A friend posted a photo of a maternity Halloween costume to his wife's acct on FB. There has been no announcement and the costume would require a 3rd trimester bump. WTF. Is this your way of announcing? Grrrrr.
I currently have my BF ready to deliver any moment now and I deal with a lot of drug reps and I think 4 of the 6 that I deal with a few times a week are all pregnant. It's like there's a baby bump in my face every day at work.
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Hashimoto's with irregular cycles DH- 37 Severe oligoasthenoteratozoospermia
TTC since May 2012
HSG- all clear
March 2014 - RE appt. April 2014- Saline sono all's good, terrible SA results - 8 sperm found all abnormal May 2014- Fert Urology- Bilateral varicoceles, recommend Donor Sperm
DH had one for me this week...he got very upset because he saw a mom yelling at her toddler on the bus. He said she was using the F word and telling him to shut up, and said it looked like she hated her kid. It made him really sad, and that made me really sad. I see a lot of parents (especially moms) who are so tough and mean to their little ones on the bus, whacking them around for no reason. I try to remind myself that they may be overwhelmed, or maybe did not experience good examples of motherhood. But it's so frustrating to see kids treated like that.
The fertility clinic was extremely backed up yesterday when I went for my workups, and there were far more children present than usual. Being trapped in a tiny room with 2-3 toddlers while you are waiting to get poked and prodded is upsetting. I know that I should feel empathy for these other mothers that need to be there for the same reason I do, and I know that it is not their fault if they need to bring their children, but it never fails to make me grumpy.
Also, there was one young woman who had her friend with her (I'm guessing for support, or perhaps transportation) and the FRIEND had brought her baby in with her. I felt okay being really angry about that.
Well I survived Saturday afternoon with my BIL, his annoying GF and their baby (our niece). This girl lives on fast food, all she did was feed this baby crap all day. I'm just venting because I'm very sensitive right now, but at one point I said, maybe you should give her a piece of fruit or maybe some water, it was very hot. I know everybody has their own way of parenting but I can't hep it. Bitch, give that baby something other than sugar!!!! There I vented!!!!!!
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Me: AMA, DH: MFI
Official DX - MFI due to Hemochromatosis
IVF #1 Nov. 2014 - ER 11/10 (10R 6M 6F) - ET 11/13
My coworker that accused me of being weird 2 days after she told me she was pregnant when I hadn't even seen or talked to her since she told me...yea all she posts about on facebook now is being pregnant. everything is because she has pregnancy brain or its a mom and dad picture when it's a picture of her and her H. I mean I get it she is excited and she was just like this during her wedding stuff (and it bothered me too) but this really bothers me. One because I wasn't acting weird around her and she made me feel horrible for no reason and two it's just annoying in general lol
@lemonliz I quit Facebook a long time ago, was the best thing I ever did. I did it before TTC when I realized it was so fake. If I couldn't handle the BS before going through this TTC hell, I sure as hell would never be able to deal with it now, especially with all the pregnancy announcements and baby pics, no thanks. I have to avoid it. I highly recommend deleting, just my opinion.
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Me: AMA, DH: MFI
Official DX - MFI due to Hemochromatosis
IVF #1 Nov. 2014 - ER 11/10 (10R 6M 6F) - ET 11/13
Oh I've got a GREAT one today...I just got back from my visit with my RE to go over all my test results and she tells me SHE'S PREGNANT! Right as we're discussing when to schedule my surgery...she was very apologetic and kind when dropping the news, but still...
Me: 31 (PCOS) possible right tube issues DH: 36 (SA normal)
Started dating in 2006, Married 2012
TTC since November 2013
First RE visit due to irregular periods: June 2014
Lap/Hysto to remove polyps, cyst and tube blockage 11/6
Cycle 1 (Dec. 2014) TI with Clomid, Trigger, & Progesterone CX due to no response
Impatiently Waiting CD1 to try again with Fermara Back on the bench due to giant cyst,
who know I'd ovulate on my own after a cancelled cycle and end up with a mega cyst
@BunnyBerry, that is one of my triggers (and I don't mean the kind that makes me sad). I get so angry when parents act like this. If that's what they do in public, I can only imagine what they would do to the kid if no one were around. I saw a woman yelling at her kid for picking the wrong soda in front of my store once. She put the money in and I heard "Fine, press the fucking button" and then she yelled "that wasn't the fucking soda I wanted you idiot!" I lost it. I went straight to security because I would have lost my shit if I'd gone up to her. I even helped track her down. Fucking bitch. I felt so bad for her daughter (who was around 3).
Love 2010 | Marriage 2011 | TTC #1 since 2012 PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
@theholmanherd Exactly, I always think, clearly they have no boundaries to their behavior if they will do this in public. It's awesome that you did something about that woman. DH's observation made me ask myself, where is the line, what can be done for kids with those kinds of parents? It's something that haunted me when teaching outside the US because no matter what kinds of things we saw or suspected, there was no resource for accountability for parents or protection for kids.
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My best friend at work just told me she's pregnant. Her and her hubby have been trying for a little under a year and she knows about my issues, she actually started to cry when she told me. She's only 5 weeks so I'm the only one at work who knows. This is the first person who I am close with that has announced a pregnancy since we've started TTC and I handled it better than I though. I waited until I got home and really thought about it then I got upset.
But if one more person tells me they didn't truly know how much they could love someone until they became a parent I'm going to lose it.
Me: 26, PCOS, Clear HSG DH: 29, Perfectly Normal SA Married Since 10/6/2012 TTC Since 6/2013
There are three pregnant woman in the Bible study my DH and I attend. There are only nine of us in the group so there is no way to not see a pregnant belly everywhere I turn. Also, they are all due in the next three months, which means I will have three baby showers in the near future. One of the preggos literally references the fact that she is pregnant every time she talks or posts of Facebook. For example, she has said, "you know, I would help them move stuff, but I am pregnant." Oh, really? I had no clue, as if her third trimester belly wasn't proof enough.
Me-33 DH-36.
Married 11/10 TTC 11/10
06/11- diagnosed with PCOS
7/11- D&C and benched for a year
9/12-4/13-6 rounds of 50 mg Clomid- no sucess
6/13- new doc
7/13-4/14- 6 more rounds of Clomid. 50 mg and then stepped up to 100mg- no success
5/14-7/14- took break waiting for new insurance
7/14-new insurance= new doc- actually a RE!!!!
7/14-HSG and blood test good-PCOS confirmed by new doc
A friend of ours, who knows about our struggles completely blind sided me today by letting me know they're Unexpectantly expecting #2. I'm so happy for them, but at the same, we were married before them and now we're being lapped by baby #2. And I know she was just trying to be nice, but she brought up that our struggles are just part of God's plan, which really stung.
It also doesn't help that I'm loaded up on estrogen and progesterone right now and super emotional. Thanks for letting me rant, I feel like no one gets it and I don't want to sound like a b!+*h for crying about it.
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@BunnyBerry - things like that are a trigfer to me, and I have such a hard time seeing it happen. They should count themselves lucky for being so blessed and not treat their kids that way.
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@jessimi06 So sorry that you've been "lapped" by friends again, it always hurts when that happens! It's so frustrating when people say that IF is part of God's plan, because how do they know? I am a Christian and believe deeply that God's hand leads our life, but that doesn't tell me if something a friend is going through was God's plan for them or it it was just a sad thing that happened to them for no reason because this world sucks and is not a fair place.
God can turn bad things into blessings, but that doesn't mean someone can tell anyone that God wants to be infertile! For those who believe in the Bible, it's clear that what God wants doesn't always happen, because people have choices but also because God allows satan to do his evil thing in this world and sometimes good people end up getting hurt. Saying a prayer for you that you are blessed with the desires of your heart.
January 3T Siggy Challenge - New Year's Resolutions
Me (29), DH (30) TTC actively 54 55+ cycles | All BFNs
@amlrunner, I would want to slap her, too! What a psycho. It's also fucking inconsiderate to adoptive mothers, as if they won't know best because they didn't carry their child. That comment really stings and she didn't even direct it at me. Sorry you have to deal with her.
@je333206, I hate the love comment. I want to rip people's heads off when I hear it. Or the "you won't know until you're a parent". I'm pretty sure I will go completely ballistic if one more person tells me that. It's so condescending and cruel.
@Shauntee, that is the exact reason DH and I left our small group in our last town. I still get bitter thinking about them. I hate IF even messes with our church involvement.
@BunnyBerry, that was truly inspirational and completely spot on.
Edit: finished a sentence.
Love 2010 | Marriage 2011 | TTC #1 since 2012 PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
My husband came home from his fantasy football draft and announced oh so casually that friends of ours were expecting baby 2. I was devastated and he instantly felt bad for not cushioning the blow better. And silly me thought that was as bad as it was going to get.
We found out about a week and a half ago that my sister in law is pregnant. Their one year anniversary is this month....meanwhile DH and I are at 2 and half years....and I wanted a honeymoon baby. We had just had dinner to discuss our TTC too so I was caught so off guard. They're due in April, which is when we would have been due if our first cycle with gonal f and ovadril would have worked.
We found out about SIL on a Friday, Monday I had an appointment to make sure I was ready to start gonal f again. It was a positive appointment so I was elated. We went back that Wednesday and my follicles hadn't progressed the way they wanted and suddenly everyone's tone changed it looked like we were out this month. (It was also my DH's birthday). I get to work, trying to distract myself with busy work only to get a text from friends who got married the weekend after us that they are ALSO expecting in April. Instant uncontrollable sobbing at work, customers were extremely freaked out.
I'm happy for everyone, really I am. But when is it my turn?!?! It hardly seems fair! Especially when I see pregnant teens or teen moms, or parents who clearly view their child as nuisance.
Back in February we went on a trip with another couple. On the trip, we shared that we were both TTC and had been trying for several months. We complained about people who just get pregnant without even trying, and why is it so hard for us?
Cut to 2 months later - they announced they were expecting. We are still trying 8 months later.
@JlambertJen I'll add another place to your list - I had been wanting to go apple picking and a friend invited me to go with her and her 9 year old last weekend (I'm ok with older kids, it's pregnant women and babies that get me). Well, the apple orchard was a 3T'ers nightmare! Everywhere I turned there were people carting toddlers around, with visibly pregnant bellies, oftentimes both! I guess I should have known better but I was definitely in my own personal hell for a few hours. I couldn't wait to get home and crack open the wine.
Me: 31 (PCOS) possible right tube issues DH: 36 (SA normal)
Started dating in 2006, Married 2012
TTC since November 2013
First RE visit due to irregular periods: June 2014
Lap/Hysto to remove polyps, cyst and tube blockage 11/6
Cycle 1 (Dec. 2014) TI with Clomid, Trigger, & Progesterone CX due to no response
Impatiently Waiting CD1 to try again with Fermara Back on the bench due to giant cyst,
who know I'd ovulate on my own after a cancelled cycle and end up with a mega cyst
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TTC since 08/2012
DX: DOR
TTC since May 2012
HSG- all clear
March 2014 - RE appt.
April 2014- Saline sono all's good, terrible SA results - 8 sperm found all abnormal
May 2014- Fert Urology- Bilateral varicoceles, recommend Donor Sperm
12/2014- Surprise natural BFP EDD 7/31/15 Plan: Starting foster to adoption, natural cycles
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Me: AMA, DH: MFI
Official DX - MFI due to Hemochromatosis
IVF #1 Nov. 2014 - ER 11/10 (10R 6M 6F) - ET 11/13
3DT of 3 embies - no frosties - CP = BFFN!!!!
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Me: AMA, DH: MFI
Official DX - MFI due to Hemochromatosis
IVF #1 Nov. 2014 - ER 11/10 (10R 6M 6F) - ET 11/13
3DT of 3 embies - no frosties - CP = BFFN!!!!
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But if one more person tells me they didn't truly know how much they could love someone until they became a parent I'm going to lose it.
DH: 29, Perfectly Normal SA
Married Since 10/6/2012
TTC Since 6/2013
2/2014: Visited OB-GYN, Low Progesterone
3/2014: 50 mg Clomid, Ovulated, BFN
4/2014: 50 mg Clomid, Ovulated, BFN
5/2014: 50 mg Clomid, Ovulated, BFN
6/2014: 50 mg Clomid, Ovulated, BFN
7/2014: First RE visit, Diagnosed with PCOS, Started on 5 mg Femara + Ovidrel + TI, 1 22mm Follicle, BFN
8/2014: 5 mg Femara + Ovidrel + TI, 2 Mature Follicles, BFN
9/2014: 5 mg Femara + Ovidrel + IUI #1, 3 Mature Follicles, BFN
10/2014: 5 mg Femara + Ovidrel + IUI #2, 1 Mature Follicle, BFN
11/2014: 5 mg Femara + 75 mg Follistim + Ovidrel + IUI #3, 3 Mature Follicles, BFN
12/2014: Starting IVF in January
1/2015: IVF with ICSI, Currently Stimming
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11/14- IUI #2 w/ Menopur- Blood Test= Negative
1/15- IUI # 3 w/ Menopur- Blood Test= Negative
2/15- Self Benched this cycle
3/15/15-Suprise BFP on natural cycle!!!! EDD-11/16/15
It also doesn't help that I'm loaded up on estrogen and progesterone right now and super emotional. Thanks for letting me rant, I feel like no one gets it and I don't want to sound like a b!+*h for crying about it.
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Me- 26 PCOS
DH- 28 MFI
10/13 IUI #1 (1 follie)- BFP!
11/13 M/C @9 wk due to tetraploidy, one little boy in heaven
01/14 IUI#2 (1 follie) BFN
02/14 IUI #3 (3 follies) BFN
03/14 IUI #4 (2 follies) BFN
05/14 IVF/ICSI #1 CXL
07/14 IVF/ICSI #1.2 6R, 6M, 5F, 2T, 2 frosties!
Transferred 2-5dt CP
09/14 FET #1 BFP! Beta #1 52 Beta #2 152!
10/20/14- It's TWINS!
1/15- TEAM PURPLE!
@je333206 - ((HUGS))
@BunnyBerry - things like that are a trigfer to me, and I have such a hard time seeing it happen. They should count themselves lucky for being so blessed and not treat their kids that way.
ALL WELCOME!
TTC since 04/12
Me- 26 PCOS
DH- 28 MFI
10/13 IUI #1 (1 follie)- BFP!
11/13 M/C @9 wk due to tetraploidy, one little boy in heaven
01/14 IUI#2 (1 follie) BFN
02/14 IUI #3 (3 follies) BFN
03/14 IUI #4 (2 follies) BFN
05/14 IVF/ICSI #1 CXL
07/14 IVF/ICSI #1.2 6R, 6M, 5F, 2T, 2 frosties!
Transferred 2-5dt CP
09/14 FET #1 BFP! Beta #1 52 Beta #2 152!
10/20/14- It's TWINS!
1/15- TEAM PURPLE!
@je333206, I hate the love comment. I want to rip people's heads off when I hear it. Or the "you won't know until you're a parent". I'm pretty sure I will go completely ballistic if one more person tells me that. It's so condescending and cruel.
@Shauntee, that is the exact reason DH and I left our small group in our last town. I still get bitter thinking about them. I hate IF even messes with our church involvement.
@BunnyBerry, that was truly inspirational and completely spot on.
Edit: finished a sentence.
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
Psalm 113.9- He settles the childless woman in her home as a happy mother of children. Praise the LORD.
@theholmanherd I too wish that it didn't interfere with our church environment.
11/14- IUI #2 w/ Menopur- Blood Test= Negative
1/15- IUI # 3 w/ Menopur- Blood Test= Negative
2/15- Self Benched this cycle
3/15/15-Suprise BFP on natural cycle!!!! EDD-11/16/15
I saw that. Ugh.
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
@JlambertJen I'll add another place to your list - I had been wanting to go apple picking and a friend invited me to go with her and her 9 year old last weekend (I'm ok with older kids, it's pregnant women and babies that get me). Well, the apple orchard was a 3T'ers nightmare! Everywhere I turned there were people carting toddlers around, with visibly pregnant bellies, oftentimes both! I guess I should have known better but I was definitely in my own personal hell for a few hours. I couldn't wait to get home and crack open the wine.
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole