OPP ***BFPS, PREGNANCIES, BABIES, AND CHILDREN WILL BE MENTIONED***

theholmanherd

I'm so tired of being the only person I know (outside of this board) that isn't in the same stage of life. The only people we know that don't have kids are single and still partying or getting their lives established. We only know one married couple that doesn't have kids, and they are child-free by choice. I feel so left out all the time. I hate feeling alienated and it's effecting my relationships with the majority of my friends who all have kids.

dancerspose

Ugh, I second all of this frustration! @LLM100811 I can't believe she would just ignore your feelings like that and keep on complaining, selfish much!

One of my closest friends who is one of about three people who know what's going on, has two kids (9 and almost 5).  I'm normally ok with older kids - it's pregnancies and babies that give me a hard time.  Lately they've been having some problems with their kids and every time we talk about he makes some comment like "well you can have mine" or "be glad you don't/can't have kids."  I know he means it as a joke, but the more he says it the more frustrated I get.

I get that being a parent isn't easy, but it doesn't make me long for it any less.

theholmanherd

(((HUGS))) to all of you. I don't have anything else to say. I totally understand all of you. Naria, I had a pretty vivid dream like that a few weeks ago and it was awful. I'm sorry

jencity9

Naria I have had those dreams too. They are the worst.

I had two FB announcements today... Lapped by both. In fact, both got married long after we started TTC and are now expecting #2.

chicory

@murrt that line "you understand when you have kids" drives me absolutely bonkers! My SIL says it all. the. freaking. time!! It's just a stupid excuse...just because I don't have children yet doesn't mean I can't comprehend that parenting has its challenges.

theholmanherd

@murrt, that makes me sooo angry! At this point, I just avoid everyone. I can really only talk to my BFFs, but one is expecting #2 and the other will likely be TTC soon so I'm sure she will be pregnant by the end of the year. It's hard. I can't wait until we move and I can start over. A-fucking-gain.

steen9713

** children and BFP mentioned- not mine**


I can totally relate! I hang out with a lot of people at my church ( I'm Mormon) and well if you know anything about Mormons is most of them are baby making machines! Seriously, in my area alone we have 3 pregnant woman and another gal just announced her baby #4! My husband and I are the only married couple with out kids. I feel very alienated. Especially since all the moms meet so their kids can play and hang out. I nicknamed them the "moms club" . I work full time, and won't have the option to be a stay at home mom even when we do finally get pregnant. So I have no real common ground with them other then church it's really hard to deal with some times, so I normally just continue hanging out with my DH. At least he gets and understands what I am going through. Best of luck!