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hardlyhannah

divinemsbee said:

This.

OP, getting on a reg's ass for saying something that was a completely valid reaction is not a great start here. I think that you should lurk around a bit and see how we interact. I've also struggled with infertility and loss and it can be very very hard when you don't get something that's supposed to be a basic biological imperative and you see people all around you doing it easily. The thing to remember is that their fertility has no bearing on your own. There aren't a set number of babies to be born, they're not stealing anything from you.

And, one of the main reasons I try very hard not to judge is because, beyond just trying to be a good person, it's not worth the psychological toll it takes on me.

Also, when you've dealt with IF or loss, you get a lot of people telling you that maybe 'it wasn't meant to be' or somesuchshit, which is all about judging whether you are worthy of a baby. There are still arguments (really really stupid ones) about whether certain IF treatments are 'morally correct' or if we shouldn't just learn to live childless. Whether we 'deserve' to have kids. It's a shitty thing to say. Even if you're dealing with people in your life who aren't making good choices (and can you cut them out or at least to a bare minimum is they're affecting you so much?), talking about who deserves kids will get the side-eye on here.

This isn't related to the bs post that OP started... but...

@divinemsbee I just recently started lurking, and I wanted to thank you for this comment. It is a really helpful perspective for me as we start the TTC journey - which isn't going so smoothly for us at the moment. It speaks directly to some of the feelings I have been having about it lately.

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hawaiiantropiccc

May you ALL never have a baby

Cythe

hawaiiantropiccc said:

May you ALL never have a baby

Fuck you.

DaikokuJess

hawaiiantropiccc said:

May you ALL never have a baby

Goodbye

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LG2793

Why has she changed her avatar 3 times in the course of one conversation? And also....Missy?

virginiaorjohn

hawaiiantropiccc said:

May you ALL never have a baby

The winky face means what exactly? WTF?

You aren't mature enough for a baby, OP.  Grow up.

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Jags8

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abigailwaslike

Late to this, but I thought the OP stated in the very beginning that she was 'very mature'. Maturity is pretty subjective I guess!

HippoTooth

hawaiiantropiccc said:

May you ALL never have a baby

silverandgray

What in the... how the... why...?  I'm kind of glad I didn't see this happening until the awful OP was hit with the banhammer. Jeebus.

"Very mature couple" my ass.

KingLED

TrinityRebirth said:

CFearsy said:

Cythe said:

Now I'm just wondering whose baby the OP stole for her avatar.

And I'm wondering why it says she's started 3 discussion posts but I can only find 2...

@CFearsy - The discussion number really means nothing.  I've accidentally hit "start discussion" a couple times and then hit "cancel", but it still shows an extra 2 on my count... :-/

That doesn't create phantom posts. The two extras are reported posts.

frig05

Wow. Kind of a crazy day at TTGP. Left for a bit at what I thought was the worst and came back to so much more.

LittleMrsW

spragglefrock said:

What the holy fuck happened today?!  My mom went to the ER, ended up going into surgery and I just got home to find all of this shit. 

It was a shit show. I hope your mom's ok..

OrbitBaby

Unbelievable, how did is miss all of this?!  

OrbitBaby

spragglefrock said:

What the holy fuck happened today?!  My mom went to the ER, ended up going into surgery and I just got home to find all of this shit. 

It was a shit show. I hope your mom's ok..

Thank you. They're holding her for a few days but she's doing better. Long story involving 3.5 years of staph infections after a routine surgery. She's been fine for a year and suddenly her abdomen swells up with infection again. Certainly hasn't been the best day but not the worst either.

Sorry, hope your mom feels better soon.

icaughtfire

bibliothecary said:

May you masturbate, having forgotten that you had just chopped hot peppers for dinner.

Once after H & I just started dating, he cut up some jalepenos for dinner..washed his hands & went on about his night. Everything was fine until later that night we started fooling around & all of a sudden my lady parts were on FIRE. I truly hope this happens to OP because I can assure you it's miserable.

nandaboob06

@spragglefrock‌ I hope your mom heals quickly. Sending good vibes your way.

SpartanChick88

@spragglefrock‌ sending good thoughts to your mom

icaughtfire

NariaDreaming said:

icaughtfire said:

bibliothecary said:

May you masturbate, having forgotten that you had just chopped hot peppers for dinner.

Once after H & I just started dating, he cut up some jalepenos for dinner..washed his hands & went on about his night. Everything was fine until later that night we started fooling around & all of a sudden my lady parts were on FIRE. I truly hope this happens to OP because I can assure you it's miserable.

I'm never going to look at your screen name the same way again..... 


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HAHAHAHA!! I promise that's not where I got it from!

DrylHeisnberg

Man I hate when I miss the OP fun

nicpug

spragglefrock said:

LittleMrsW said:

spragglefrock said:

What the holy fuck happened today?!  My mom went to the ER, ended up going into surgery and I just got home to find all of this shit. 

It was a shit show. I hope your mom's ok..

Thank you. They're holding her for a few days but she's doing better. Long story involving 3.5 years of staph infections after a routine surgery. She's been fine for a year and suddenly her abdomen swells up with infection again. Certainly hasn't been the best day but not the worst either.

My MiL is on her second surgery from a staph Infection but hers cause a hole in her bowel. The infection came back also! That's crazy- your mom doesn't have any mesh in here abdomen does she? That's what they think is causing her infection.

SpartanChick88

spragglefrock said:

nicpug said:

spragglefrock said:

LittleMrsW said:

spragglefrock said:

What the holy fuck happened today?!  My mom went to the ER, ended up going into surgery and I just got home to find all of this shit. 

It was a shit show. I hope your mom's ok..

Thank you. They're holding her for a few days but she's doing better. Long story involving 3.5 years of staph infections after a routine surgery. She's been fine for a year and suddenly her abdomen swells up with infection again. Certainly hasn't been the best day but not the worst either.

My MiL is on her second surgery from a staph Infection but hers cause a hole in her bowel. The infection came back also! That's crazy- your mom doesn't have any mesh in here abdomen does she? That's what they think is causing her infection.

Actually she had some mesh stuff in there from when she had me that did cause one infection. Supposedly a year ago they took everything out so this time he said there was no old mesh, sutures, or anything else. He isn't sure why it keeps happening. It's getting pretty old though.

@spragglefrock‌ I keep seeing commercials for lawsuits involving pelvic mesh...maybe it's something to look into if she's having so many issues. I'm not one to jump straight to a lawyer but it sounds like there are a lot of issues with that stuff

nicpug

@spragglefrock‌ - I think the doc needs to dbl check. I'm not questioning doctors competency at all, but MiLs dr said he took a lot of the mesh out but some of it had basically become part of her with muscle and tissue,making it more of an issue to remove. He said it looks like it belongs there. Maybe some was unnoticed? I hope she feels better soon! Mil has a vacuum in her fistula helping with infection. You and your mom are in my thoughts!

nicpug

@SpartanChick88‌ - this is has brought up to us too. We're going to look into it bc this all really seems to be from the mesh. We aren't lawyering up kinda of people, but she's spending thousands(!!) getting better. Medicare (Medicaid?) don't cover that much