background...we have a 4.5 year old - babies will be exactly 5 years apart. DS was the perfect sleeper until DH and I started having significant marital issues and almost divorced a little over a year ago. DS started coming into our bed around 3am every morning - most mornings we don't notice because we slept with our backs to each other, not touching - we currently put a crib mattress on the floor and he goes there and wakes up every few hours to ask to come to our bed.
This has not been terrible - however, I'm going to add a snoogle to our queen sized bed in about a month...and when baby comes the rock n play will be in our room and I'm hoping to nurse like I did, so we may wake up DS1 when baby cries. We are looking into a king sized bed, which helps for space at least - but now that DH and I are getting along, we'd like to get it on in the mornings because we are exhausted at night and sex is becoming a chore again (not like cleaning a toilet, but takes too much energy to get in the mood!)
I had a fire when I was younger and refuse to lock my son in his room (and I recognize that would be the best help!) - I still refuse, I'd never sleep.
He doesn't respond to charts or rewards - he does to praise though.
Anyone have out of the box ideas?!
Poor kid has been in a transition phase since June! Long-term visitors that took his room and bed, job out of town where we stayed in a hotel for a month in the same room, and moving unexpectedly! We are still in a temporary rental (month to month) while we look to buy a home...but with the current market it may not be until April!!! Help me!!