Telling family with dementia...?

cabinchick

I didn't want this to come across wrong, but apparantly it did...so advice?:

I'm going in to visit my dad's dad tomorrow to tell him in person that DH and I are expecting. My grandma passed last year, so he's still very lonely and everything, and this will be the first great grandkid in the family. He's also been bugging me about when I'll have a kid, saying he's finally ready.

Well, apparently my mother was offended I didn't think to plan a visit to her dad in the same town. I thought about it, but honestly - this trip will be a 1.5 hr drive AFTER my 7 hr drive home...I'm gonna be tired! Also, he has 9 great grandkids already, plus the ones in his wife's family. I just saw him at Thanksgiving, but felt it was too early to tell. I feel FINE telling him via phone or Skype (he's that grandpa...that can skype!). My main reason for not wanting to stop by is that his wife (not my grandma) hasn't been doing well. Her Alzheimers is making for a lot of bad days...and I know the stress of prepping her to socialize is a lot...and I honestly get it. I just figured it would be stressful for everyone, and a little selfish...but maybe I'm wrong?