to keep up with working out, but the diet coke and sweet cravings are kicking my butt.  Oh why can't broccoli and other veggies taste like chocolate.  I want to win the money so bad!!!

@lcwed can you satisfy your cravings with strawberries or a sweet fruit?

Nikolie93

@lcwed get outta my head! I just did a TP to chocolate in TTCAL. 

My co worker has a whole jar of mini candy bars. I have been doing so good but I want to EAT ALL THE CHOCOLATE right now  

lcwed

@meredithcarole‌ they help but they are not chocolate. Cutie oranges are my go to sweet since they are in season right now.

@Nikolie93‌ people setting out chocolate is my total downfall. Glad I have a chocolate Twinkie. Sorry I missed that post. I usually can't post till later and the TP thread moves too quickly and is over by the time I get there.

vh2014

@lcwed I know what you mean.  We have a candy bucket.. and it sits right around the corner from my desk.  Like I get up to go somewhere and almost bump into it.  The admins fill it up and keep it full... 

My vent for today- TB is driving me nuts.  First my reply box disappeared, then it told me I had to be around longer to post a gif, when I FINALLY tried to page mod to get it fixed it magically started working.  SERIOUSLY???? Ugh. But glad it's working now. 

lcwed

@vh2014 I think things like this will probably happen off and on for a bit until things settle down.  They will probably only be temporary and probably more on some boards than others.  I know on TTGP there is something in place where if you do something like 2 posts in 60 sec you will not be able to post again for several minutes because of the silence posts.

CML11

@lcwed‌ I have also had a wicked sweet tooth and I blame the progesterone! I did found a compromise though, pure dark chocolate. It's "healthy" and satisfies the craving much better than regular candy bars.

Yeah at work we keep having new flu cases, so they have contained most people to their rooms, which has not gone over too well (with them). So all but one unit has to have their therapy in their room. Makes it 10x harder for me because I'm so limited one what I can bring with me in there.

Sorry to hear about your Grandma getting Pneumonia hope she gets better soon.