Tough decision.

Meg&Austin

I posted this on the 3-6 month board as well but want as many opinions as possible!

So we have a destination wedding that I am in in Cancun the beginning of October for a week. The original plan was to take DD She will be 5 months September 26th. So about 5 1/2 months while we are there. She is EBF which is why I haven't considered leaving her. My mom and step dad and my husbands mom are starting to make me feel guilty for taking her. Should I, is it a bad idea? I know it wont be too much of a vacation and sometimes we will have to go to the room for naps, when its too hott out etc. Which I am perfectly okay with. Heck id love to spend a week off work with my girl even if it was sitting at home. I feel like id rather do that than leave my baby. I cry thinking of just leaving her for a night. We have a protective tent. Stroller fan, another battery powered fan, swimways floaty with sunshade so its not like I am stupid and will have her in the sun all day. Dont have to worry about water since she is EBF.



So now I am contemplating leaving her or not going. What would any of you mommy's do.

Any tips if we do go for anyone with experience?

haylo33

I would definitely go and take her with me. We have a wedding coming up in Oct that is a few hours away and I'm not ready to leave DS for even a night. We went on vacation when DS was 7 weeks. It was 100 degrees so we couldn't stay out too long but still had a lot of fun!

bazingaa

I agree with @susanoutloud‌ I don't see why they would make you feel guilty for going and taking LO. Do it. You've thought things through and have things covered. Have fun!!!

Edit because typing on iPhone is hard

yvanehtnioj

Team Take the Baby! When she is older she'll love the pictures of her first tropical vacation. And it's not like going without her would lead to this magical childfree vacation. You'd miss her and you'd have to pump & dump all week to maintain your supply. You'd probably be tempted to skip a session here & there and then worry about damaging your supply. 

Also, don't let anyone make you feel bad for what you want to do. Maybe they wouldn't have traveled with their youngsters but you are a confident woman who wants to enjoy some much needed, sun-safe beach time with her baby

ETA: I'm an exclusive pumper and I still shudder at the thought of having to pump & dump for a week without my son around to drink it. I'm very used to pumping but it would still be a struggle to keep up a perfect routine in his absence. 

bossyferg

I have done both. Although DD was ff. DH and i had a 3 night trip away and we left DD with my family. I cried on and off all day and drank at night so i could sleep. She was 8 months at the time. The next month was my sisters destination wedding and we brought DD (9months then). Even though i had help, it was a LOT of work. With the time change, her feedings were off and she was really cranky. Maybe also the heat, not sure. By 6 every night was her major cranky time that was her bed time if we were in our time zone. So i had to rush to eat at the buffet every night then go back to our room and stay there for the night. It was not a vacation at all. It was a lot of stress to be far from home and travelling. Even going through the airport was a hassle. And of course i got randomly picked to be searched when we landed back home. So i had to take her with me. Anyhow if you can trade off taking turns sitting in the room with babe each night it may be more vaction like but for me it was so much more work there and she was bored at times too. No exersaucer or jolly jumper, just a few people to hold her or the stroller. Made for a long tough week.
But... Even though it was that tough im still glad i brought her. Couldnt have left her a week becaue at least we were together : )

usernewname

I'd take my son with me. No debate or discussion. But he's never had a bottle so I know it wouldn't work. And everyone would just have to deal like it or not. Lol

Meg&Austin

Thanks for the opinion ladies. My husband is going as well. This was also a big debate when I was pregnant and we were booking the trip. We go on these trips every year. This one just so happens to be for a wedding. From going every year I feel comfortable with going to the room occasionally as sometimes I found myself wanting to do that even when I was kid free just for some downtime.

Now four years ago when I was 23 when we first started these it was fun to drink and play n the pool all day. Stay up for entertainment but the last two I have found my self drinking less, enjoying more time out of the pool and going to bed by 9 lol. Ohh the joys of growing up!

limechiffon

I don't see what the issue is. I wouldn't plan to do a lot of off-the-beaten path exploring, but so long as you take sun precautions and are careful about drinking potable water only then it should be fine. 

I took the baby at about 3 months to my friend's beach house for a week, in the US. I will say that having a baby seriously limited my "beach time", some days I stayed back while my friends took their older kids because it was just too much trouble when all baby did was sleep in a tent. And sand in my bikini made feeding interesting. But whatever, having a baby makes a lot of things complicated, I still want her with me on vacation. 

FlemDance

I agree, take the baby!

I would double check the type of resort, however. Is it a couples only resort or a family friendly resort?

Meg&Austin

Family friendly. It's a Riu which we have been to two of those chains before. One in Jamaica and one in Mexico. It even had a kids club. Granted she would be too young to play there but it is family friendly

apinkpelican

Sounds like Grandma just wants some snuggle time.  Don't feel bad taking LO!  

Another option....A friend of mine took Grandma along with them so they'd have a sitter there during the wedding and they could take turns taking nap duty while the others played in the sun. 

bridetobe9132013

You have to do what feels right for you! If you want to take her, take her! Like other people have said, you are being realistic about what the trip will be like with her. Also, it is nice for babies to get out even if she won't remember it have a great trip!

Meg&Austin

Thanks everyone. You have definitely eased my fears a little!

babyaotw

Kids survive growing up in Mexico. Go and enjoy your vacation with your LO!

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Meg&Austin

Thanks ladies! Taking a grandparent is out of the question. My mom almost missed my destination wedding last year because my step dad does not like to fly and believes traveling out of the country is terribly unsafe. And my mom would def not travel without him.

I've been looking forward to taking her just started second guessing myself when I keep hearing I should leave her behind. I'd be crushed but wanted some reassurance I'm not making a terrible decision for my daughter! I mean she already has the necessary attire

laurblum

I would definitely take my LO. We take her literally everywhere and have little to no problems. I would not cancel a trip over it.

yogasailmomma

@Meg&Austin love that suit! Vacation is a great excuse for cute outfits! For you and baby ;-) just think of all the great pictures you will have! Enjoy!

spinsoffresonance

I'm also team take the baby to Mexico. You'll have a blast. You might want to bring a long sleeve rash guard with SPF protection in addition to her swimsuit for the beach. And also Babywearing is a must. I find strollers completely useless on beach vacations. Last time we went to the beach with DD1, 1 week in the Virgin Islands and we did not use the stroller once.

Bootsie327

I think your original idea sounds great! That's what I would do.

Meg&Austin

lica001 said:

I'm also team take the baby to Mexico. You'll have a blast. You might want to bring a long sleeve rash guard with SPF protection in addition to her swimsuit for the beach. And also Babywearing is a must. I find strollers completely useless on beach vacations. Last time we went to the beach with DD1, 1 week in the Virgin Islands and we did not use the stroller once.

I do have a rash guard as well. But I felt that may get too got and between the spf tent and the spf canopy on her floaty it'd be okay? I still planned to take it tho. I plan to take my baby carrier but I am my a big baby wearer dd and I are both big sweaters already without being skin to skin so I don't do it very often but figured I'd take it and the stroller.

deanna1313

Love that you asked this question! We are having the same issue with Mexico in January! My DH'd Dad wants us to do an all-inclusive with him and his girlfriend. My DH wound love to since there are only so many family vaction we can do with him since he is getting older and if we have more kids.
We are both concerned about the water and etc. we plan to check with the dr. Maybe I'm crazy for even worrying.

Meg&Austin

Your definitely not crazy! Were moms it's our job to worry sometimes!