OPP Tuesday ***BFPS, PREGNANCIES, BABIES, AND CHILDREN WILL BE MENTIONED***

theholmanherd

OPP = other people's pregnancies.

Come one, come all to rant about other people!

theholmanherd

@triathlete23‌, I'm glad they at least warned you! It sucks being sick, but good timing @kkeglar13‌, (((HUGS))). I'm sorry

Hollowvic

Ugh, where do I start? Next weekend we have to see my husbands niece. I cannot stand my BINs GF, she is the absolute worst and always makes nasty passive aggressive comments to me. She's so dam jealous that we got married. She's been with my BIN for 12 years and he has been very adamant about not wanting to get married. Instead of leaving him years ago, like a strong women would, she stayed, unhappy. Then about 3 months after our engagement, surprise she's KU. She has no idea we're struggling to get pregnant. I know any day soon she'll be KU with her second. I dread seeing them, but my H wants to see his niece, we only get to see her a couple of times a year. I used to have no problem ignoring her but now that she has this baby and I'm going through hell I hate her even more. It felt good to rant about that. Sorry so long, I needed to vent.

dancerspose

@triathlete23 glad you're DH was looking out for you, but sorry you weren't feeling well!

@kkeglar13 @Hallowvic ((HUGS)) to you both - baby showers/evil family members stink!

@Angelina2404 so sorry for the awful dream!  I did LOL a little bit at the Kelly Ripa part, but I'm sorry you're being hit so hard by OPP.

I was actually having a good week and wasn't going to have anything to add to this post this week.  Then, I went to have blood drawn.  I don't always use the lab at my doctor's office because it's more convenient to go to an outside lab right by my office.  I stop by to have the draw done before work.  I walk in and BAM woman at least 8 months pregnant in the waiting room.  I end up leaving becaue the wait was too long.  So, I go back during my lunch break.  BAM another at least 8 month pregnant woman and woman with a ~1 year old in the waiting room.  Seriously! Ugh!!!!!

theholmanherd

(((hugs))) to all. I was fine until last night I had a dream I was 7 months pregnant (why the specific number of months? idk, but it was definitely mentioned in the dream). Night before that I was sick in my dream and went to the doctor and got a surprise BFP because they tested me for some reason. The fucking worst. I liked the feelings in the dream, but then I wake up to reality. UGH.

lovesmonkey

(((HUGS))) I hate that IF makes me jealous and takes away joy. I just dropped my BFF and her husband off at the hospital for her induction. I should be thrilled for her, but I'm not. I'm sad and hurting for myself. I'm going to get all of my emotions out in my DH's arms tonight so when the baby gets here I can put a smile on my face long enough to visit.

lovesmonkey

@Rcvb22‌ I hope your friend surprises you and lunch goes better than expected. My friend got pregnant her first month off BCPs so they could NTNP. She has said some hurtful things and just doesn't understand. It has hurt our relationship and we will probably never be as close as we once were. IF sucks!

chicory

My co-worker was telling me today her daughter in law is pregnant, but she has NO idea when she conceived. She's going in soon for an US to find out, but apparently she could be anywhere from 1-4 months pregnant. How does this happen?!? I know I need to keep reminding myself, maybe she has weird cycles, and that there are crazier stories (women going to the ER only to find out *surprise* they're pregnant and had no idea and are actually in labor.) But really, come on. Most of us here can spout off our CD and every last detail of our cycles, including hours of abstinence before IUI, and exact time of IUI, maybe even EDD in case it works this time....and this chick can't even guess when in the last FOUR MONTHS she might have conceived? IF is so unfair.

KaseyElaine315

Right now my DH family is struggling with his little sister being pregnant... She is 15! Her and her BF (16)  want to keep the baby and raise it.  Her parents want her to have an abortion since she is so young and they know it will be a big struggle for them.  Thats all anyone talks about and I have to pretend to care about the situation. She is now about 9 weeks pregnant and still is set that she can have a kid at 15. The most recent encounter with my MIL about it, she brought up us adopting the baby! I don't think I feel comfortable even talking about that. How is it possible that 15 year olds can get pregnant "while using a condom" but its so hard for others to.

Also, I just found out from my mom that my nephew's on-again-off-again GF is pregnant with their first.

BABIES EVERYWHERE!

jencity9

A girl I know announced on FB right around the time my IVF failed... And the thing was her EDD is what mine would have been if the IVF had worked! Like she announced immediately!!! And in the last few weeks it's constant comments... Like the other day she posted about how she had 30 weeks left... OMG!! But the thing is she's a cool person and I like her... But this is going to be so annoying.

theholmanherd

KaseyElaine315 said:

Right now my DH family is struggling with his little sister being pregnant... She is 15! Her and her BF (16)  want to keep the baby and raise it.  Her parents want her to have an abortion since she is so young and they know it will be a big struggle for them.  Thats all anyone talks about and I have to pretend to care about the situation. She is now about 9 weeks pregnant and still is set that she can have a kid at 15. The most recent encounter with my MIL about it, she brought up us adopting the baby! I don't think I feel comfortable even talking about that. How is it possible that 15 year olds can get pregnant "while using a condom" but its so hard for others to.

Also, I just found out from my mom that my nephew's on-again-off-again GF is pregnant with their first.

BABIES EVERYWHERE!

Fucking quote box (I hate when it has a space above the quote and I can't get rid of it).

Anyways....

Without getting into an abortion debate, I will say this: I'm sorry you have to keep hearing about the situation. Is it possible she will just give the baby up for adoption to someone else? Maybe that would be best. But, if she wants to keep it, it's just going to destroy her if she does anything else. It sounds like DH's family is just going to have to accept her decision, 15 or not. I hope it all works out for the best.

EDIT: grammar.

KaseyElaine315

I don't think she would be able to do adoption. I just think she wants to keep it since apparently "tons of girls came back this year pregnant". Her school is about to start a pregnancy class for all the pregnant girls and a daycare so they can still come to school, ans she really excited about it.

I'm kinda upset for selfish reasons. One because I will have to constantly hear about it until the baby comes and forever afterwards plus if I were to get pregnant, I feel like since hers isn't the ideal situation, it will overshadow if/when I get pregnant if its anytime soon. Ok... that is definitely as selfish as it just sounded.

theholmanherd

(((HUGS))) @GinnyJones82 and @KaseyElaine315

LindseyM2012

Hugs to EVERYONE here!!

I'm preparing myself for a girls' day with my best friend and her 10 week old daughter. It is not the baby I'm preparing for - I held her for 4 hrs a couple weeks ago because I couldn't put her down, and have been looking forward to smothering her with love again (I swear holding good babies is my new crack). I have to prepare for my over-sharing (wonderful, amazing, lovely) best friend. She knows about my issues and has seen me cry about it (she's the crier, I'm most decidedly not) but continues to word vomit a couple weeks ago, "I'm going to the doc tomorrow to see if we're pregnant again. I hope I'm not. That would be just too much right now." She said this AS I was drying tears I couldn't hold back when she asked when I start medicated cycles. Yea...thanks. I just looked at her, took a bottle and fed the baby without acknowledging it.

Andplusalso, for some reason we're getting a lot of clients at work because they need to work through pregnancy-related anxiety, depression, relationship issues, etc. I'm not "out" with IF so I am just praying none get scheduled to see me. I'll have to figure out how to handle it if one does.

theholmanherd

@LindseyM2012, I'm sorry That sounds rough. I'm glad you're enjoying your time with the baby, though. As far as clients, maybe you could politely defer it or talk to just whomever handles client assignments or something? Hopefully you just won't get one and it won't be an issue. {HUGS}