So, I'll admit I've never posted on this thread before and I'm a little intimidated to post this.
I have 3 boys and am pregnant with a girl. My very good girlfriends want to throw me a shower (since I only have boys and don't own anything girl related). I'm very uncomfortable with this. I realize that I CAN have a shower since it is a different sex than I have, but it's still my 4th baby!! I have started organizing a spa day for all of us and I was wondering if I could tactfully say, "why don't we do this and we can all get together, no need for gifts??" OF COURSE, I would pay for my own spa services. I just feel odd about having other people buying me gifts. I haven't had a shower since DS1. Now, we also were not planning on having more children, this baby is a surprise, so we actually got rid of all of our baby items last fall, but I still don't want my friends to feel obligated to buy me things.
So here is the question, is this shower as super tacky as I think it is?? Can I tactfully decline without hurting feelings? Can I suggest we just have a girls day with no gifts??
Thanks for your (hopefully kind) responses!!
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Thanks for the responses. I didn't think it was appropriate, but wanted to make sure before I declined. And, yes to @MrsMuq, we fully expected to buy our own baby items (as this is OUR baby and OUR responsibility).
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Showers are to welcome first time moms into motherhood. There isn't a reason to re-welcome someone. I think suggesting a girls day instead is a great idea!
Re: Shower for baby #4