I lost my wedding ring when I threw it at my husband....

meredith6484

And guess where? At then loading dock at the lake. Why? Because he accused me of cheating the other night because I was in a meeting (I'm a sped teacher and meetings consume my life) last week. He claims I talked with a male friend for 4 minutes and am cheating with him. Funny. This friend is in Hawaii, has a gf and I've deleted his number from my phone out of what little respect I had left for my husband. So I threw my ring at him at the lake and he tossed it back so I threw it at him. Apparently it is lost and he didn't pick it up.

Don't. Mess. With. A. Pregnant. Woman.

meredith6484

And so I told him I didn't have it and he's making a huge ordeal about it. Ironically, he didn't wear his for ten years and just started wearing it this summer. Hmmm? It hurt me badly because he was a bar fly for a long time and went " out" a lot. But I'm the one who teaches and had three kids and pregnant now with HIS 4th!!!! When do I have time to cheat?? I strive to sleep. Let alone cheat.

Aimothy

I think the lack of a wedding ring is the least of your problems. 

meredith6484

Yep. I filed for divorce this past summer and regret not following through now. He is being a selfish jerk.

josim

I'm sorry?

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Poppy715

It sounds like you two have a lot to work through before you bring another baby into the picture.

sarahchrismck

shmeell25 said:

Honey I don't think you can blame these problems or actions on pregnancy.

My thoughts exactly.

Ibliss

Honestly, this sounds childish to me. You were throwing your ring at each other? I'm sorry you are disagreeing and that he is accusing you of cheating but it doesn't sound like your outburst is the right approach. I would sit down and ask why he is feeling insecure and work together to rebuild the trust in your relationship.

kayteebayb

Wow...

Poppy715

Ibliss said:

I would sit down and ask why he is feeling insecure and work together to rebuild the trust in your relationship.

Something tells me that's not how they roll.

lupineaura

Obvious suggestion is obvious, but please seek some counseling. Not even necessary to repair the relationship, but so you can learn to "fight fair." You'll need that even if you do divorce. I hope these types of fights are not in front of your kids. They are learning from you how to solve disagreements, and what love looks like.

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meredith6484

I suppose because I have the freedom to vent. If you don't like it, kindly stop reading. My baby will be well taken care of. :-) Just like my other children. I've been a single married mother for a long time and yes it will probably either get better or divorce is inevitable. Was throwing my ring the most mature thing to do? No. Am I hormonal and does he know how to push my buttons? Absolutely. I just needed to vent.

Sarahbmcd

I Love that you throw in "and he didn't pick it up" if my DH threw his ring at me I sure wouldn't pick it up. I Don't understand why you had sex and got pregnant by someone you have such little respect for.

Aimothy

You guise. We don't know her lyfe. Kay?

Pintobean39

Why oh why do people want to be an AW and come one here to post something going on with their life. They claim they are just venting and get offended when people respond and they don't like what they have to say. Now they get all "kindly stop reading if you don't like it".


WTF do you expect??? This isn't your diary. This is how this board works. If you don't want to hear what people have to say don't fucking make a thread. You wanted attention you got it sorry isn't not exactly the attention you wanted.

texasmama15

I was going to say I feel sorry for you but now that I think about it I don't. I feel sorry for your children and your unborn child that you continue in a relationship that sounds like you don't even want to be in or should be in. Do you have any respect for yourself? I know we all have different life situations but we also own our own life so stop wallowing in your self pity and do something about it.

Pintobean39

And seriously @meredith6484‌ my EX-HUSBAND was always so jealous of everything I did. It only got worse as the years went on. Especially after I graduated college and got a good job. If you want to make this marriage work get into therapy. You are going to have 4 kids that are going to watch this behavior and grow up and act the same way if you don't try to change things now.

So was your ring expensive?

tinyjoys

JerseyAKL said:

Oh and you must be wearing a Ring Pop because I would sooner rip off a finger than throw my rings anywhere. Hell no.

This. In the eight years since we got engaged and the five we've been married, the only time my rings have left my fingers are when I've been making something with raw meat {burgers, meatloaf, meatballs, etc}, when I was in labor with our son, or when I had my gallbladder out. Oh, and once to have them cleaned. I want to have them sautered together, but the idea of being without them for a week makes me twitchy and causes an anxiety attack.

RustyGirl3

meredith6484 said:

I suppose because I have the freedom to vent. If you don't like it, kindly stop reading. My baby will be well taken care of. :-) Just like my other children. I've been a single married mother for a long time and yes it will probably either get better or divorce is inevitable. Was throwing my ring the most mature thing to do? No. Am I hormonal and does he know how to push my buttons? Absolutely. I just needed to vent.

If you have been a "single married mother" for a long time I doubt it will get any better if you don't actually have a conversation rather than as you say a "hormone-induced" tantrum throwing things.

Because calling yourself that term makes it sound like you have been in this relationship alone for a while and that doesn't just get better on its own.

My sister has been a "single married mother" for a long time too.  4 kids and she is horribly unhappy and wants to leave my BIL because she can't take it anymore.  You need to think about what you are doing to your children if you continue down this road. 

And yes you can vent all you want, but you can't dictate what responses you get, especially when children are involved. 

lgsdesigner

meredith6484 said:

Yep. I filed for divorce this past summer and regret not following through now. He is being a selfish jerk.

Okay. Then why did you get pregnant?

bjackson2688

As a kid of divorced parents and had to experience behavior like this on a regular basis, get out while you can. You two may find it easier to be civil to each other if you're not together. You don't want your kids growing up around that..

Pintobean39

robotpcr said:

smilesp said:

This is one of those posts that makes me think, "God, I hope this is just made up!"

This!  Definitely this.  


Sadly though, these people actually exist.

djm31012

oh its definitely made up? isnt it....? I actually thought the title of the post was funny. then i read the post and thought whoa....this is fake right?

MoxyByProxy

I kept going back and forth on if I wanted to add my .02.

All that comes to mind is that gif that says nope nope nope.

Sounds like you need to get your "house" in order. You shared some things that are huge red flags for a relationship even without this pg.

Gl to you though.

creativerae

Was this posted on a Tuesday?

Pintobean39

I just dropped off my engagement ring to get fixed where my diamond fell out. I sure wish I had the OP's so I could use it for parts.

I mean since she doesn't want it.

VeganOnTuesdays

I truly hope that this is an episode of teen mom that you watched and decided to reenact here. This cannot be real. 

Artistmom30

This has to be MUD, considering she has not come back to respond to anything.

Sarahbmcd

Artistmom30 said:

This has to be MUD, considering she has not come back to respond to anything.

Idk I wouldn't come back after I posted this nonsense.

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3JTMom

Can you sit down and talk to your DH? It is hard to be pregnant and deal with all the issues that brings with the insecurity of a relationship. Have you tried counseling? It might be a good place to start. 

rivieramaya

Ok. Well. Good luck with that.

soofttie

Me:

tashad18

Do you have insurance on the ring? At this point, from what I've read, I'd be more concerned about salvaging the value of the ring than salvaging the relationship.

queenrich

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