Tell on a holiday or not?

squeegoi

We July mothers have the unique opportunity to have our pick of holidays from which to announce our pregnancies to the family. I've seen several threads about announcing during Thanksgiving or any number of religious holidays, or even New Year's. Some are specifically avoiding holidays. What about you?

ChristyM87

My husband wants to announce to family at Christmas. I will be 9 weeks, which I think is a bit early

ecgal87

Trying to wait until Christmas, which is 9.5 weeks. We announced last time at 7.5 weeks, which is pretty early, I know. It's what you feel comfortable with.

squeegoi

JustinsLovo said:

Your last option made me laugh!

I live but to serve, haha.

coopmke

Thanksgiving for family, Christmas to go "public"

c-elizabethf

We are announcing probably on christmas

catahoulatte

Last time, we announced to family at Christmas, about 9-ish weeks.

This time, we already told parents and siblings. I will be telling my immediate family that will be at Thanksgiving privately and before the holiday because my cousin is hosting Thanksgiving and also dealing with IF right now and I'd rather a big deal not be made about it at her house on a holiday.

JerseyML

I wanted to do it Christmas Eve for my fam and Christmas Day for his. My mom has a different plan. If you have an ethnic mother you know her way or no way.

Bountifulbride

We will tell extended family and friends on January 13th, which will be mine and DH's 11th wedding anniversary

SlurpeeLove

I was going to tell everyone at Thanksgiving, but that got all messed up and we ended up telling the parents already.  It's not officially announced (facebook or social media), just family and a few friends.  We'll probably wait until the new year to officially announce then.

[Deleted User]

Announcing to both sides of the family at a Christmas when I'll be 13 weeks!

cherish1986

Announcing on thanksgiving if I haven't miscarried.

tweldon08

I think I will tell immediate family on Thanksgiving and other family on Christmas, but I am still deciding. I really wanna give my dad a little Turkey that has the due date on it!

ashleyanny

We're planning to announce on Christmas to our extended families. I'll be 10 weeks by then and we'll have our 3rd u/s the week before so I feel pretty comfortable with that. My dad always dresses up as santa and hands out gifts to the kids on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day (we spend each day with opposite sides of my family) so my mom thought it would be cute to wrap something up that said "Baby Ourlastname" and have santa announce it. I thought it would be great and my dad is really excited to do that.

We're planning to announce to our siblings on Thanksgiving since it will just be our immediate families together and we'll have at least 1 u/s before then.

akbride25

I have no idea when we will share. DH's family will probably be told soon since I don't think I'll be able to hide the morning sickness much longer. We had planned on telling DH's family on Thanksgiving, but now his sister is coming and we know her reaction will not be good. Maybe we will tell his family this weekend so that they know ahead of time. I'll probably tell my parents when I talk to them on Thanksgiving.

dreinhardt

Announcing to my immediate family at Thanksgiving. They will be at my house for five days and are bound to suspect. I'd rather let them know than have them find out on their own. I'll almost be 8 weeks. I'd prefer to wait until Christmas but oh well. I will likely announce to everyone else after Christmas or after the new year.

foreverMorgan

Our only immediate family are my mother and BIL (DH's brother). We told my mom already because I needed her to watch DD2 during my u/s. We'll tell the rest of the world around Christmas after the NT scan.

mamabearRDH

There's no SS option . We're announcing to our family the week after Thanksgiving at our late holiday dinner.

bosco213

I'll be 13 weeks at Christmas so we'll be telling then!

Kbow91

Announcing to the family at Christmas

p1nkbaby510

I wanted to wait until Thanksgiving since both our families were going to be together. But hubby didn't want to wait and starting announcing to his family and friends at 5 weeks. So I to let everyone know also, kinda wish we would of waited.

BTW how do I add my ticker?

MrsRuby2012

ChristyM87 said:

My husband wants to announce to family at Christmas. I will be 9 weeks, which I think is a bit early

This is our exact situation.  I will be 9w2d and I'm hesitant.  However, we won't be seeing our families for a little while after and I'd really like to tell them in person.  Plus, they are like human pregnancy tests and I think they would for sure guess that I'm pregnant even though I have almost no symptoms.  I just saw my family this past weekend and my mom said to me "I think you have a secret ".  I had just taken the test the day before and gotten my BFP...and I tested early - hadn't even missed my period yet!

erpiccy

Not only do I like clicking things and I haven't cleaned the house, but we are also announcing to most of our immediate family on Thanksgiving. I'll be a little over 9 weeks. My little sister already knows because she does nutrition for pregnant women and I figured I could use a little help. I love junk food.

We were going to tell my DH's mom and sisters on Thanksgiving when they come to town, his dad and step mom the next weekend when we go to see them, and my family when we visit them at Christmas after the first trimester. The problem was that we could see his dad and step mom telling cousins before we ever get to tell my parents in person, since both sets of parents will now be first time grandparents. So, instead, I coaxed my parents up to see us on Thanksgiving too and will tell them with my DH's mom and sisters. I'm not sure when I will tell my older sister yet since she won't be around until I see her for Christmas, but she will likely be the least excited about it if I had to guess anyways.

bnk2012

My parents & sister know already but I'm going to bake cookies in baby shapes (onsies/ stroller etc) to announce to my brothers/extended family & my husband's family Christmas Day. I'm planning on calling all my extended family who won't be there to enjoy the delicious cookies but will get the good news straight from us I will be almost 13 weeks Christmas Day (12 weeks 6 days exactly).

smrobinson2014

We are planning on doing a christmas card type thing that we are going to hand out on Christmas

READY4TWO

We're telling my parents this weekend but telling the rest of mine and DH's family on Christmas.  We'll have our first u/s the Friday before Xmas and if all is well we'll announce then.

koalaphant

smrobinson2014 said:

We are planning on doing a christmas card type thing that we are going to hand out on Christmas

I told my mom and my best friend already, but for everyone else we're planning to do something very similar - except we want to do a "save the date" card instead of a Christmas card. There are some cute ones that have the date in big numbers on the front of the card and I thought it would be fun to keep for our baby book afterwards too. I'll be 11 weeks on Christmas - perfect timing to tell!

MisSmartyPants

catahoulatte said:

Last time, we announced to family at Christmas, about 9-ish weeks.

This time, we already told parents and siblings. I will be telling my immediate family that will be at Thanksgiving privately and before the holiday because my cousin is hosting Thanksgiving and also dealing with IF right now and I'd rather a big deal not be made about it at her house on a holiday.

That is very considerate of you. Our closest family - parents and siblings know already. We also told two of our best friends. The rest of the family will know on Thanksgiving, although we do not plan to make a big deal out of it. Last year we announced it at the Christmas dinner table with everybody present...only to loose the baby a month later. Don't want the family to have a déjà vu with us. The rest of the world will know when I pass the 12 week mark.

MisSmartyPants

MrsRuby2012 said:

ChristyM87 said:

My husband wants to announce to family at Christmas. I will be 9 weeks, which I think is a bit early

This is our exact situation.  I will be 9w2d and I'm hesitant.  However, we won't be seeing our families for a little while after and I'd really like to tell them in person.  Plus, they are like human pregnancy tests and I think they would for sure guess that I'm pregnant even though I have almost no symptoms.  I just saw my family this past weekend and my mom said to me "I think you have a secret ".  I had just taken the test the day before and gotten my BFP...and I tested early - hadn't even missed my period yet!

Ha. Some family members are like that. My mother knew the day she saw me and even celebrated with a little dance. I just took the test that morning with a super faint positive. The next day when the line got darker I saw them again and told them the truth. My dad said: " you don't need a test if you eat a whole bowl of pickles at dinner." It turns out they both knew...based on my appearance and behavior.

Mackalack

We'll tell my family next week because they'll be in town, otherwise it'll be Christmas and I can't keep a secret that long - these three days have been hard enough as it is.  While it's early, my mom and dad were in town when I got DD's BFP, so I'll be a week and a half further this time than then.  We'll probably call MIL and SIL and tell them on Thanksgiving too.  

I won't be telling DD for awhile until either a) I start showing (my bloat was so bad with her everyone could tell really early) or b) we're in second tri.  My FIL is in town right now and we haven't told him.  Also with DD I didn't announce publically until I was nearly 16 weeks. 

Which leads me to - I don't know how to tell my parents and sister without DD wondering what the hubbub is.

schulme2

Thanks for posting this poll! We will tell our parents and our siblings on thanksgiving and I've been kinda torn as to if it's tacky to do it on a family holiday. I don't want it to be like we're stealing attention when it should be about everyone but our families will be together and i prefer to do it in person.

DeliciousFishes

JerseyML said:

I wanted to do it Christmas Eve for my fam and Christmas Day for his. My mom has a different plan. If you have an ethnic mother you know her way or no way.

This is what will probably happen with us. Nothing to do with an ethnic mother, but I want to tell my family first and we always see his first on Christmas day. We always spend Christmas Eve/later Christmas Day with mine so it won't be weird.

They might know something is up when we hand them presents on Christmas Eve but oh well. It's how I want to do it. I'm predicting that my grandma will be crying more than my mom.

GHStarfish

Our parents and siblings already know even though it is really early 4 weeks 3 days today. Was thinking about waiting till Christmas Eve for my extended family but I don't know how I am going to make it through thanksgiving. We usually finish 4 bottle of wine before the turkey comes out!

tannasnow43

We are telling our extended family at Christmas. We will tell our parents on Christmas eve

wineandcake

Considering we're wayyyyyy past thanksgiving and I wasn't even pregnant at that point we obviously are not announcing then

My family does early Christmas (mid December) and I will be giving my parents a personalized calendar with a picture of DS wearing a big brother shirt for July. For the IL's we'll just randomly FaceTime them and have DS in his big brother shirt and see if they notice. I'm not really announcing to other people, just tell them as I see them, I don't care for the attention so a big announcement isn't for me.

angersmith

I'll be 12 weeks on Xmas eve which my nuchal scheduled for that morning. Assuming all goes well, we'll be telling the fams that night at dinner. I'll be making baby Xmas cookies as the announcement

squeegoi

wineandcake said:

Considering we're wayyyyyy past thanksgiving and I wasn't even pregnant at that point we obviously are not announcing then My family does early Christmas (mid December) and I will be giving my parents a personalized calendar with a picture of DS wearing a big brother shirt for July. For the IL's we'll just randomly FaceTime them and have DS in his big brother shirt and see if they notice. I'm not really announcing to other people, just tell them as I see them, I don't care for the attention so a big announcement isn't for me.

I knew I couldn't get away with this post without a Canadian chiming in, haha. I considered making a snarky click option for you guys. Should have. Dang-it.

mrspark812

Our families already know bit we are telling everyone else with our Christmas cards.

mommabmb

coopmke said:

Thanksgiving for family, Christmas to go "public"

This. Normally, we would wait the 12 weeks,but I never see my family and they are all here for thanksgiving.

JennyJensing

coopmke said:

Thanksgiving for family, Christmas to go "public"

This for us too.

Erino901

I told my mom on her birthday (11/11). I'm sure the news had spread, but we'll probably formally tell extended family at thanksgiving festivities.