God parents

camdensmom32

Looked around but hadn't seen a discussion on this. When is everyone choosing God parents for their baby? I think last time I waited till after baby was born and then asked them. We already know who we want for this baby. Is it to soon to ask??

KER9171

I haven't decided yet who I want to have. I don't think it's too soon to ask if you're 100 percent sure who you want!

tiggyt

We don't have any obvious choices so we're going to wait awhile after the baby is born to decide and baptize somewhere between 3 and 6 months, but if you do know who you want to ask, I'd say go for it.

Megaphone2752

We know who we're going to ask. I'm going to wait and see how the timing works out in terms of when to ask. My friend who will be the godmother is probably going to come visit after the baby is born, so when she more seriously starts to look at booking a flight, we'll probably ask her and see if we can line up her trip with the baptism.

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OnceInLoveWithAmy

With my son I always knew I wanted to ask my cousin to be his godmother. She is practically like my sister and one of my best friends so it seemed like a natural choice. I think I asked her about a month after he was born, and he was baptized when he was 5 months.

I wanted my husband to pick a godfather, but he was being stubborn. So I asked my brother. I am his oldest daughters godmother, so it works. I think we asked him about a month before the baptism.

With this baby, I am making the husband pick both.

Pintobean39

We don't do God parents either but we picked out a guardian before we ever even did the transfer for IVF. Our will even has the future child "if applicable" written in it. So this child will be taken care of.

RustyGirl3

We know for sure who the Godfather is...DH's brother.

We aren't sure who the Godmother should be.  We have talked about it being DH's niece.  His sister is Godmother to DD#1 and my sister is Godmother to DD#2.  We don't want to ask any of our SIL's so the next option would be our nieces. DH doesn't want it to be a friend either.

I have a niece on my side who has always been like a little sister to me, I was 9 when she was born, but as a couple we are closer to DH's niece. 

VeganOnTuesdays

I am having a hard time with this one. My SIL is an incredible mom and my # 1 choice as guardian should anything ever happen to my H and I, however... her husband.. I just could not in good conscience leave my child with him. He is verbally abusive to both his wife and his children among other disgusting personality traits. I would never want to have my child go through the trauma of losing both parents and then having to move in with him. As for god parents. I wasn't baptized until I was 12 years old. I was able to understand the religion I was being baptized into and then was able to pick my godparents as well. It's something that has stuck with me my whole life and I would like to give the same experience to my child. We will see. 

VeganOnTuesdays

bwisco123 said:

Ok.  I'm glad someone brought this up!
We are REALLY struggling with the whole 'who to choose' thing.  Godmother choice has been pretty easy - I'm very close with my cousin and we've always kind of known we would want her as a godmother to our child.

The godfather though - not as easy.  I'm torn I guess because while I'm my nephew's godmother - my brother and I are about as polar opposite as they come.  His parenting style is not something I agree with and I just can't imagine having him as my child's god father which makes me feel terrible!  I'm not very close with any male cousins and DH's brother is not religious at all.  Close friends have some possibilities but we don't really have anyone that we feel close enough with to ask (A lot of close friends are girls I grew up with and their spouses).  I just feel like we'll never be able to pick someone.  I'm sure its not quite acceptable to only have a godmother right??

I had 2 godmothers. I turned out just fine. Haha

lala5507

We have no clue who we are picking, so probably not until after the baby is born.  It's hard to find a good Catholic these days.  At least in our circle.  It would be strictly a "spiritual" Godparent rule not guardianship. 

lakingsfan2015

DS1 is the only one with Godparents, my at the time best friend and my mother's boyfriend. My mother's boyfriend was there throughout my pregnancy and even now 15 years later has a very close relationship with my son but I didn't feel comfortable with any of my sons calling him grandpa because my dad is very much in the picture and I feel it is/was disrespectful, so he is his godfather. 

Now in our will, guardianship will go to my sister, there was never a doubt in that, unless DS1 is over the age of 25 then we have that the younger ones can go to him, if he choses. In 10 years DS2 will be 18 and DS3 would be 12 and the twins 9. We just redid our wills to include the twins.

morgansWed105148

Like many of you I'm struggling with this! I know my brother for sure, but God mother?? I'm not close to any women in my family. I just don't want to pick someone that will not be around and close to my child. I think I'm going to wait till 6 months after and see how baby changes our family.

mpiemont

DS1 we asked when I was 37 weeks.
DS2 we didn't decide/ask until after he was born.
I have NO IDEA who we will ask for this baby.

jesslfar

  I have a special needs child, and honestly asking the God parents to take all 3 kids into their home is a really big thing to ask.  The people who will take care of our children if anything happens to us are different from our God parents.  Family gets the kids in the event anything happens, but our children's God parents are those who are responsible for their moral character and are a part of their lives.  We went with the same ones for all three children, but we did not make a choice until our oldest was over a year.  It is a really big decision and we didn't want to change our minds.

AlexandriaPR

I don't think there is a time that is "perfect" for this. Our best friends are also pregnant, they are due in January and they asked us last month. I think when you feel comfortable and when you have picked them you can ask.

We are still thinking. It's hard because all of our good friends are far away!

MrsPDX

I have no clue what we are doing about this. I don't have very many close friends here, so I unsure of the Godmother part. We already picked the Godfather, just haven't announced it. It's a close friend of DH. Just don't know who to pick for Godmother, since there is no obvious choices....

sbride68

My husband and I are just joining a church partly because we never officially joined once we were married and partly because we have been asked to be the god parents of one of my friends three little boys. We are catholic. Well my husband grew up catholic and I converted before our wedding. At the church we are joining they are extremely strict that the god parents must be catholic. If they go to that church they don't need a paper signed but if they go to a different church they have to have their priest sign a paper stating they are basically in good standing at their church in order to qualify as god parents. Most of our friends and all of my family are NOT catholic so i am very torn on what to do because when we have our child baptized we won't be able to have the people that matter to us be the god parents. I'm not sure what to do on that yet.