Room sharing with baby ?

la79al

Is anyone not planning on the baby sleeping in your room for the first few months?  I feel like the only one.  We tried it with DD2 and nobody slept.  This one is going to have to start in the crib at probably a week old until DH gets frustrated with me getting up a million times to nurse the baby and moves to the couch, at which point baby and I will bedshare.  At least that is what happened with DD2.  I really have no intention of the baby being in any kind of bed in our room though.  

gsancho

My best friend did straight to the crib after a week or two, and she hasn't had many problems with it.  I still think I'd rather use a bassinett for the first month or two - probably b/c I'm a FTM and don't know what to expect, yet.

marijaa333

I wouldn't room share if the nursery was on the same floor; but given that there's a long flight of stairs between our bedroom and what will become the baby's room, I'd rather skip the nightly treks and just have the kid nearby until he can sleep for longer than a couple of hours.

april245

I plan on it, but don't know how that will go, being this is my first baby, lol

abethany

We live in a 1 bd apartment in SF. We're planning to rearrange our room a bit but will be sharing our room. Many families in urban areas do this, as well. Pinterest has tons of great ideas too.

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animaldoctor12

Smilz4782 said:

Is anyone not planning on the baby sleeping in your room for the first few months?  I feel like the only one.  We tried it with DD2 and nobody slept.  This one is going to have to start in the crib at probably a week old until DH gets frustrated with me getting up a million times to nurse the baby and moves to the couch, at which point baby and I will bedshare.  At least that is what happened with DD2.  I really have no intention of the baby being in any kind of bed in our room though.  

I'm far too paranoid of SIDS to NOT room share with my babies for the first few months.

Ftm question here, but how does having the baby in the same room decrease the risk of SIDS?

Nita2603

We room shared with the first two (or tried) and while DH slept ok, I found out how noisy babies are even if they are sound asleep. And how much I need quiet to sleep. So we ended up taking shifts in the living room with kiddos and transitioned into the crib once they slept a tiny but better.

lakingsfan2015

I have no idea what we are going to do. We are still room sharing with my 2 year old because he still wakes up and I rather him wake me up than my 8 year old. I am hoping we get a bigger house before these babies come, but even then we will probably room share with them for the first few months.

beaseg

I have lots of friends that did this starting when baby was 2 weeks old. For me, nursing is time consuming and I get much more sleep with baby nearby. My DH can sleep through anything, including me kicking him and snarling "GET UP! SHE POOPED! CHANGE HER! I DO EVERYTHIIIIIIIIIIIIING". hahahahahaha. oh, i can't wait for that demon lady to come back again......

MAdams728

There is no way I could have put DD in her own room as a newborn. I loved having her with us, and so did DH. Our master is on the absolute opposite end of the house from the other bedrooms, I cant even hear her cry without the monitor. She slept in her own bed in our room until almost 6 months old. She was a quiet sleeper, though.

Pintobean39

We won't be room sharing. I did that with my first and it was a nightmare, I never slept good. My second slept in his room from day 1 and everyone in the house slept like a champ. My husband also only gets 2 weeks off of work after the birth and then has to go back to work. He works 7 day stretches of 12-14 hours a day. He can't be up and down all night with a baby waking him and then have to function at the hospital the next day.

I imagine if I have a csection I may have to reevaluate in the beginning but I'm going off my recovery of my 2 boys and I was fine.

I actually looked up the recommendation of room sharing to prevent SIDS and I didn't find where the act itself reduces the chance of SIDS. They also recommend that it's most important for the parents to have sleep so if room sharing is causing you not to sleep then you don't need to do it.

A friend of mine used an angel monitor because she didn't room share either and is letting me borrow it.

nicunursetomommy

Originally, we were going to put our LO straight in a crib in a nursery; however, we will be sticking with a one bedroom apartment and will put baby's crib and changing table in the corner of our room and make a mini nursery. I was disappointed about not having a "real" nursery at first, but now I am happy I will have my LO right there with me

tinyjoys

My husband and I just talked about this this morning. With our first, he slept in our room for the first 3 months at night, but napped in his crib/nursery during the day. His room was right next door and we shared a wall.

This time around, baby's room would be across the hall, but we would still share a wall. Because of the repeat csection and our house having stairs this time around, I'm hoping to have babe in their room at night, but in a p&p or r&p during the day downstairs in the living room to limit my trips upstairs once I'm alone. But, we'll see how it actually works out. Our first only woke up once during the night until 3 months and then slept from 9-6 and woke up to eat before sleeping until 8. If this babe is anything like that, they'll be in their nursery day one.

tiggyt

We're putting baby in its crib right away so we won't ever have to transition, but since the crib will be in the guest room that already has a bed in it, I will room share during the first few weeks when feelings are all the time and then move back to my bedroom with DH once they slow to 1-2 a night. So kind of both.

newmama1986

The way our house is set up allows no other option but to have the baby in our room. I'm sure it will be trying at times but it's what has to be done for now.

ladydimom

So one option for peace of mind is the angel care monitor that monitors the baby's breathing! It's the only way I could sleep comfortably in my room. If the child stops breathing for more than a few seconds, it beeps on both sides to alert you, and to startle baby. This worked great as my son has sleep apnea and wouldn't breathe for 20 seconds at a time.

lala5507

We intended to room share with my first but after the first few nights it was making me a basket case.  I jumped at every single little noise she made (she was a noisy sleeper).  We moved her to the crib after a few nights. 

Dd2 had to be in our room because I didn't want her to share with dd1 until she was sleeping better.  She was in our room for a couple of months. 

I will probably room share with this one until we get on a schedule because our room is farthest away from the girls rooms.  Hopefully it will muffle the crying a bit more. 


I don't see anything wrong with putting a baby in their room from night one. 

rels09

NariaDreaming said:

HilarityEnsued said:

animaldoctor12 said:

Ftm question here, but how does having the baby in the same room decrease the risk of SIDS?

it doesn't.  It might help quell anxieties because you feel like the baby is right there you and you can check on them every single minute, but in practicality it doesn't do anything to reduce SIDS.

Actually, there are multiple published studies showing a relationship between room-sharing and a decrease in the number of SIDS deaths. I don't have time to pull them all up right now, but even the AAP recommends that parents room-in with their newborn to decrease SIDS risk. 

Correct. The theory is that being around a parent's breathing and arousal patterns subconsciously reminds baby to breathe and not to fall into the super deep sleeps that are associated with SIDS.

rels09

HilarityEnsued said:

rels09 said:

Correct. The theory is that being around a parent's breathing and arousal patterns subconsciously reminds baby to breathe and not to fall into the super deep sleeps that are associated with SIDS.

this is flimsy at best.  Again, correlation =/= causation.  

Yes, I am an economist, so I am aware of that. The problem is, the same could be said for most of the other strategies you recommended as "proven" in your prior post. For example, a fan in the room is also "merely" correlated with lower SIDS deaths, too - no one has proven that the lack of a fan causes SIDS. Many people want to do as many things as possible to lower the risk. Room sharing is proven to lower risk, for whatever reason. The thing about SIDS is that it is by definition an unexplained death, so yes, most of the recommended strategies for reducing risk are going to be based on correlation.

RustyGirl3

Both girls were in our room in the bassinet until they were too big for it.  We liked having them close by.  DD#1 was an awful sleeper and was up a lot in the middle of the night.  DD#2 usually didn't wake for another feeding until after DH was already gone for work.  So I am hoping this baby takes after her.  Haha.

We are going to be shifting rooms around when the baby comes.  His/Her room will be upstairs and ours will be downstairs so it will be easier for us in the beginning to be in the same room.

mp03jp

I have co-slept and room shared with both my kids and I'm sure I will with this one too. My hospital actually gave out information with pros for both bed/room sharing and having baby in their own room. Co-sleeping and room sharing are not for everyone. I'm a super light sleeper so I don't worry about sleeping with baby in my arms. I get uncomfortable first.

Also I wish I could find it but there was an article I read about SIDS. In the study that the article was it about it suggested that SIDS is more likely linked to a neurological disorder where babies simply forget to breathe. Having too many pillows/blankets is suffocation risk and not related to why or how SIDS happen.