Co-sleeping to cot? - how?

BeckyF82

So we've been co sleeping with dd since she was two weeks old. Despite a few hiccups recently when ill she has generally slept well ( 8.30 pm till 7am most nights). However.. She won't sleep unless BOTH me amd DH are in the bed either side of her. She won't sleep unless her dummy is in her mouth. She has now started to fuss more when dropping off to sleep including crying and trying to roll over and stand up and the only thing that seems to calm her down is if me and DH jointly hold her down onto the bed so she can't squirm and once she is pinned down she strokes our hands and falls asleep.

We'd really like to get her to start sleeping in her cot in the nursery but whenever we try putting her in there she just immediately wakes up, rolls over and stands up. Then she just bashes the bars and cries.

Any suggestions?

nicole mackenzie

I bed share as well but have been putting her next to us in her pnp after she falls asleep each night for a couple hours. I've never had to pin her to calm her down.

When she wakes up and starts crying I sing to her and rub her back.

I just keep trying... And stay as calm as I can.

Where does LO nap?

UnofficiallyLO

Assuming cot is crib, does it fit in your room? I've read suggestions to start that way. We went from bed sharing to pnp in our room to his room but I got so tired of helping him thru every sleep cycle he's back in our bed now. I would look for some no cry sleep transition methods. It's not going that well for us so far so I wish you nothing but luck!

BeckyF82

She will only nap in someone's arms and so I think she's got used to the sensation of being held when going to sleep (hence why she seems to like it when we hold her legs down in bed lol!) but this means when we try and put her down for a nap, even when she's totally unconscious, she immediately wakes up.

Will try her cot in our bedroom idea. It might just about fit. X

Nxy

We started off with the crib in a sidecar arrangement, when DD started crawling more we moved her into the crib in our room and that was going really well. Recently she's in bed with me more often than not because of the standing and falling. She hit her head really hard about two weeks ago and since then whenever she cries in the crib I jump right up. This has been a huge, huge setback in our transition to the crib and working on sttn. The only advice I've gotten is to set her back down on her back with no other contact and let her cio. I feel awful doing this because before she could pull up I'd let her cry a bit and she'd fall right to sleep now she pulls up then cries and I can't even get out of the room before she starts to cry and is standing again so I have to just stand there while she screams because she knows I'm there and wants me to hold her.. I have no clue what to do..   (sorry for the novel)   :-/

BeckyF82

Just an update:

So we tried the Cry It Out method last night in order to try and get her to sleep a)in her crib in the nursery instead of in our bed and b) without her dummy as she seems to need it constantly in to sleep. I was a bit dubious but it's the school holidays and I said to DH if we were going to risk not getting any sleep ourselves, now was the time to do it.

We let her cry for 3 mins, 5 mins and then 8 mins soothing her and patting her each time I went in. When I left after soothing her after the 8 minute cry she just went to sleep on her own! I kept expecting her to wake back up but she didn't. That was at 9.30pm last night. It's now 8.30am the following morning and she still isn't awake! I can see her breathing on the monitor and occasionally she wriggles but she has been asleep for 11 uninterrupted blissful hours! Yay!

UnofficiallyLO

That's great news! Congrats and I'm mildly jealous

JWest07

I'm extremely jealous!

BeckyF82

Well It's deffo been harder tonight. She cried for 3, 5, 8, 10, & 12 minute intervals. In all, including quiet periods, it took about an hour. She's finally gone to sleep now but god knows for how long.

JWest07

Just wanted to let you know that any success I've had with CIO has been at bedtime. For both my sons the checks and "soothing" without picking them up only seemed to agitate them. Both boys have done better if I just stay away. I listen on the monitor, and if the crying only escalates I go to them and do whatever it takes to settle them (rocking). If the crying seems more like a complaint I let them go for a while.