FI parents ask this question everyday - everytime we talk to them. It's such a sensitive question for me since I don't know when she'll be home and it makes me emotional thinking about how she's not with me. Having someone ask all the time makes it "real" that she's not with me. She's a late preterm baby but she's very little and in the incubator(though no lung issues). I know her stay will hopefully be shorter rather than longer and some or most of you have babies in the nicu longer....but how do you handle that question?
Re: when is baby coming home?
I usually just go through what he has to do to go home and say there's not a date. (he's passed the date that normally the babies go home)
sometimes they ask me like every day..and if I'm feeling snarky, I say when he's ready, he really likes the nurses.
We do try to keep everyone included so they know what's going on but I feel very overwhelmed and emotional when they ask for a date. I don't even know when she'll be home...if i did I would have said she'd be home on x date. I guess it also reminds me that as soon as she's released everyone is gunna ask to comes see her and that gives me a lot of anxiety...
I'm very anxious about her coming home and them asking constantly to visit her...but that was expected anyway since i had anxiety about that when i thought she'd be full term
Since they were feeders/growers w no major medical problems, everyone wanted to come see them when they came home. That was harder to control than the NICU stay itself. I have a hard time saying no and w twins and a big one, I did need the help but it was still overwhelming. I did make sure to ask everyone to wash their hands and use lots of hand sanitizer.