Daphne Rose - a little dilemma

pshaortao

I had a poll set up a couple weeks ago, then we had decided on Daphne Rose along with a couple of back up names with the chance we feel that it doesn't fit her upon seeing her. Now we're both starting to question it (for good reasons). I'm deaf and my deafness is genetic. If my DH has the recessive gene too, then there's a 50/50 chance that she could be deaf too. If that's the case, we decided we don't want to name her Daphne at the risk of her getting the nickname by her peers "Deafne". We don't think it will be as likely for her to be called "Deafne" just because she has a deaf mother (at least I would hope not, but kids can be cruel)

Did you know anybody who had a deaf parent or two and they got teased for it? I was teased for being deaf and not being able to speak very well during my younger years, so naturally I feel insecure about her getting teased too.

BananaLettuce

My husband and son were both born blind with cataracts. We knew it was a risk that our son might inherit it, but never thought it would actually happen.

My H was teased growing up because he wore huge, coke-bottle glasses.

We hope this won't be the case with my son, as he is already leaps and bounds ahead of my husband due to advanced medical science. He actually wears contacts now instead of glasses.

Unfortunately kids can be very cruel to children with disabilities. If it causes you concern, you may want to rethink your name choice.

Sorry you are having to worry about this! ((HUGS))

I do think Daphne is a beautiful name though!

JulieSC81

I just wanted to say that Im sorry you were teased. People can be cruel and if parents taught respect and empathy at home, it would not happen near as much. That being said, Daphne Rose is beautiful.

LaurenS865

I love Daphne Rose, and it makes me sad that we live in a time where we have to reconsider beautiful names because of the potential for being teased. That being said, I wouldn't blame you for reconsidering.

stahlop

I know it's a tv show, so not entirely the same, but the show Switched at Birth has a deaf character named Daphne and I think it's beautiful. I would've never even thought of changing it to Deafne.

pshaortao

stahlop said:

I know it's a tv show, so not entirely the same, but the show Switched at Birth has a deaf character named Daphne and I think it's beautiful. I would've never even thought of changing it to Deafne.

I'm very familiar with the show and I'm a fan. My DH was actually the one that came up with Daphne and he didn't even realize it was her name on the show too. Apparently there have been comments about Daphne from the show and that it could very well be deafne. I am already expecting to hear comments related to the show from other deaf friends but I don't care about that at all. 

Dr.Loretta

On the one  hand, people are going to find a reason to tease a child about anything. on the other, I see your sensitivity.

I love Daphne, so I wouldn't blame you if you keep it.

iloveac

I'm sorry you were teased. Daphne Rose is a beautiful name but I completely understand not naming your daughter that for fear of nicknames. Like you said it's probably not likely but even still if it bugs you I understand.

I know a deaf mom and dad (my SIL's BIL and SIL are deaf) and they have 2 deaf daughters. The girls are young and deaf themselves so I cannot speak as to whether they have been teased, however, SIL's husband and twin brother are hearing along with both parents. The family is very supportive and most everyone knows at least enough sign to talk with the family. They are a very sweet family and although it's tough at times for them (his work) they seem like a happy and loving family.

Good luck and God bless! Congrats too!