Wondering if any of your husbands go to appointments (pre IUI or IFV) with you

crusch8

This is our first time stimming. I've had 2 U/S and bloodwork. I have another appointment tomorrow for another U/S and my husband mentioned he wanted to come since it's on the weekend and he is avaiable. I told him I didnt think it was really necessary since it's just an U/S. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone has had their husbands come with them when they've had U/S. Is that normal? I know he's just trying to be supportive. But I thought it maybe could be a bit odd?

nowthatsalady

My sweet husband asks to be supportive too, but I just don't think it's necessary at all. I do see several husbands there though.

blueeyes233

Mine only comes to consults and when he's actually required to do something. If I wanted him to come he would, usually I don't.

mrscsw

My DH does not come to the monitoring appointments. He came for all of the appointments to talk to the RE and of course the ER and ET.

Sha259

My hubby never went to any of my appts. except for ER. He did not do the consult or ET appts because he wasn't really interested and we didn't really need him there. This upcoming FET he will be even less involved, as we already have our embryos and I'm the only one who needs to be there for monitoring and actual ET. 

He is, however, very involved when he needs to be regarding my injects. He administered my trigger like a pro last time, and has offered to do all of my IM PIO shots for this upcoming FET, bless him. I said I could learn to do it myself, but I think he feels that's about the only way he can be actively involved in our baby making! ">

emmuffy

My spouse used to come to every single appointment/ultrasound etc but as things dragged on and on and on and on, we've decided that she'll just come to the important appointments

fayth4one

My DH did something similar last cycle when my u/s fell on a weekend. He said he wanted to see what I had been talking about. I think it made everything very real when he saw the follicles too. this cycle we had a weekend appt and he said he would go if I needed him to, but he definitely wasn't as stoked as the first cycle. I think its cool for husband's to want to be involved!

LynnLee7

My hubby came to all the apts he could, he wanted to be a part of it and I wasn't going to deny the company. If he wasn't there, my mom went with me on a few occasions. My office does the bloodwork and U/S then you sit down with a nurse and talk about the results, how things are going, sizes, levels, ect. It always helped to have a second ear and someone to remember to ask the questions I would forget to ask. Also my office was almost 2 hrs away so having someone go with me made the drive better.

CML11

He's come for the consults, ER and the weekend monitoring appointments. The ETs have always falling on days where he has a lot if meetings he can't easily get out of. I love having his support though on the times he does go.

mharnicker

Absolutely have him come!! If he wants to come the better to have that support with you. My DH has been going through multiple SA's to figure out the low sperm count and I have been there with him and vice versa. Remember your a team throughout this process. The more support from him the better. My poor DH has wanted a baby with me since before we got engaged. Ugh nothing but a challenging difficult heartbreaking journey for us. Best of luck to you and your DH!!

O2girl

My DH goes to EVERY SINGLE APPT. I literally had to tell him that he doesn't need to go to the blood draws.......otherwise he would be at those too. My DH even takes the calls from the RE now....it got so hard for me to always get the bad news so MH decided it was better for him to get the calls.

fjamil1

My DH only came to Consults, ER and ET since he was driving. But for all the monitoring he was home sleeping.He did offer to come but i said it is only BW and US.

runforcookies

My DH comes with me to monitoring appts he happens to have the day off, so really only the weekends. He comes to all ET and ER appointments though. He likes to be there as much as he can which i love.

kristyn831

My DH comes with me if he's off work, so he's probably come a handful of times during monitoring.  An u/s tech does my scan so unless they turn the monitor in my direction, I have no idea what the results are until later that day.  I taught DH how to interpret the measurements and last time he sat there and actually counted my follicles.  

chicory

Mine came to our consult, ER, and will be at ET. He offered to take off work and come to every single monitoring appointment, which was sweet I guess but I told him it was silly - no sense taking sick time for our super long drive for a 15 minute bloodwork and US appointment. I had two weekend monitoring appointments, and he came to both of those. I think he thought it was kind of cool to see the ultrasound. I had to laugh at the first one because he just sat in the chair behind the screen like a church mouse until the US tech told him, "Get up! Don't you want to see your wife's beautiful follicles?" I think he was embarassed, haha.

AngM123

Mine has came to every appointment I've ever had in the last 2 years. He plans to come to all my monitoring appts in the upcoming weeks as well even though I told him he didn't have to. @O2girl‌ mine has tried to come to blood draws as well lol. He is my best friend and really my only support, so I am very appreciative and thankful that he is so eagerly involved.

CRMhoney

My DH comes sporadically. During the beginning of first cycle he came to all consults and preliminary u/s. Once I got through the first 3 monitoring appts I told him to skeedaddle. He didn't need to be there for the bloods or u/s.  He comes on the weekend monitoring appts because we generally go to the diner for breakfast after. He came to the u/s right before the retrieval and was at all ER and ET's. He did come to every u/s appt once I got pregnant, although those didn't last, it was nice having him there. 

 

katers79

My DH came to our consult, ER and will come to FET. He went to one monitoring appt but stayed in the lobby because it was a Saturday and we were going to go to brunch after. Other than that, I didn't feel like he needed to come to the quickie appts.

crusch8

Thanks everyone for all your responses!

Sunny B

My husband comes to every appointment- even blood tests. If he wants to come, I'd encourage him to do so. It's important to my husband that he is always be there.

tptbabe

DH never even met our first RE! (We were living 4 hours apart because of work.) He comes to all big appointments now, and goes to most of the MFI-related appointments on his own. He asked me if I wanted him to come to monitoring the first time, and I told him that he was welcome to if he wanted to, but I was OK with going on my own. ER was the first time he'd seen what a TVUS was like, and he was very glad that he hadn't gone to any monitoring! (Mind you, there aren't normally a dozen people in the room while you're laying there with your legs in the air...)

AndyMSchneider

I go when possible. If nothing else, I'm an extra set of questions. Ultrasounds I'm not really necessary but consults or big checks I love being there.

carrieharry79

My DH has been at everything so far. He really wants to be there to be supportive and we live in Boston and it's so much easier to have him drop me off out front and go park. If we lived in the burbs, I might go alone. I like having him go either way though. Saturday I'm going to go to my monitoring appt alone because we have a friend staying with us. 

Twinkie0612

My husband comes to the big appointments (ER, ET, and all but one IUI), but I do monitoring and blood work on my own. He has come to every RI appointment with me, mostly because it's a 5 hr drive and we usually stay overnight.

LAO12

My DH came to the big appointments..consult, ER and ET. My RE doesn't allow anyone in the U/s room so he would have been in the lobby. He did give me every single injection...5 a day and it was hard. That was his way of being involved.

Pookster1020

My DH only came to the consults.  He wasn't even at ER or ET because he is out of vacation days and would have had to be docked the days.  My mom offered to come with me so I would have someone with me.

Dyork

My DH goes to whatever he can. His work schedule gets a bit crazy at certain times of the year. But he was there for every IUI we did and he's always gone to an ultrasound/consult appointments. My RE requires both parties be there for any consult and WTF appointments, so he won't have a choice. But he is very good about wanting to be a part of this as much as he possibly can be.

agrand79

My husband came on the weekend appointments and said it was for me, but the reality is it was for him which is more than ok.  I think it can be hard for them to feel like they are involved, doing enough, and understanding what we go through when we go through these appointments.  I let him go to whatever he wanted, except for the big appointments when I made it quite clear I really needed him there (ER and ET).

ashleyat87

My dh and I have been ttc for almost a year now. We started seeing a fertility specialist in July, after finding out I have quite a few issues. We did 3 IUIs and no luck so we're in the beginnings of IVF now. He has actually never missed even one appointment. We've had over 30 at this point and the closest office is 45 mins away. If it's a weekend, we're driving 90 mins each way. He says it's the least he can do since I'm the one being poked and prodded every time. It really is unnecessary, but it shows he cares and I like having him there too. We always get the earliest possible appointment so we both work a little later that day to make up the time and not use sick leave.

If your dh wants to come along, I say let him! He's just trying to be supportive.

obizyanka

Same as most of you- DH came to the big appts and would come / drive me to morning monitoring if it was on a weekend. Someone needs to make the money to pay for this IVF lol.