Second and Third Trimester Discussion (12/01)

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Hey ladies. This is a place to chit-chat, question, rant, bitch, moan, rave, et cetera, about all things second and third trimester. Go!

mandi195

My back is lame lately, always hurting. I have zero sex drive, and it makes me feel bad, because my husband is amazing and when I sit here and think about it, I WANT to have sex with him, but I am just never in the mood. It's putting a strain on us both a bit. I initiated last night, after almost a month without. Whoever said pregnancy sex was great for everyone lied... unless there's some magic position I haven't thought up yet. I couldn't get comfortable enough to enjoy it... 

Also, I'm in this weird place between so not ready for little lady to be here yet, and so impatient for her arrival. 14 more weeks... 

ToriGirl2014

@mmheartspb - try compression stockings.  I was having a lot of edema in my legs around 25 weeks and the full stocking with moderate compression helped immensely.  I peed like a horse that first day of wearing them.

I ordered mine on Amazon.  Warning though - they are hard to get into - you might need help from YH to pull them on in the morning.

ToriGirl2014

@mmheartspb - can you send me the stretches, too?  You will have my undying affection for life.

peggels24

@mmheartspb Even if you gain more than the dr's recommended - if it's all water retention, that will go away.  Don't concentrate too much on the number on the scale with regard to the water retention.

peggels24

Baby is super active recently like more than I have ever felt her before.  Did anyone else feel increased movement around 32 weeks?  I hope that it slows down soon - it can get to be pretty uncomfortable.

mandi195

Also, because I'm all about the TMI today... I haven't pooped in like 2 weeks. I'm pretty sure I'm dying (/sarcasm)... fiber powder & miralax... fingers crossed they work. I've been taking fiber powder (metamucil) at least once a day for over a week, and I'm on day 2 of miralax. Hoping I don't have to resort to a laxative again... they lie... they are anything but gentle. 

Samuelismomma

@mandi195‌ be careful of Metamucil , it will bind you up further, you have to take it and drink like two glasses of water after , every time. That's why my ob doesn't really recommend it...just the miralax!

dragonfly1809

@mandi195‌ Try a spoonful of flax seed in a big glass of juice - slug it down fast..it gets all gelatinous (ew) like Metamucil can..
It was something my naturopath suggested. It works for me

Sex? LOL.. It's just embarrassing now. "whale wars" (a term I learned on my September '13 board) is what it is. Not enjoyable, and I don't even pretend to. I'm exhausted and huge and baby's riding high so I can't even breathe.. Sex? yeahokaywhatever

@ToriGirl2014‌ @mmheartspb‌ I second those compression socks. Those things are amazing.

@peggels24‌ Though my little guy's movement has slowed down (31 weeks), when he does move it's not comfortable (not that I'm complaining - feeling him move is the only thing keeping me sane). He sometimes gets really active - and yeah: ow. Organs get kicked, my pelvic floor gets jabbed, and my bladder, well, it has not held up. My husband is not impressed with how often I say: I peed a little. :S

mandi195

Samuelismomma Thanks for the tip! I've been mixing it in a huge glass of water (it's like 3.5 cups or so), but I'll try to up the water intake some more yet. 

dragonfly1809 I will try the flax see! Thanks for the tip! Also, whale wars indeed... what a joke.

shell041783 before I was pregnant, that was my "this'll make me poo" within an hour trick... now, it just makes my stomach upset. I used to swear by a large, vanilla iced coffee and hotcakes! 

MoreThanSparrows08

@peggels24 My LO seems to have picked up in activity lately, too.  And it's very uncomfortable most of the time... 

@mmheartspb could you send me the stretches, too?? My back has been hurting since 1st tri... 

I'm so tired of being tired all the time... I get two or three hours of good, solid sleep right after I go to bed, but then I get up to pee, and then I toss and turn for the rest of the night...  And the temperature is never right... Last night it was too cold without any coverings but too warm with them (and of course in my sleepless tossing stupor, it never occurred to me to try just the sheet instead of all or nothing). 

My question is whether any of you lovely ladies know what position baby is in.  I can never tell whether Baby Sparrow is head down already or not.  Seems to me that he's still moving and rolling all around because sometimes his kicks are here, and sometimes they're there, etc.  Is there any way to tell without a sono?

And another - I've read you can hear baby's heartbeat with a stethoscope at this point - any tips on how to do this? I haven't had any luck yet...

peggels24

@morethansparrows08 Yes - I am very uncomfortable - especially when sitting up because I think maybe sitting up makes her uncomfortable so she squirms and kicks and whatnot.  

I only know her position because I've had a ton of ultrasounds and I can tell that she hasn't moved from where the majority of the kicks are.  She's actually breech right now - I go back next week for another ultrasound to see if she's flipped yet.

amanda33758

Okay I just started having hot flashes this morning but now my skin has been flushed most of the day. Any tips on coping? I thought I was having a wicked blood pressure spike but it's only just a little bit higher than I normally run.

TheFutureMrsD

MoreThanSparrows08 said:

My question is whether any of you lovely ladies know what position baby is in.  I can never tell whether Baby Sparrow is head down already or not.  Seems to me that he's still moving and rolling all around because sometimes his kicks are here, and sometimes they're there, etc.  Is there any way to tell without a sono?

My OB's office pokes and prods at my belly and can tell where she's at.  I want to say they started doing that around 34 or 36 weeks?  We had a sono last week and sure enough, she was right where they said she was.

Samuelismomma

@mmheartspb‌ I just realized from your ticker you will be 35/35 tomorrow! Holy cow! Lol
Contractions are still wearing me out and I feel like I'm carrying her all under my belly button:( exhausting with a 2 1/2 year old you is trying to stay up all night partying!

pblge

Hi Ladies! Can I get in on the back exercise PMs, too? That was going to be my question for the week.

pblge

mmheartspb said:

@pblge‌ I'll pm you tomorrow as I'm mobile now Just make sure to ask your doctor first.

Yes ma'am!

KMW08

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@mmheartspb‌ I didn't gain much weight until starting at about 31.5wks. My OB only wanted me to gain 10-15lbs (overweight to start with). By 36.5wks I had gained 30lbs, but had a lot of swelling.

Csection was at 37w3d, and when I got home 4 days later, I weighed myself and was down 20lbs. LO is 3w2d now and I'm 4lbs under my pre-pg weight and still holding fluid in my feet.

I just wanted to reinforce that a lot of weight really is water weight, and it especially builds in the last few weeks.

E&B0811

KMW08 said:

Lurking...

I just wanted to reinforce that a lot of weight really is water weight, and it especially builds in the last few weeks.

As I sit here with my giant swollen feet and legs propped up, I cannot tell you how happy this makes me. :x

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E&B0811

GrailSeeker14 said:

Birch113 said:

Anyone else forget how to sleep? I seem to wake up Every. Single. Hour these days.

You just described my life.

Really wishing I could string together some decent hours of sleep.

Ditto.

taberbtb

@peggels24‌ I think like @Hawkward‌ said LO's movements are just more noticible now because s/he is running out of room. I have also noticed baby being more active lately and sometimes it's just flat out painful. I was telling my MIL the other day I am afraid I am carrying a very violent and angry baby!

@MoreThanSparrows08‌ my midwife palpates my belly at my last two appointments to check LO's position. At 28wk she was still breech/transverse and at my appointment last week she told me she was head down. I think she's right because I am getting the crap kicked out of my ribs, which I hadn't felt before. I have an u/s this afternoon so I will find out for sure. Also the mw has switched from the Doppler to a stethoscope at the same two appointments to listen to the HB. She let me listen to it both times but to be honest the first time I just pretended to hear. It is so insanely quiet you almost can't hear it, even after the mw has "found it" and heard it herself it still took me a minute for my ears to hear anything but silence.

@mandi195 pregnancy sex USED to be amazing for me. That was before I was put on pelvic rest at 18w. Womp womp. If I get cleared after my u/s today I will let you know if I find a good position Maybe I am being unrealistic about a "good" position though, I have to admit my body has changed a lot in 3 months…

Bigboneded

I've been lucky, but now at 32 weeks, I get woken up with bile taste, yuck! My stretch marks just started coming in. Babies are moving a lot, both head down. Nothing uncomfortable- except a lot of pressure low down if they stretch out! I need a bigger belly band....
Occasional itchies, belly, arms, knees, whatever- sometimes I have a rash, mostly not...
Carpal tunnel has been a drag.... my fingers are numb all the time! I have a hard time with fine motor stuff, I drop little things I cant feel, Q tips, pens, etc....
the worst is if my palms itch or hurt- I tell my DH it is cruelly unfair to have numb and itch or numb and pain simultaneously! !!
Happy to be pregnant still. And so far the worst has been bearable.... but I do know it's coming :-) I just tell myself, 2 more months max... :-)

BackstreetPixie

@mandi195. Yeah about the sex.. We have inly had sex 2 times since we got pregnant. Totally not normal for us but i can never get in the mood and the last time we did i got BH so bad. He says don't worry we have the rest of our lives for that but i love him and feel so bad. =( Also about poo.. Do you like pickles? Eating pickles for some reason always helps me when I am stopped up. Also prunes and if you can stand it prune juice.


Y'all I am sick. So so sick. I went to the doctor and no flu, no strep, no infections. She said it is just some kind of cold like virus. I feel like hell. My sinuses hurt and are full ears are full of fluid and keep trying to pop and never do, nose running and stuffy at the same time, throat hurts, and i am dry coughing (nothing comes up!) sneezing...add to it normal pregnancy aches and pains and not being able to find a comfortable way to sleep... I am miserable. The only thing that gets me through it is feeling peep move in there. That is still so amazing and makes me smile even while i feel like chopping of my head... To relieve sinus pressure... Doc has me taking sudafed, robatusen, a nasal rinse, and tylenol. I have sat in the steamy bathroom a fee tines it seems to help.

mandi195

BackstreetPixie I had a horrible cold (I swear, it was evil) for over 2 weeks solid. It was hell. Get better, please!

Also... sex... I'm going to make myself find a way to enjoy it...or at least pretend it's good for me too, cuz hubs is all about the pregnant sex... and I haven't given it up at all lol... I swear, MAYBE 6-8 times since we got pregnant... poor man.

mpiemont

Hi ladies- jumping in here. I'm 17w4d. Just remembering how much I like early 2nd tri. I'm not a huge whale yet, I don't have crippling heartburn or pelvic pain, and I can eat normal food without the weird cravings (like straight mayonnaise on bread- what was that?!).

I'm sure as soon as I hit "post", I'm going to get swelling in my feet

peggels24

@backstreetpixie I'm sorry that you are feeling so crummy!  I hope you start to mend soon.  

@mpeimont I bet you can make it through the whole second trimester "feeling great"!