Co-Ed baby showers

hiketheworld

We are having a co-Ed shower thrown for us but need to decide on the guest list. Do plus ones get invited to something like this? We have several friends in long-term relationships where we don't know their partners very well. This is mainly an issue for work friends. I just don't know whether to include them. Thoughts?

AnnieRoo13

I would say include them. If it's a co-ed shower and the person shows up and sees significant others and theirs wasn't invited I think it would be hurtful. Plus, just because they're invited doesn't mean they'll show up. If DH and I were invited to a shower for a friend of mine that he didn't know I wouldn't really care if he went or not. In fact it might be easier for me since I wouldn't have to make sure he was talking to someone etc.

thedjinn88

I would say invite tHem, we are doing a co-ed as well and I plan a plus one for everyone for the most part.

missnacholover

I'd invite them.  I wouldn't necessarily put "MissNachoLover and Guest" on the invitation, but maybe "MissNachoLover and MisterQuesadillaLover". 

Carebella

I'm in the same boat with two people on our list and leaning towards just inviting them. If I knew they had a SO I'd make it a plus one. But I know one of the two doesn't understand/respect what a plus one for a SO means. I'd really rather not have a complete stranger that could be someone they have only gone on a few dates with at our shower...

As for work friends, it can be a great opportunity to meet their SO.

absolutelymaybe

I would invite them. When I hear "co-ed baby shower" I don't think a formal sit-down party (like a wedding), rather a more casual affair. 

misterdonut

We are doing a coed party and allowing plus ones! Makes for a good time since everyone will be meeting for the first time, nice to have a significant other with them.

SweetMelissa5

I would invite the significant others of those who have them, but I personally would not issue a plus one to singles, mostly because I can't imagine anyone possibly wanting to go to a baby shower as a date.

MrsLillyG

I would invite anyone's other half whether you know them or not, whether they have been together for 50 years or 50 days.  Are you hosting it?  If you aren't I would check on the guest limit the host has set.

ETA: I would never go to a co-ed party where my H wasn't welcome.

hiketheworld

Thanks for all your responses! I'm not hosting the party, my MIL is. Her house isn't that big so while she didn't set a guest limit I honestly just feel like this will be a total debacle.

I am fairly new to the area but my DH grew up here. As a result, my only friends here are colleagues and he has a zillion friends who grew up here and never left.

No matter what I'm going to feel awkward as hell at the party. I'm beginning to feel like I will not invite anyone, let DH invite whoever, and just show up.