I apologize if this is a trigger for anyone. I really don't want to upset anyone.
So today DS spent the day with his nana and two cousins on his Dad's side. We see them often- his aunts are the two I call my sisters.
Well today nana was crafting with the boys and had them write a letter to Santa. She's done this the last few years. This is the first year DS can write independently. When I came up pick up DS she pulled me aside. She apologized for having him write to Santa and handed me the letter with tissues.
DS wrote a letter asking Santa for his Dad back. He added that he would like a new video game and a new switch n go Dino also but I couldn't get past the first line. The entire thing was written by DS invented spelling and all.
Nana said she talked to him about how although Santa is magic he only brings toys. She said he accepted that answer and they talked about his Dad one on one for a while. She also talked to him about SO and DS said he loves him and is happy we have him. I was in tears and I know this had to hurt her too- after all he was her son.
I know there really isn't anything I can say to make it better. I think DS will be ok (when I picked him up he was happy and had moved on) and he knows Santa has his limits. I am also thinking of possibly bringing him back to a counselor, just so he can start to talk about his feelings. We saw one when this happened, but DS couldn't talk yet (he had a severe speech delay) and so we stopped going. He honestly doesn't bring it up often but this is the third time in as many weeks. This is so hard sometimes.
SO committed to spending some one on one time with him too. He teared up when he read the letter also. We both told him that anytime he wants to talk we are here. Both of my parents are still living and I don't know anyone who lost a parent so young. I'm just looking for any advice you ladies may have. I'm so sorry this got so long!