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Thank you etiquette for gifts received

rkborkbo member
edited August 2014 in LGBT Parenting
Hiya everyone, 

I have started a list of gifts that we have received since finding out we were pregnant. Some gifts were given a few months ago, and I'm ashamed to say we forgot to send thank you's. 

My question to you all is this....What type of gift constitutes sending a thank you card? Anything? Here is a list of the gifts given so far, I believe all of these gifts were given out of excitement for the baby to be and that most of these people will be coming to our baby shower as well. Do we send a TY now or do we wait until after our shower? 

Thanks so much for your input!

1. 2 Christmas Pajamas, 1 Headband, Starbucks Sippy Cup 5/6/14
2. Stuffed Kitten 6/8/14
3. 1 Pair of Shoes, 1 Headband 6/13/14
4. 3pk Onsies, 2pk Pants 6/30/14
5. Onsie 7/26/14
6. Pregnancy Books 4/28/14





Re: Thank you etiquette for gifts received

  • We had our shower over two months ago and I just bought thank you cards finally today. So needless to say I'm a slacker and not up on etiquette. I would maybe suggest waiting until after your shower so you can write one set of thank you cards. If you have time or a more proper family them maybe go ahead and send some out now.
    T & G My wife and I married 9/10/11 in Niagara Falls, NY
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    She was 7lbs 11oz and 19.6 inches long

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    rkbo
  • I always give a thank you note no matter what size/value the gift. I typically write the note as soon as I get the gift and drop it in the mail otherwise lord only knows when I would get around to it. With that being said just today I remembered I got a gift a month ago that I haven't sent a ty out for.
    People gave me gifts early and shower gifts and baby visiting gifts. Each gift got its own note since there was months in between. I tried to use different thank you notes to spice it up.
    I'm not sure what "true" etiquette is.
    rkbo
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  • We are thank you note people...mostly because C's mom is a stickler and so we always have a little bird in our ear telling us to send out thank you notes. I always think its so nice to get a thank you when I send a gift. I love getting mail and its nice to be recognized. I am with @karlamo...if I don't send it out right away it gets WAY procrastinated!

    Queer coupled and having a BABY with the love of my life! Love my life and wouldn't have it any other way!
    First IUI 1/22/2013 BFN: 2/7/2013, Second IUI 2/21/2013 BFN: 3/9/2013, Third IUI 4/23/2013 BFN: 5/8/2013, Fourth IUI 5/24/2013 BFN: 6/7/2013, Fifth IUI 6/24/2013 BFN: 7/8/2013

    C began IUI's
    7/23/2013 C's first IUI BFN, 8/21/2013 C's second IUI BFN , Took a break in September and October, 11/05/2013 C's 3rd IUI (TWW...we meet again...) BFN, Took off the month to switch to an RE. 01/01/2014 C's 4th IUI...BFP!!!!!!!! Beta #1- 17, Beta #2- 34, Beta #3-140....  6W Ultra-Sound Reveals nothing in Gestation Sack... Natural M/C at 7W, 2/3/2014

    03/21/2014 IUI #10...BFP!!! Beta #1- 48, Beta #2- 416, Beta #3- 1018. GROW BABY GROW!!!

    1st Ultrasound 4/22/2014 Baby Squints is PERFECT! Measuring at 6w2d with a heartbeat of 129. EDD: 12/12/14.

    Ultrasound at 18 weeks on 7/14/2014. Baby is healthy and growing just as she should!

     

    Check out my blog at: http://journeytoparenthoodandmakingmilk.blogspot.com/

     

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    rkbo
  • rkborkbo member
    These are all great opinions. Thanks so much, I feel bad and am now going to send out the TY cards asap. :) 

    Its funny, cause I know with our wedding, I sent out TY cards immediately after receiving a gift before the wedding, heck, 3 days after our while we were on our honeymoon in Maui we sat and wrote out all TY's for everything received at the wedding. 

    We are normally more prompt than we have been with these baby gifts. Note to self...pick up the slack! 
  • Another thought is that we used all out thank you notes as a way to build our baby announcement list as we went along. So by the time the baby came, we had a list of addresses all done and ready to go for baby announcements.
    Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!

    It's been a long road to here...
    Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
    June'12 - First RE Visit
    Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
    Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
    Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
    Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
    Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect. :(
    Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
    Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
    Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
    Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
    EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
    Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
    We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle


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    rkbo
  • That's a great idea!!!

    Queer coupled and having a BABY with the love of my life! Love my life and wouldn't have it any other way!
    First IUI 1/22/2013 BFN: 2/7/2013, Second IUI 2/21/2013 BFN: 3/9/2013, Third IUI 4/23/2013 BFN: 5/8/2013, Fourth IUI 5/24/2013 BFN: 6/7/2013, Fifth IUI 6/24/2013 BFN: 7/8/2013

    C began IUI's
    7/23/2013 C's first IUI BFN, 8/21/2013 C's second IUI BFN , Took a break in September and October, 11/05/2013 C's 3rd IUI (TWW...we meet again...) BFN, Took off the month to switch to an RE. 01/01/2014 C's 4th IUI...BFP!!!!!!!! Beta #1- 17, Beta #2- 34, Beta #3-140....  6W Ultra-Sound Reveals nothing in Gestation Sack... Natural M/C at 7W, 2/3/2014

    03/21/2014 IUI #10...BFP!!! Beta #1- 48, Beta #2- 416, Beta #3- 1018. GROW BABY GROW!!!

    1st Ultrasound 4/22/2014 Baby Squints is PERFECT! Measuring at 6w2d with a heartbeat of 129. EDD: 12/12/14.

    Ultrasound at 18 weeks on 7/14/2014. Baby is healthy and growing just as she should!

     

    Check out my blog at: http://journeytoparenthoodandmakingmilk.blogspot.com/

     

    image

     

  • We actually have all of our friends and family's addresses already on file. We got married last year in October and had to collect everyone's information at that time. But regardless, that is a really good idea :) 
  • rkbo said:

    We actually have all of our friends and family's addresses already on file. We got married last year in October and had to collect everyone's information at that time. But regardless, that is a really good idea :) 

    We did too...but we've gotten gifts from a bevy of random people we didn't have on our wedding or shower lists. Coworkers, a few of my mom's friends and neighbors, our neighbors, etc. I figure anyone who sends a gift gets an announcement, and I've been surprised how many people I've added! And, this will become the Christmas card list, at least for this year with the "baby's first Christmas" card!!!
    Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!

    It's been a long road to here...
    Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
    June'12 - First RE Visit
    Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
    Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
    Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
    Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
    Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect. :(
    Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
    Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
    Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
    Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
    EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
    Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
    We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle


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  • I didn't even think of people just sending gifts that weren't invited, lol. 

    Looks like we will be making a new list of addresses!
    2MamazInSeattle
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