Screaming at bedtime

Erinm278

I'm at a loss here. I know baby's gonna baby, but this is so unlike her. For months we've had the routine for nap and bedtime and it's been fine. Lay her down and she falls asleep alone. For the past couple nights she screams at bedtime. Most naps she screams when you put her in the crib.
The other issue is that she throws her paci out of the crib. I don't want to go in to give it back to her but I know she won't calm down without it. I also don't want her screaming. A little whining isn't a big deal to me. Normally she may whine for 30 seconds then roll over and fall asleep. This is full on screaming, heart breaking screaming.

Any suggestions are welcome.

Pink724

Maybe her awake times are changing? I say this because we have gone through something similar with L for her second nap. She always falls asleep on her own rather easily, too, but these past couple of days she has stood and screamed, so I go in there and try and rub her back, bounce/walk/rock her, etc. and she will have none of it. I think she is ready to drop the second nap, so I am going to try and push back the first nap so we can make it to bedtime without too much fuss.

Anyways, maybe she is ready to stay awake for longer periods at a time? Good luck!

saphires

Maybe she has an ear infection? & laying down makes it hurt more?

Erinm278

Good suggestions everyone. I think she has a cold (runny nose) but didn't think of ears. I'll make an appointment for her tomorrow just in case. I don't think it's teeth but I could be wrong.

As far as naps, I'm pretty sure she's ready for a change in her nap schedule, the problem is if we're going to cut out a nap then she's going to have to make her afternoon nap much longer. Today she only slept 40 ish minutes. I tried to get her back to sleep and she would have none of it. She was over tired by the time bedtime rolled around which no doubt made things much worse.

In order for her to fall asleep just now I ha e to rock her until she caught her breath and was dozing then Kay her down and run her back. I honestly just think she was out of fight for now. I know she'll wake up around 3 am though bc that's her new norm too.

giraffeluvspi

Our screaming is purely S working us. As soon as we shut the door it stops. :-?

Erinm278

Do any of your LOs sleep with a blanket? I've always been afraid to give her one overnight though she uses one at naptime. Maybe that would comfort her?

giraffeluvspi

Erinm278 said:

Do any of your LOs sleep with a blanket? I've always been afraid to give her one overnight though she uses one at naptime. Maybe that would comfort her?

He has a blanket and a few stuffed animals in there, plus his wubbanub

Erinm278

Byjove03 said:

We do blankets as well and DD brings a bunny.

Is your DD upset to be laid down for diaper changes as well? If yes, than it could def be an ear infection.

No she's fine for diaper changes.

danielledunning

Sleep has been hell for us for about a month now. He's back to waking up 4-6 times a night and refuses to go back to sleep without the boob. He fights it so bad and it so exhausted. Same thing with the screaming when I lay him down. He used to just babble himself to sleep. I thought we were close to STTN when he got down to 1 wakeup, but now It's like we have a newborn who throws temper tantrums. No help, but you're not alone.

[Deleted User]

Haddy always has a blanket and he does fine with it in the crib. This week he's only been taking one nap a day so his sleep schedule has definitely changed.

I hope she starts to sleep better soon >:D<

saphires

LO sleeps with a A&A blanket and his taggie puppy. He cuddles the puppy all night long.

lovemyminions

No advice other than what's been given, but huge hugs. Hope LO feels better.

Erinm278

So I just put El down for her morning nap (she's a 2 nap a day girl used to be 3 so this is an improvement) I have her a blanket and a stuffed mini mouse. She laying there covered in her blanket, with her wubbanub, holding her mini and it's so sweet. She's not sleeping yet but she's laying there completely quiet. Maybe mini was the answer?

rondosa

Okay similar situation here too.

We've had the same routine for months and months, and have been drowsy but awake for nap time and bedtime too. Still had MOTN wake ups that required boob to go back down but have been lucky to have generally peaceful bedtimes.

Started a couple of weeks ago. Afternoon naps were tougher and had some screaming. If I was home it'd take boob to fall asleep. If it was the nanny she'd get him up and try again in 30min. Usually he'd be so tired he's conk out.

Bedtime became a disaster. Screaming. Crying. Even when I thought he was asleep on the boob, as soon as I'd super slowly start the crib transfer he'd wake up and erupt into tears. Would take 2 or 3 rounds.

For us it's still not great but seems to be improving back to normal slowly. I just keep trying our original routine until it'll stick.

All I can attribute it to is a combo of development (learning to walk, starting to sign, being more aware etc) and also some molars.

Hugs it totally sucks!!

Erinm278

Well we had another complete meltdown at bedtime tonight. I even called in DH to do the laying down and returning of the paci in case it was bc of me that she was screaming. Well she screamed with him to. She would let us rub her back though. I get the feeling she wants to know we're there which never was an issue before.
Just like last night I rubbed her back until she fell asleep and then slowly crept out of her room.
Tonight she's sleeping with a blanket for the first time and her stuffed mini. It didn't help her fall asleep any easier but we'll see if it helps when she wakes up. If she follows form she'll be up at 3-4 am.

Erinm278

Thanks all. Everyone's input has been very helpful. She took a 1 1/2 hour nap today after lunch and went to bed at 7. The new plan is to transition to 1 nap and go to bed earlier.
She fell asleep during story time but woke up the second I put her down. Instead of leaving the room and going through the hour of her screaming, getting all worked up, fighting, and more screaming, I decided to just rub her back. She was out in less than 2 minutes. She woke up 40 minutes later but never stood all the way up so I didn't go in. She whined and rolled around until she fell asleep again.

Fingers crossed she stays asleep until morning.

Erinm278

Took her to the Dr today and no ear infection or anything. She did however get a tooth on the side. I didn't think to look that far back bc normally they don't come in back there first. I'm hoping this sleep issue is teething!