Telling "Work" when Work Doesn't Need to Know (grad student question)

tiggyt

So I'm at an awkward moment where I just started randomly showing this week and I still haven't told my PhD advisor (or most of the faculty, or any of the staff in my department).  The reason I haven't told them is because it won't actually affect my teaching or progress to degree.  The academic year here ends around April 20, I'm due on May 1, and I have fellowship lined up for at least the fall semester next year, if not the whole school year.  (And yes, I'm the type of person who can work on/finish my dissertation with a baby in the house, especially when it's all new and mostly sleeps.)  The faculty members who do know know because they're my friends and I told them when I told all my grad student friends.  But I'm not "friends" with most of the faculty, including my advisor, or the staff members, as much as we have a great colleagues/coworkers relationship.  I should also note that I'm not worried about lack of support, either.  I have an extremely supportive department - PhD students have babies in our department all the time - and my advisor loves little kids and I think would have no reason to believe that having a kid now would slow my progress to degree.  My problem is that when you don't have to bring it up, and it doesn't naturally come up, it's awkward.  My friends who have recently had babies have female advisors who had kids too, some of them in grad school.  My advisor is a 70 year old man with no children, and I'm only his third female student ever, and the only one to reproduce while still in grad school.  I just don't know how to bring it up to him without any real need.

My question for you: Am I being ridiculous and I should just bite the bullet and tell him at our next meeting?  Or should I wait until I'm really showing and can't hide it anymore and let him see, and if he wants to talk about it we can but don't have to?  Do I tell him in an email?  Do I encourage someone else to let it slip to him?  By the end of the semester, my only option will be Option 2, but I don't know if it's the best one.  Has anyone else been in a similar situation, or have any thoughts or advice at all?  Thank you - I appreciate your responses. 

bdbrandt2

Exactly what she said ^^ you just never know what may come up. Just bring it up at your next meeting, you don't need to go in to great detail but it's just professional courtesy in my opinion