'Tis the season for introspection! In that spirit, please share the biggest lesson you've learned while TTC.
I'm a total newbie to this. In several months of research and 1 month of charting, my biggest lesson has been: The female body is one complex organism, y'all. I always considered myself a pretty savvy, empowered lady, but I knew nothing about CM, temp shifts or fertility windows. I felt like Charlotte in that SATC episode with the hand-mirror.
Thanks in advance for sharing your lessons learned! Happy New Year and good luck in 2015!
Edit: To clarify - this can be a lesson related to biology, emotions, relationships, etc, etc.
Like you, this year has been eye-opening as far as how complex the female body is! I had no clue. I knew I had a period, I knew about ovulation, but not CM, fertile windows, charting, any of that! So glad I finally do, thanks to TB!
There are still some TTC lessons I need to learn, though. Along the lines of another ongoing thread, the jealousy is hard for me to deal with. Between Thanksgiving and, say, the second week of December, I think five or six friends announced their pregnancies on Facebook. And while I was elated for them, I was devastated for us. So much so that I had to leave Facebook. I couldn't handle it. And like another bumpie's SO, my H reminded me that their being pregnant in no way interfered with or prevented us from getting pregnant. But I'm definitely with a lot of others and stuck in that jealous but not judgmental phase. My TTC resolution for 2015 is to learn to constructively deal with that jealousy and, eventually, stop it.
Married to the love of my life since September 2013. TTC #1 since January 2014 Met with RE Nov 2014: Cyst on left ovary. Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy 12/3 to remove cyst, endo, polyp, and fibroid 12/14: Natural cycle = BFN 1/15: Starting Femara for IUI #1
Hobbies and distractions are important. I have to admit that I am very anxious and obsessive person by nature, and the TTC process consumes me many days. I read a lot, come on TB, stare at my FF chart, and work in the RE field. It is very hard for me to take a step back and quit worrying that this is still not happening for me, even though there are many TTC for much longer than I with greater complications. I find that getting back into exercise (running) and reading for pleasure not just work, is helping me a lot.
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Me: 29 DH: 34 Married 9/8/12 Started TTC 10/01/12
Dx: Hypothalamic amenorrhea by RE in 2/2013
Provera + Ovidrel trigger = BFP #1 3/24/13
DD born 11/12/13
TTC #2 since 9/01/14
Tamoxifen + Ovidrel trigger = CP (cycle 3)
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -Dr. Suess
As a newbie, my biggest lesson has been in the complex simplicity of our bodies. There is so much going on, yet it all became so clear after reading TCOYF. I swear they need to distribute that book as soon as a girl gets her period. They should put a complete stop to the lessons learned in junior high. There is no reason for me to be 31 and just learning about temping, charting, etc.
Hobbies and distractions are important. I have to admit that I am very anxious and obsessive person by nature, and the TTC process consumes me many days. I read a lot, come on TB, stare at my FF chart, and work in the RE field. It is very hard for me to take a step back and quit worrying that this is still not happening for me, even though there are many TTC for much longer than I with greater complications. I find that getting back into exercise (running) and reading for pleasure not just work, is helping me a lot.
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So important! I can already feel myself being sucked into the vortex of FF, TB, and secret pinterest-ing. Trying to be attentive without sliding off the deep end will be a challenge for me. Focusing on health and leisure are good distractions!
I had no idea how scientific making a baby is. We have TTC for about 3 years, between 2 mc, cervical cancer lesions that needed surgery, being diagnosed as diabetic and having been diagnosed with lichen sclerosis it has been incredibly trying. I also realized my DH is my rock. And I fall more in love and am more in awe of him every day (sorry not sorry for being mushy) not losing hope and definitely having distractions help as this can become quite obsessive.
As a newbie, my biggest lesson has been in the complex simplicity of our bodies. There is so much going on, yet it all became so clear after reading TCOYF. I swear they need to distribute that book as soon as a girl gets her period. They should put a complete stop to the lessons learned in junior high. There is no reason for me to be 31 and just learning about temping, charting, etc.
I second this!
With my DS my DH and I tried for 11 months and the first month I started charting we got pregnant, Thank God : )
This time around I am learning that after BF'ing for 12 1/2 months there is no regularity for me and I'm hoping to learn how long it takes me to become more (regular). Still learning about this one.
I learned that my husband is more amazing that I realized. He has been my rock and support over the past 5 months. I thought in L&D he would be a pain in my ass and in reality without him I don't know what I would have done. I realized that when the going gets tough you realize who your real friends are. I also realized that you all are an awesome group of really supportive women.
Edit: Let me add that I also learned that being out of the 1st trimester means nothing as far as that "I'm in the clear" mentality.
12/2007 Engaged * 1/2010 Married * 2/2014Started TTC
4/2014 1st BFP * 8/2014 Caleb Emmanuel became an angel * 11/2014 Started TTC Again
I learned to never think "It'll never happen to me."
I also learned that people, especially close friends and family, don't really mean "I'm here for you no matter what." A more accurate phrase is "I'm here for you until you actually become an inconvenience...then I'll do what I can to make it worse for you."
I'm NOT having a great 2014. I'm hoping 2015 is magically better.
*HUGS THE STUFFING OUT OF YOU DOVAH*
Fuck your idiotic and selfish bullshit friends. I mean it when I say I'm here for you no.matter.what. Anytime, lady.
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TTGP Acronyms/Newbie Blog “I want people to like what I do, but, at the bottom line, fuck ‘em if they don’t.” - Craig Ferguson
I learned to never think "It'll never happen to me."
I also learned that people, especially close friends and family, don't really mean "I'm here for you no matter what." A more accurate phrase is "I'm here for you until you actually become an inconvenience...then I'll do what I can to make it worse for you."
I'm NOT having a great 2014. I'm hoping 2015 is magically better.
Hugs! I'm right there with you on all of it. Our 2015 will be MUCH better than 2014.
12/2007 Engaged * 1/2010 Married * 2/2014Started TTC
4/2014 1st BFP * 8/2014 Caleb Emmanuel became an angel * 11/2014 Started TTC Again
Doubleposting because damnit, I forgot to tag and you need to see that. @dovahfel ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Please note that due to the actions of TheBump and their parent company, XO Corporation, I no longer feel safe or comfortable posting regularly on this forum for my pregnancy journey.
If you would like to seek a community of women that can help you at any stage of your journey, please consider joining us at [OUR NEW HOME].
#iStandWithTheMods #Solidarity
TTGP Acronyms/Newbie Blog “I want people to like what I do, but, at the bottom line, fuck ‘em if they don’t.” - Craig Ferguson
Back at you Rama. I miss you lately!! *huuuuuuuuuuuuuuugs*
@DovahFel I miss you, too! I s2g I'm coming back someday, when shit stops happening to me all the time.
Please note that due to the actions of TheBump and their parent company, XO Corporation, I no longer feel safe or comfortable posting regularly on this forum for my pregnancy journey.
If you would like to seek a community of women that can help you at any stage of your journey, please consider joining us at [OUR NEW HOME].
#iStandWithTheMods #Solidarity
TTGP Acronyms/Newbie Blog “I want people to like what I do, but, at the bottom line, fuck ‘em if they don’t.” - Craig Ferguson
I, like many of us, have learned so much about my body and cycles. I still have a lot to learn, but I'm so thankful for the knowledge I've gained from you ladies.
I also learned that my husband is awesome. He keeps me real and spoils me at the same time. He'll be such a good father someday.
I learned to never think "It'll never happen to me."
I also learned that people, especially close friends and family, don't really mean "I'm here for you no matter what." A more accurate phrase is "I'm here for you until you actually become an inconvenience...then I'll do what I can to make it worse for you."
I'm NOT having a great 2014. I'm hoping 2015 is magically better.
Hugs @DovahFel, 2014 was definitely not one of my better years as well. I'll be thinking and praying that this year brings you peace and many joyful moments with those who love you unconditionally!
Me: 29 DH: 34 Married 9/8/12 Started TTC 10/01/12
Dx: Hypothalamic amenorrhea by RE in 2/2013
Provera + Ovidrel trigger = BFP #1 3/24/13
DD born 11/12/13
TTC #2 since 9/01/14
Tamoxifen + Ovidrel trigger = CP (cycle 3)
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -Dr. Suess
I learned that as adolescents we were given the strong and clear sex-ed message: you can get pregnant at any time that you have unprotected sex.
That turns out to be a really tough lesson to "unlearn" in the sense of it doesn't mean something is weird or wrong with you if you don't become pregnant in a snap.
Also the journey is WIIIIIDELY misunderstood by those not in it. In a bad bad way.
I second learning patience, the hard way...
I have also learned the hard way that you can't blindly follow the advice of someone just because they have an MD behind their name. TTC has taught me to ask questions and be my own advocate. I wish I would have grown a set of lady balls a long time ago.
~Me (28) Hubs (32) Big Girl (7) ~ ~TFAS since Jan. 2013~ ~Diagnosis: MFI (Last Count 21 million, 72% motile, 2% morphology)~ ~IUI planned for early 2015~
Life's not fair and I can't compare my journey to others. As much as it sucks to watch other people conceive so quickly (some that probably shouldn't even be having kids...) I need to worry *only* about us.
That patience is the most valuable virtue... That some people get KU in a second, while others take longer... it doesn't mean you're broken, it means you'll get to experience/grow/learn more on your journey... That a kind, compassionate husband is the greatest gift from God.
I've learned that there are some things that are out of my control, and I can't plan my life out perfectly like I might want to. I'm a very type-A person and his was a hard lesson for me to learn.
I came into this a year and a half ago thinking I'd get pregnant right away and have a perfect summer due date (DH is a teacher) and I never thought about the possibility of a loss. A PCOS diagnosis, a miscarriage, a new job, and many month later, I learned that life is unpredictable and sometimes you just have to see where it takes you.
I've learned every myth you hear about getting pregnant is so not true. I've also learned that just because you stop getting terrible period cramps doesn't mean you won't develop horrendous midcycle cramping from cysts. Evil trickery done by my ovaries to me.
Here's hoping for no cramps and lots of happiness in 2015.
I'm learning that TTC is going to be a lot harder than I ever expected..
@peaseblossom55 I know exactly what you mean. When I got pregnant with DD, I went off of my birth control and 3 weeks later I found out I was pregnant. I assumed that it would be just as easy this time around. Not so much. I am learning more about my body etc because of it though, so its not all bad.
Yea I'd hope my cycle would be "normal" after BCP but it's going to take some patient and time I guess... Sometimes I get frustrated about it and other times it doesn't bother me at all.
Re: The greatest lesson I've learned...
There are still some TTC lessons I need to learn, though. Along the lines of another ongoing thread, the jealousy is hard for me to deal with. Between Thanksgiving and, say, the second week of December, I think five or six friends announced their pregnancies on Facebook. And while I was elated for them, I was devastated for us. So much so that I had to leave Facebook. I couldn't handle it. And like another bumpie's SO, my H reminded me that their being pregnant in no way interfered with or prevented us from getting pregnant. But I'm definitely with a lot of others and stuck in that jealous but not judgmental phase. My TTC resolution for 2015 is to learn to constructively deal with that jealousy and, eventually, stop it.
TTC #1 since January 2014
Met with RE Nov 2014: Cyst on left ovary. Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy 12/3 to remove cyst, endo, polyp, and fibroid
12/14: Natural cycle = BFN
1/15: Starting Femara for IUI #1
Chart Stalk Me
TTGP January Siggy Challenge: Workout Fails
Hobbies and distractions are important. I have to admit that I am very anxious and obsessive person by nature, and the TTC process consumes me many days. I read a lot, come on TB, stare at my FF chart, and work in the RE field. It is very hard for me to take a step back and quit worrying that this is still not happening for me, even though there are many TTC for much longer than I with greater complications. I find that getting back into exercise (running) and reading for pleasure not just work, is helping me a lot.
ETA added words
My Ovulation Chart
Edit: Let me add that I also learned that being out of the 1st trimester means nothing as far as that "I'm in the clear" mentality.
January TTGP Siggy Challenge: Workout Fails
New Home 12/2013
Married 12/2014
Started TTC 12/2014
Fuck your idiotic and selfish bullshit friends. I mean it when I say I'm here for you no.matter.what. Anytime, lady.
If you would like to seek a community of women that can help you at any stage of your journey, please consider joining us at [OUR NEW HOME].
“I want people to like what I do, but, at the bottom line, fuck ‘em if they don’t.” - Craig Ferguson
If you would like to seek a community of women that can help you at any stage of your journey, please consider joining us at [OUR NEW HOME].
“I want people to like what I do, but, at the bottom line, fuck ‘em if they don’t.” - Craig Ferguson
If you would like to seek a community of women that can help you at any stage of your journey, please consider joining us at [OUR NEW HOME].
“I want people to like what I do, but, at the bottom line, fuck ‘em if they don’t.” - Craig Ferguson
I also learned that my husband is awesome. He keeps me real and spoils me at the same time. He'll be such a good father someday.
~TFAS since Jan. 2013~
~Diagnosis: MFI (Last Count 21 million, 72% motile, 2% morphology)~
~IUI planned for early 2015~
That some people get KU in a second, while others take longer... it doesn't mean you're broken, it means you'll get to experience/grow/learn more on your journey...
That a kind, compassionate husband is the greatest gift from God.
I came into this a year and a half ago thinking I'd get pregnant right away and have a perfect summer due date (DH is a teacher) and I never thought about the possibility of a loss. A PCOS diagnosis, a miscarriage, a new job, and many month later, I learned that life is unpredictable and sometimes you just have to see where it takes you.
Formerly Aaren91011
I've also learned that just because you stop getting terrible period cramps doesn't mean you won't develop horrendous midcycle cramping from cysts.
Evil trickery done by my ovaries to me.
Here's hoping for no cramps and lots of happiness in 2015.