Flying solo to the RE

kindershlitz

My appt. is Wednesday AM and it looks like my first consult with the RE I'll be alone. DH's job is not at all flexible and we are hoping to save his time to be with me in the office for when he is really needed. Other than him being an extra set of ears do you think this is a disadvantage? He has already had 2 fairly recent SAs in that office. 

Nikolie93

I really wish I had better advice but I am still waiting for the first appointment with an RE. I have no idea what to expect with the first visit.

I would definitley have a discussion with your husband ahead of time so together you can come up with a list of questions you may have.

I'm sorry his work isn't flexible, that sucks sending positive thoughts your way!

URMySunshine77

I was just going to ask about this. I doubt that DH can attend my visit. 

tlc35

I went to my visit without DH.  It was no big deal.  He filled out the male partner portion of the paperwork ahead of time.

CML11

No big deal, just call them and make sure it's ok. One office I did a consultation with required him to be there. I don't think it was necessary

wvarn

Hate your having to go alone. It would be good to have him there for emotional support. I agree with PP, call the office ahead of time to make sure you can have appt without him and see if there is any paperwork he can fill out ahead of time. Good Luck with you appt. 

emsmama15

I think it should be fine but as others suggested, there's probably history paperwork for him to fill out and maybe some forms to sign. I'd just call and ask. Good luck!

katie0919

My RE told me that it's good to have him at the first appt, but not necessary. It was more for emotional support. After the initial visit, I went alone for every blood draw/sono (except when I got a BFP, he came with me to the ultrasounds then). Good luck!

jnissa

The only appointment my DH attended were the two at which he had to give samples and/or sign paperwork. He couldn't even make it to the FET. In the category of "this is all much harder on the woman," there's no way to do this process without TONS of  flexibility if you're a woman, whereas he basically had to clear two days. 

But to answer your question, it was no disadvantage. In some ways for me it was an advantage because he is a doctor and tends to take over doctor's appointments we attend together with too much technical question and skepticism. It was a little bit nice to relax and just get to have a conversation about fertility with the doctor. 

kindershlitz

Thanks for the input. I definitely need to get his questions organized- I'm sure they are money related. We already did the paperwork and I was impressed it had been reviewed and they requested I pick up an image CD from my HSG at the hospital.  Just printed my FF report and I think I'm good to go!  Thanks again!

Davie813

Just wanted to wish you luck Wednesday!  (Also, DH has never been to any of mine, except to give a sample, and it's never been a problem.)

amandaleigh1

I've put my husband on speaker phone for certain dr appts that he was unable to attend. I have gone alone to the RE more times than I've gone with MH. I'm fine with it, and yes, it is good to get your questions organized ahead of time in any case.

Austrogermokee

I usually bring DH, but that's because I have a mild learning disability that makes it hard for me to digest everything I hear (it's like dyslexia for hearing). RE appointments tend to have a lot of technical information, and even though I take notes and ask for things to be repeated, I sometimes get overwhelmed. Having DH there makes a huge difference in what I get out of the appointment. But overall, I think it's a nice to have, not a need to have.