Tuesday Randoms

steen9713

I'm so tired! Poor H woke me up a little before midnight and told me he needed to go to the ER. We went they took his vitals and told us it would be a 4 plus hour wait. So we came home. Hope he's is doing better today. And that urgent care can help him.

CoachTsWife

So much nervous energy right now....! We're getting ready to leave for our NT scan. We haven't heard the heartbeat or seen anything yet, so this is super exciting/scary/nerve wracking. Praying all goes well and we receive good results.

ChristyM87

steen9713 said:

I'm so tired! Poor H woke me up a little before midnight and told me he needed to go to the ER. We went they took his vitals and told us it would be a 4 plus hour wait. So we came home. Hope he's is doing better today. And that urgent care can help him.

Why did he want to go to the hospital?

LadyAnnibal

14 weeks guys! I made it to second tri!!!

catahoulatte

lindylogana said:

 I gave up coffee a month ago because it just was not appetizing. Decided since I was so tired to try it again and I think I like it again. Welcome back to my life coffee you have been missed!!

You give me hope, @lindylogana . I miss coffee but blech it tastes gross right now.

catahoulatte

BarefootContessa said:

I'm in a sing-songy mood because I just got back from hearing little girl's hb. 

On the downside, DH and I have decided on a name and we're getting a lot of push back from  both of our moms.  I completely regret sharing the name. I don't understand why people feel they can give their opinion as if it will sway your decision. My mom keeps suggesting alternatives- I have no problem telling her to stop. DH"s mom out and out said it was "ugly and old fashioned" and said "WE (as in her, too) need to find a new name." Yesterday when we told her the news she said "Now to just find a name, right guys?" I'm so irritated that I'm letting that ruin my excitement over our news. 

yay for the HB! And boooo to them for being jerks about your baby's name. I'm sorry you're dealing with it. Hopefully you can just pointedly change the subject when it gets brought up if you don't want to call them out on being jerks.

jlbaker08

@barefootcontessa I've picked out Jillian (Jilly(i) for short) as a girl name too, and I like Layla or Lila for the middle name but my mom decided to shot it down because there are too many "L" sounds... good thing I don't care about her opinion!  Love Jillian!

c-elizabethf

Happy birthday and eat all the cake @wineandcake‌
@Brummy14‌ Good luck!

I am about to make me a nice cup of coffee and watch the rest of Gilmore girls since dd is still asleep. And also...I'm 12 weeks today!!!! So close to second tri

lindylogana

Glad I gave you some hope @catahoulatte‌ !!

c-elizabethf

@RWPhoenix‌ Sending good vibes!
@BarefootContessa‌ I'm sorry your MIL is being that way. All I have to say is screw anyone who has anything bad to say. There will always be one person who doesn't like something. Jillian is very pretty, I knew a girl in high school who had that name and she was so sweet.

amc1087

Spent much of last night with happy tears. DH and I moved to the midwest last year, leaving all of our friends and family back on the east coast. I often have video chat sessions with my friends and last night my two best girlfriends told me that since they couldn't very well throw me a baby shower (I don't care for flying much in general, so they knew I wouldn't want to fly around 30 weeks), they are planning a trip out here for a final hurrah girls weekend before the baby arrives! 

It's not inexpensive to fly out here and I'm just so incredibly happy and honored and flattered that they are willing to drop everything and come out for a few days. Good friends are the best, basically.

babycarb

I think a lot of our parents need a friendly reminder that they already had their chance at naming a baby. This is OUR chance and they better respect it. It gets me so worked up. 

apbogan

cookiesandwine said:

Happy birthday @wineandcake! 


If this didn't make me so sad for humans, it would be my favorite thing on the internet. 

CLICKY

Worst and best thing. SMH. "Making a Devlin" is all I can think of now when I see that name. 

lindylogana

Grrrr I am so mad at DH right now. He just picked Overtime for this weekend even though I've had it blocked out for months. It's DD's birthday on Sunday and we are never together as a family ever so I blocked it on the calendar so he wouldn't schedule anything for once. I had plans to do something fun with her on Saturday and then also be together as a family on Sunday. My kids literally almost never ask for their dad because he's never home and call him grumpy pants. Ugh! I'm so tired of him picking $ over family all the time even though we are not suffering financially. Hopefully my mom can help me with the thing I wanted to do with them on Saturday. Grrrrrrrrrrrr.

kingsley123

Good luck @Brummy14‌!  Happy Birthday @wineandcake‌!

lindylogana

Yay @lavendergrrl‌ so glad everything went well for your friend!

ashiscute

@CALEO‌ my DS is Finn. A lot of people loved it but a couple of people were genuinely confused like it was so crazy. It was frustrating listening to some of the negative but I'm glad DH and I stuck with it.

ahsile10

Can I still gif happy things?!?!?!

@wineandcake

@brummy14

Mackalack

Happy birthday @wineandcake!!

Good luck with your cerclage surgery @brummy14!

jenwalker1978

I have a doctor's appointment today.  Hoping I get to hear the heartbeats.

RWPhoenix

Thank you ladies for sending my aunt your good vibes! She is a tough lady and I know she will kick this cancer's ass.

Also I'm feeling happy because I got to hear the LO's heartbeat.

Rose0825

Yay !!!! We finally got our truck today !!! :x I'm so happy thank you God. Plus it's awesome in the snow !! I'm never going back to a car.

sharebear05

@RWPhoenix - sending good thoughts

@Caleo - I love the names!  So pretty!

I have officially gotten cranky when getting asked about names.  As of yesterday, I have decided to pull random names out of my ass when people ask.  I told my mother that baby boy's name will be Kleophus Alvairedes for the Polish and Greek sides of the family.  I have begun telling my FIL's family that we're doing John Paul Francis after our favorite popes.  When people asked at our Ohio State/Oregon viewing party last night, I said Ezekial Braxton Jones after some of my favorite OSU players.  Let's see what other creative responses I come up with on the fly.

ChristyM87

Feeling a little sad because my mother-in-law is not happy with some of the decisions that we are making. She has already told us she will probably have minimal involvement in the baby's life. She just announced she is taking a break from Facebook and I know it is because of all the baby stuff popping up


This from the woman who a few years ago was begging me for a grandkid

apbogan

sharebear05 said:

@RWPhoenix - sending good thoughts

@Caleo - I love the names!  So pretty!

I have officially gotten cranky when getting asked about names.  As of yesterday, I have decided to pull random names out of my ass when people ask.  I told my mother that baby boy's name will be Kleophus Alvairedes for the Polish and Greek sides of the family.  I have begun telling my FIL's family that we're doing John Paul Francis after our favorite popes.  When people asked at our Ohio State/Oregon viewing party last night, I said Ezekial Braxton Jones after some of my favorite OSU players.  Let's see what other creative responses I come up with on the fly.

Brilliant. I'm done with the conversation already. Please stop blowing my phone up with names that I can easily find on a baby name board. 

Mackalack

ChristyM87 said:

Feeling a little sad because my mother-in-law is not happy with some of the decisions that we are making. She has already told us she will probably have minimal involvement in the baby's life. She just announced she is taking a break from Facebook and I know it is because of all the baby stuff popping up 

This from the woman who a few years ago was begging me for a grandkid

I remember you saying something about switching sexual partners in a previous conversation - does she know about the choices that you two have made?  If so, even then it's none of her business what decisions two adults make together. 

slamar3

Happy birthday @wineandcake‌. Hope 26 is a good year!!!

Good luck @Brummy14‌. T&P for your procedure!

@BarefootContess‌a I'm sorry you are getting push back for such a beautiful name. I hope everything works out soon. Don't take their bs. What they are saying is not true nor ok.

All the good news (on this particular board) cheered me up after the other nonsense I read this am. Glad to hear most of you are having wonderful mornings!! For those that have had a rough start I hope things turn up soon!

ChristyM87

Mackalack said:

ChristyM87 said:

Feeling a little sad because my mother-in-law is not happy with some of the decisions that we are making. She has already told us she will probably have minimal involvement in the baby's life. She just announced she is taking a break from Facebook and I know it is because of all the baby stuff popping up 

This from the woman who a few years ago was begging me for a grandkid

I remember you saying something about switching sexual partners in a previous conversation - does she know about the choices that you two have made?  If so, even then it's none of her business what decisions two adults make together. 
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What? Nooo. She is mad because we cut ties completely with my father-in-law after he physically attacked my husband unprovoked. She is mad we won't forgive, forget, and move on. I don't want that man being around my child

MigdaliaRose

@lindylogana How frustrating!  I hope you make it clear to DH how upsetting this is and why, but I also hope that your DD's birthday goes really nice!

@sharebear05 I love your responses to people asking for names!  I agree with PPs about how this decision is up to the parents of the child and others should really try to respect that better.  I would be super pissed at some of the responses I've read.  We are not sharing any names now and everyone will find out at the baby naming roughly a week after the baby is born.  They also won't get to hear the other options that had been on the table in case we want to use those for future children.

Mackalack

ChristyM87 said:

ChristyM87 said:

Feeling a little sad because my mother-in-law is not happy with some of the decisions that we are making. She has already told us she will probably have minimal involvement in the baby's life. She just announced she is taking a break from Facebook and I know it is because of all the baby stuff popping up 

This from the woman who a few years ago was begging me for a grandkid

I remember you saying something about switching sexual partners in a previous conversation - does she know about the choices that you two have made?  If so, even then it's none of her business what decisions two adults make together. 

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Ok, good - cause I was going to be even more pissed for you.  I don't understand why she can't see that isn't ok and why you guys wouldn't want him around a child.  Yikes.

MILs can be pills, that's for sure.

ChristyM87

Mackalack said:

ChristyM87 said:

Mackalack said:

ChristyM87 said:

Feeling a little sad because my mother-in-law is not happy with some of the decisions that we are making. She has already told us she will probably have minimal involvement in the baby's life. She just announced she is taking a break from Facebook and I know it is because of all the baby stuff popping up 

This from the woman who a few years ago was begging me for a grandkid

I remember you saying something about switching sexual partners in a previous conversation - does she know about the choices that you two have made?  If so, even then it's none of her business what decisions two adults make together. 

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What? Nooo. She is mad because we cut ties completely with my father-in-law after he physically attacked my husband unprovoked. She is mad we won't forgive, forget, and move on. I don't want that man being around my child

Ok, good - cause I was going to be even more pissed for you.  I don't understand why she can't see that isn't ok and why you guys wouldn't want him around a child.  Yikes.

MILs can be pills, that's for sure.

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She didn't want us to announce on facebook, she kept hoping that the longer we waited to post maybe we would eventually come around.

My husband keeps telling me I can't blame his mom as she is a victim of an abusive relationship but it is just hard for me to understand how someone would give up something they wanted to support a monster

crector421

Pretty much how I feel today

ChristyM87

kristhegirl said:

@ChristyM87 {{creepy internet hugs}} it sounds like you're making the right decision, regardless of what MIL does. Abused people develop coping mechanisms that are hard to understand on the outside, but it honestly may be better for her if she is also not involved in the baby's life, if the FIL isn't and would take it out on her.

There is no call to forgive or forget abuse, and you have to protect not only yourselves, but your baby, from toxic people. Don't allow the guilt of her actions determine yours; regardless of the reasons, she is an adult and can make her own decisions - as can you and your partner.

Thanks, @kristhegirl‌. I know we are it is just hard because I actually love my mother-in-law and before all this we had a great relationship. Having a grandkid was supposed to be the highlight of her retirement but now she may be refusing to have anything to do with the child.

We have told her that when the baby comes she is welcome to visit anytime without father-in-law but I don't think she likes that. My husband also isn't sure how his father will react to his wife seeing the baby without him, and if his dad would lash out

Mackalack

ChristyM87 said:

My husband also isn't sure how his father will react to his wife seeing the baby without him, and if his dad would lash out

That would worry me too.  I'm so sorry - it's just a horrible, horrible situation.  

ChristyM87

Mackalack said:

ChristyM87 said:

My husband also isn't sure how his father will react to his wife seeing the baby without him, and if his dad would lash out

That would worry me too.  I'm so sorry - it's just a horrible, horrible situation.  

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It is. My husband and I try not to let it worry us but now that we announced I have a feeling we will be dealing with family reactions and pleadings to return more

ahsile10

jlbaker08 said:

@barefootcontessa I've picked out Jillian (Jilly(i) for short) as a girl name too, and I like Layla or Lila for the middle name but my mom decided to shot it down because there are too many "L" sounds... good thing I don't care about her opinion!  Love Jillian!

@barefootcontessa & @jlbaker08 Jillian is my daughter's name and we call her Jilly for short too!

ahsile10

BarefootContessa said:

Thanks, guys. It's not even an abnormal or weird name. We're going with Jillian. In the grand scheme of things, I think it's a rather boring, "safe" name. My mom thinks it's snobbish and too posh. DH's Mom obviously said it's ugly and old fashioned. 

Your MIL is stoooopid. Sorry.

MegJay1115

I am 14 weeks and 4 days and have had appointments every 3 weeks since I was 5-6. You need to speak up @SAHmommy‌ !

beepity

Happy birthday @wineandcake!!

I'm STILL waiting on our NIPT results and turning into one impatient momma!! 

ahsile10

beepity said:

Happy birthday @wineandcake!!

I'm STILL waiting on our NIPT results and turning into one impatient momma!! 

I'm already impatient and 7 business days is just coming up tomorrow. Waaahhh.