Does your ob/midwife refer to your baby by specific sex?

2undertwo2bee

we are team green. But my ob has said "he looks good" once and when I asked if what she meant she quickly said she uses them interchangeably all the time. However yesterday at the labor and delivery triage they did an ultrasound and I hadn't told them I was team green because they said they were just checking heartbeat and sac size. Well the dr said oh he looks good he's just chilling. I told my husband and now he's freaking out excited about it being a boy. Now I feel we almost need to just find out so that we don't get stuck on a gender which is the whole reason we were team green so we wouldn't have any disappointments.

So my question is. Does your dr or midwife use he/she and go back and forth when referring to baby? I wonder if it's common to use both when talking in general. I honestly refer to the baby as he or she sometimes depending on my mood.

And mobile bumping so I am sorry if this has been asked before I tried to look back a few pages. If it has I guess we can all post funny gifs of flamingoes, though maybe we can add some cute cats too

cassietegtmeier

Mine always referred to baby as baby till we found out it's a boy. Sounds like your dr spilled the beans.

Ballet80

Yes we are having a boy and they always refer to it as "he" or "him". But do they ever use "she" or "her" when they are talking to you? So they might generally just change it up when referring to your baby.

animaldoctor12

That stinks. I haven't seen my OB since my anatomy scan to hear what they will do now, but previously they just called he/she baby.

I had a similar situation happen to me last week except that the doctor scanned over the groin after I told her that I didn't want to know. Lo and behold baby flashed her bits to me. I decided to then confirm on the anatomy scan because I didn't want to be convinced it was a girl then have any sort of let down at birth, if that makes any sense. I was more worried about my husband than myself with that. Now we know that we are having a healthy baby girl!

MrsPDX

At every appointment I've had they called the baby "the baby" and not he or she.

Sounds like they spoiled the surprise for you... I would definitely call to check, because what if it's actually a girl and you guys go the whole time now planning for a boy?

staccajaye

I agree with PP and I think they have blown the surprise. The u/s techs and the doctor have been saying the baby.
With our atonomy scan and I told the tech to write it on an envelope because we want to open in on Christmas Day, she said she wrote on our file, sex confirmed, but didn't write M or F so the doctor then asked me after wards and I told him what we are doing. He said once we open envelope he will update file.

Also, not a cat fan.... Team dogs baby

MrsKindy40

I'm pretty sure with my son after we knew he was a boy they would confirm at every appt that we knew what we were having before they would say he.

Your doctor probably uses he/she interchangably I wouldn't put too much thought into it.

Lalalady54

Mine stated if we didn't want to find out, that he would never know and would use "he" however most drs in the practice use he/she interchangeably

That being said my last pregnancy I had to go to OB triage at 20weeks for IV fluids and they did a quick u/s (we knew the sex) but the first words out of the OB residents mouth were, "did you know you're having a girl?" So this is my PSA always tell people you don't know or don't want to know before that u/s probe goes on your belly!

2undertwo2bee

Thanks everyone. I am going to talk it over with husband and see what e wants to do. And your right I should have def let the dr know I was just so worried abt the worst I didn't even think abt it.

Pintobean39

Mine refers to the baby as him or her. He even told me in the beginning that he does that and don't take it as meaning anything. The other day at my appt he called her a drama queen and then said he's a mischievous little boy. My Dr doesn't even know what were having. I think he also said he won't know because if we tell them team green it won't even be in the chart.

Honestly and truthfully your Dr could probably care less if it's a boy or a girl and they are probably just referring to it as a him because it's easier to say him or her than it or the baby. There may be some Dr's out there that may refer to it as "the baby" and some that say "him or her" but I doubt very seriously they have ruined your suprise for you.

stark01938209

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sP4NMoJcFd4

wingardium3

My MW refers to the baby as just the baby. My a/s scan is Monday, so maybe that will change??? I think Drs use both without really thinking about it.

CTri17

the u/s tech at our anatomy scan with DD2 when we were team green and told her repeatedly still said she a bunch of times. and would catch herself and say he once in a we while. Yeah, we didn't know 100% but we were pretty sure after how much she said she

MallyJM128

Mine usually says "baby" or "little person" or something along those lines. If he slipped and said he or she I wouldn't read too much into it.

For my mom's last pregnancy the ultrasound tech said "she has lots of hair" one time. A different tech said she another time. So my parents thought my little brother was going to be "Laura" instead of "John" until he came out all boy!

MAdams728

From the beginning of both pregnancies, my doctor has referred to my babies as "he" or "junior". We found out pretty early that this baby is, in fact, a boy, but he switched to "she" as soon as we knew my DD was a girl.