I hate people

MrsGiantPenis

I really really do. Stupid people should be shipped off to mars.

So the other day a friend and I brought our little monsters to wiggleworks. (Indoor play area for kids) k had a blast!!!!
(This is going to get long and all over the place, you have been warned)
Anyway, there was a guy there with his wife and two girls, one probably three years old, the other a baby. So we are near each other while our kids played. The parents strike up conversation and ask how old K is. So I say she just turned one. This is shocking to them, because K is walking all over the place and their 10 month old is hardly crawling. I just smile and mention how it just happened over night about a month ago, and kids all walk in their own time blah blah. Dad continues to compare the two kids, I just shrug and walk away.

Anyway about ten minutes later we end up in a similar area as dad and baby. Dad is holding baby and says to her "why can't you be skinny like her (points to K) I want you to be her size. You're so big, I want you to be small like her"
Guys, my jaw dropped. I just couldn't. What. The. Fuck. First off, this baby was fucking adorable. Had the cutest little baby rolls you just want to nom for days. Second, what the fuck is wrong with you to fat shame your infant. To tell her (I get she doesn't understand but still) she is anything but perfect. Third, it's not like this guy was in shape at all. I couldn't careless what size or weight a person is, but if you are going to at shame someone maybe you should take a look at your own health first, or realize your health impacts your kids health.
He again tries to strike up conversation about how awesome my kid is and how lacking his own is. I was speechless and walked away. I wish I had said something. There were just no words coming out. I was so shocked.

I really wish I could drive around middle schools blasting "All about that bass" from my car. But you know, that would be creepy and probably get me arrested. But dude, everyone is perfect no matter their size.

I just really really hate body shaming so so much. especially kids.

Thanks for letting me vent.

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lexielovebug

That breaks my heart what an ass. I cant believe someone would say that to a poor baby

But we do love wiggleworks

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RainbowHope

That's terrible

lexielovebug

So was Calista. We went for her birthday and really want to go again. I'm guessing you guys go to the one at SH?

coco2787

That is so weird. How do people not know babies are supposed to be fat? I hope he cuts that shit out.

thegoodpotato

Maybe he was really socially awkward and felt like he was making a friend by using a really weird version of "self depricating humour"?

I try to see the best in people, but even if it's something like the above, talking to your kid that way isn't ok.

I hope against all hopes that he's like any other parent and adores their kid for who they are, and was just really, super, mega awkward around other people.....

opheliainwaders

Ugh, that poor baby

ashie624

Aww Poor baby. Thats so messed up.

PrimRoseMama

Awful. Just awful. My BFF grew up hearing about "why can't you be smart/pretty/thin like X" from her parents. It devastated her & my husband struggles with real rage issues about his mom doing it.

I have vowed never, EVER to do the "X can do it, why can't you?" Comparison thing.

The kids hear it & internalize it starting very young. I want to focus on my kids strengths & work on weaknesses. I might commit physical violence if MIL pulls this shit.

stephyfaith

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I'm kind of with @thegoodpotato‌ but I do feel bad for the baby if it continues

valstulas

Wow. That's so not Raven of him. [-X

Wonder what he would think about my round booty.

Erinm278

That's sad. Hopefully he doesn't continue that as she gets older.

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dinomama13

That is so awful. It breaks my heart that that baby girls daddy said that to her

giraffeluvspi

mermomo5 said:

That is awful! We have some neighbors and everytime they see Clara they say how much they wanted a baby with red hair and were so sad their DD wasn't. Their DD is two weeks younger than Clara and they are very olive skinned, so their chances were low. Makes me so sad for their DD, she is perfectly cute without red hair!

I have an olive skinned red head. She tans better than I could ever dream of. Granted 3 of my 5 are redheads

A daywalker... (I've watched a lot of SouthPark)

thegoodpotato

MrsGiantPenis said:

Maybe he was really socially awkward and felt like he was making a friend by using a really weird version of "self depricating humour"?

I try to see the best in people, but even if it's something like the above, talking to your kid that way isn't ok.

I hope against all hopes that he's like any other parent and adores their kid for who they are, and was just really, super, mega awkward around other people.....

I would agree but it wasn't even like he was saying it to me. We weren't close enough at that moment to need to make any sort of small talk. He just said it to his kid and when He realized I was looking at him, he came closer and made conversation. He also knocked his three year old over with his foot and then yelled at her for not listening. Me thinks he's just an ass hole. I really wish I had said something.

Then that's just plain sad.  

giraffeluvspi

This is sad. Very sad. 

I'd also like to point out that along with fat shaming there is such a thing as skinny shaming. People used to comment to my Mom how she never fed us as kids or starved us. We were just skinny kids. A classmate actually reported my sister for being anorexic to the principle while she was in middle school. My sister came home crying and said "I told them to bring me a super sized quarter pounder meal from McDonald's and I would eat ALL of it!" The assholism can go both ways.