New here and Ttc after CP

ekknecht

I am new here and just suffered an early loss. So I had a CP/early mc at 5 weeks. I had my levels done the day I started bleeding and they were only at 7 which means I probably wasn't pregnant very long. (Just long enough to get a positive test and let it sink in). The physicians assistant who I saw told me we could try again right away but I talked to the dr the next day when he called with my labs and he said give it a cycle or two. Now I'm not sure what to do. I feel like emotionally it would help if I just started trying right away. I have seen so many success stories about pregnancy the month after a cp. Any thoughts? Anyone even through this?

buggirl72

I'm sorry for your loss.

I would trust your doctor over your PA. While getting pregnant again right away seems like the only fix for your heartache, you run the risk of having back to back miscarriages.

In the grand scheme of things, one or two cycles is not that long. Also, while many people do get pregnant the cycle after a CP, it is not because they were magically more fertile - they just had good timing.  Your doctor would like you to wait. Wait. Emotionally, you will thank yourself in a couple months when you realize you needed some time to grieve over your loss.

jjbmstinco

I am sorry for your loss.  PP's are wise.  I hope you'll stick around and learn about the board. There is a sticky at the top that will help. Welcome.

ekknecht

Sorry, thought the name of this forum was "Trying to Conceive After Loss" meaning any loss and any conception. Didn't realize that only meant loss of first time conceiving. I definitely did not come here to be snapped at. I've noticed that about the bump. What kind of support groups are these if they have people who ridicule those looking for support?
Thank you to those with actual supportive answers and sorry if I offended anyone. I'm done here.

blackbird818

ekknecht said:

Sorry, thought the name of this forum was "Trying to Conceive After Loss" meaning any loss and any conception. Didn't realize that only meant loss of first time conceiving. I definitely did not come here to be snapped at. I've noticed that about the bump. What kind of support groups are these if they have people who ridicule those looking for support?
Thank you to those with actual supportive answers and sorry if I offended anyone. I'm done here.

Calm your tits. No one snapped at you, and no one ridiculed you.

I'm very sorry for your loss. As for how long you should wait, no one here will advise you to go against your dr's orders.

rslh10

I am so sorry for your loss. Early or not, it still hurts. Give yourself time to heal emotionally and physically.

On a different note....

Woah. Calm down. It looks to me that everyone was very supportive and understanding. This is a loss community for those with a first loss, or many others. 1st child or 5th. It doesn't matter.

No one is going to shit rainbows for you to make you feel better and tell you omgwtf you're totes gonna get ktfu your next cycle!!!!! Cus honestly, who knows. If your DOCTOR said wait, wait. He's a doctor. Not a PA.

buggirl72

I'm pretty sure OP is referring to the first response where she was told her title "Trying to TTC #2 after a CP" was inappropriate for this board.

I will kindly say this to the members of this board: calm your tits.

She did not mention her child in her post. Her title was not inappropriate and she was not "talking" about her living child on this board. She was giving her status. Are we really going to swing so far to that extreme that we are now going to say the allusion that someone has a LC is offensive?

Our regular members here that do have LC's do an amazing job of trying to not mention them out of respect for those of us who do not have living children.

While it is appropriate, and established etiquette of this board to not talk about your own personal LC or your concerns/fears/issues with TTCing a sibling, we do still need to be welcoming to those members who are fortunate to already have an LC.  I do not feel like this falls into the "talking about" category that is taboo (i.e. concerns about age difference, pain in not having a sibling, or just every day stuff).

We can't bubble wrap every single corner to make this board "safe".

OP, step back. This is a great board. You were not attacked.

ETA - to add that I know that ktlovess was not meaning what she said to OP to come off as harsh or unwelcoming.