Difference of opinion with DH

caycelee

I went back to work Wednesday and the last two nights have been a little rough with the LO in the morning...specifically he's fussy and has gas, etc...We supplement with a little formula but mainly he's on BM. Yesterday morning he was really fussy and I went to start feeding him, well DH immediately went to grab a bottle of formula and I snapped at him saying that I was planning on pumping before I left so I will just BF him instead, well he thinks that LO isn't getting enough and in turn isn't sleeping well because he doesn't go to bed with a full belly.  I told him  that he gets more than he thinks and that I took that statement personal. Well this morning same routine happened: LO got fussy around 4:30, I tried to give him the boob, he didn't seem to want it so I gave him Colic Calm. DH starts heading downstairs again for formula and in the meantime I tried giving the boob again and he took it. DH comes back up and says he thinks giving him formula will help settle his gas and push things out. I disagreed, I don't think Formula has anything to do with the gas...it's HOW he's eating and crying that creates the gas am I wrong? Well of course I go put my makeup on and when I return DH informs me that LO pooped just after he gave him 1 oz of formula...so now he thinks his opinion is correct and that I need to check my ego at the door and not take it personal. Even though a week ago he claimed that Colic Calm helps him poop. I can't help but take it personal but overall I just want him to be happy with a full belly and no gas pains. I'm open to hear what you ladies think, I don't want to lose my nursing time with him because he may not be "getting enough". signed, sad and annoyed momma

lrmrtn

DS gets mostly formula and he's quite the farter! Plus now that he gets more formula and less BF, he poops less.

ArmyMedic7588

Just a thought (besides what PPs have said that formula constipates a little bit)... There's no way that between the time u left to do makeup and come back that your LO digested the formula H gave him. Yes babies are smaller than us adults and it a shorter digesting time but unless you took 2-3 hrs to do makeup (god I hope not!) the formula can't go through him that quickly to make him poop. I'm thinking it's the colic calm or the simple fact of him being up and moving instead of laying down. Moving their little legs gets things going sometimes. I agree with you, DH is wrong. I wouldn't want to lose that time either.

KBowen715

I'd punch him.


Oh, was that not what you were asking?

pistolpackinmomma

He seems to need "proof" that baby is getting enough. Could you get an appt wih the pedi and have them do a weighed feed? Then the pedi can explain to him that the output is more than enough?

delatl

Colic calm is like an instant laxative for my kid.

ns1

delatl said:

Colic calm is like an instant laxative for my kid.

Sorry to hijack...how much / often do you give it to LO? We go through phases of poop and happy and then no poop and fussy. We're in a non pooping fussy phase now and just started colic calm (1 1/4 t dose the past 2 nights) and have yet to see poop and happiness.

caycelee

Thank you so much ladies for the support, encouragement and suggestions. I do believe we need to talk more about it when we aren't in the middle of it actually happening. I definitely don't think any kind of human could digest something so quickly in the matter of 5-10 minutes so I'm hoping that jab was because he was up so early in the morning. I'm going to compromise and let him do a formula feed before bed if that will make him happy and when the sleep doesn't change he will see that it's not formula that dictates a huge change in sleep but that he will go through different sleeping patterns. @ NS1, our LO would go 4-5 days without pooping and it usually took a couple doses of CC before he pooped but it always seemed to help! I can't imagine how it must feel for them and their little bellies

Katrinamu

Colic calm has been amazing for us! It's not a probiotic, just calms their stomach and relaxes the GI. Formula alone didn't make poop happen. Just getting food in the tummy makes them poop. My DD is EBF and poops up a storm during every breakfast feed. Babies are just gassy. Especially at the 6-8 week mark. Waking up to eat at 4:30 is normal. Doesn't mean he's not getting enough, he just needs to eat again. Also, over feeding baby just makes them gassier! Its stressful when you're exhausted and baby is upset. So I get it. Baby gas is what it is. Sometimes there's nothing you can do as hard as it to see them uncomfortable.

delatl

At this point, probably a few times a day. It doesn't always make her poop, but often she'll start pooping within seconds. Mostly we use it for hiccups.