*** 3rd Tri Checkin - 7/30/2014 ***

marnief

This is a weekly check-in for members in their third trimester. You can feel free to join at 28 weeks and we will bid you an excited farewell when you greet your little ones! If you are new, please include your EDD and team in your post.

Congratulations @MMschu (Team Purple!), @VioletteGrayskies (Girl!), and @brooklynesque (Girl) on the arrival of your little ones! Hope moms and babies are all doing well! @KristyLynn26 hope all went well, can't wait for your update!

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How far along are you?
Upcoming appointments?
Any updates to share?
How are you feeling?

QOTW: Do you plan to have a night nurse, a cleaning service, or other paid help after the LO(s) come(s)?

**Recent Grads**

@BBColt78 7/09 Girl
@DoublePortion 8/15 Team Purple
@amwenz Boy born 7/11
@LilSip0611 Twin girls born 7/21
@MMschu Team Purple twins born 7/18
@Brooklynesque Girl born 7/24
@VioletteGrayskies Girl born 7/23

**July **
@RG0405 7/12 Girl
@AlmostWright 7/22 (team?)
@lks18 7/22 Twin Girls
@Say1009 7/23 (team?)
@krdesi 7/27 Boy
@csronce 7/28 Boy
@Ylvelill 7/29 Team Purple


**August**
@cachoque 8/03 Boy
@ThoseThreeWords 8/04 Team Green - FX for your cervix to open up!
@SoonToBeMrsP 8/04 Boy
@Okitty 8/05 Team Green
@cc+mm 8/06 Girl - Congrats on starting maternity leave! Are you nesting?
@liz4paws 8/07 Girl
@amd1982 8/14 Girl
@HeatherHam10 8/18 Boy
@Sk8terWoman 8/20 Boy - Sounds like you are all ready - nursery, daycare, car seats all done! Hope the PUPPP rash isn’t too bad.
@Allison7 8/23 Girl
@OutdoorGirl10 8/30 Boy - Sorry you are tired and irritable, but hang in there! And seriously, do people think we don't *know* there's a chance the baby could come early?


**September**
@xtina78 9/2 Twin Girls - Only a couple days of work left, yes? Hope the pumping class was helpful!
@GettinCrafty 9/3 Girl - FX for your Mom! Glad you are so ready for baby, that’s got to feel good
@marnief 9/3 Girl
@Lizarella82 9/6 Team Green - Sorry to hear you need insulin - good luck and hang in there!
@tigger99 9/7 Girl - How was the shower?
@1983lindsey 9/10 Boy - How’s the nursery coming along?
@brittneyandadam 9/11 Girl
@jenschultz85 9/22 Team Green - I hear you on the exhaustion! Congrats on passing the 3-hour GTT

**October**
@Hopeful1029 10/3 Boy - Welcome! Were you able to cut back your work hours? I hope you’ve had no more contractions.
@mmhopeful 10/7 Twin Boys - Welcome! Good luck with the GD, hope the nutritionist helps.
@Aurora1181 10/10 Team Purple - Welcome! How did the biophysical profiles go?
@SpartanGirl24 10/10 Twin Boys - Welcome! Sorry to hear you're so uncomfortable by mid-morning. Maybe your doc could prescribe a daily siesta?

Lizarella82

How far along are you? 34 weeks 4 days

Upcoming appointments? Every week! NST and BPP next Monday, regular OB Tuesday.

Any updates to share? Baby is still very small- on the last growth scan two weeks ago s/he was in the 10th percentile, and as of Monday s/he is in the 7th. I am very worried. I thought I was supposed to have the opposite problem with GD, but the doc says it isn't related to GD at all, or anything else I'm doing. DH and I are small people so we could just have an extra small baby- somehow that doesn't make me feel much better. The doctor mentioned inducing me possibly two weeks early, depending on the next growth scan in two weeks, so we may meet our LO sooner than expected. Not the birth I wanted or planned..... but of course I'll do everything I can to make sure s/he gets the best start at life possible. 

How are you feeling? Anxious. Physically ok, but very anxious. Work is extremely stressful too, and going on maternity leave early is alternately exciting because I can get the hell away from all this madness and stressful because I have even less time to get things ready.

QOTW: We're going to have someone come clean the house next week before the last baby shower, which will be at our place, and then at least once again after baby comes. 

xtina78

@marnief - thanks for the great check - in !

How far along are you? 35 + 2 with di di twin girls
Upcoming appointments? twice weekly NSTs and once weekly OB
Any updates to share? Girls are still doing great on their NSTs. Apparently my uterus is "irritable" - they see a lot of small contractions on the NSTs but nothing to worry about - I'm supposed to take it easy, stay hydrated, not let bladder get too full and of course the ever fun - pelvic rest. Big update is that DH and I are leaning toward a scheduled c/s. Twin A is vertex but B is breach/transverse. OB is willing to let me labor and then try to flip B around but a lot of complications, especially for twin B possible that way, and a good chance I could end up with a c/s for B even if A makes it out vaginally. He said by doing a c/s I'm taking more of the risk on for myself and there is less risk for the babies - that sounds fine to me - especially as a lot of the risks of c/s are for subsequent pregnancies and we will most likely not be having any of those. Also the pumping class was pretty helpful - I am now less intimidated by the pump. I also had a good meeting with our potential nanny and I am very hopeful that is going to work out.
How are you feeling? OK. Pretty tired. Apparently I have symphysis pubis dysfunction (joint holding pelvis together in front is loosening) and it was excruciating last week, had to take narcotic pain meds per my OB, but for whatever reason pain has now let up (even off meds) and is manageable.

QOTW: Do you plan to have a night nurse, a cleaning service, or other paid help after the LO(s) come(s)? We have a weekly cleaning service that we are definitely keeping. I find it worth every penny. Depending on how hard things are, I would consider looking into a post partum doula or a night nurse, but I'm guessing it would be prohibitively expensive.

Allison7

How far along are you? 36w4d

Upcoming appointments? I have weekly OBs now, so next Tuesday!

Any updates to share? As of yesterday I am not dilated, but I am half thinned out (50% effaced) and the baby has officially turned head down - in fact, her head was, "very, very low". 

My excited news this week was getting a new car! My old one had 161,000 miles on it, so while I feel she will run another 161,000 we didn't want to risk it with LO in the backseat! The old one and the new one are both Jetta SportWagens! This time I went with the diesel so i am super psyched. I don't know why I love wagons, but I do! 

Oh, and our crib...we took it out to put together two weeks ago and the manufacturer boxed the wrong color. Target was out of them in store, so it had to be ordered. It arrived on Monday and DH is putting it together on Friday when he returns from his business trip. Hopefully I can pull this nursery together before she arrives!
How are you feeling? I feel fine. At the moment LO is both pushing on my stomach with her legs and it feels like clawing to get out at the other end. It is a really weird sensation. 

QOTW: Do you plan to have a night nurse, a cleaning service, or other paid help after the LO(s) come(s)? hahahahahaha. I wish. I will have some unpaid help though from my mom. After DH returns to work (he gets a week of paternity) my mom is going to come over during the day to help around the house and watch LO while I get some (probably) much needed sleep!

cc+mm

39 weeks today, less than a week left. I have an ob appointment tomorrow and an NST Friday, then my c section on Tuesday. I'm still feeling pretty good, just tired.

QOTD: no plans for paid help as of now. DH is taking 3 weeks of bonding leave, MIL lives 2blocks away and will take some time off, my mom is fairly close as well. I might explore a cleaning person once I go back to work.

formerwigirl

Hey ladies. Thanks @marnief for the check in! Congrats to those that recently had their LO's.

I am 32w 2d today.
I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow, just my regular biweekly appointment.
Nothing new to report here. Having trouble sleeping because it takes me forever to get comfortable and dealing with awful heartburn.

QOTW: Do you plan to have a night nurse, a cleaning service, or other paid help after the LO(s) come(s)? We aren't planning for any of this right now. DH wants to get our carpets professionally cleaned before LO arrives but we aren't planning on any help. Both sets of parents live up north in different states (we live in FL), so they are planning to come down for a week or so but otherwise its just us.

I hope you all have a great week!

Hopeful1029

I am 30w5d today. I had my biweekly OB visit yesterday.....and got dropped. He discharged me from his practice. Why? Because he told me if by 36 weeks my LO is 7.5lbs or more, I must have a c-section because I am too obese to have a vaginal birth to a live baby. I do not have GD, my BP is perfection, but I'm "obese". Fuck him. So now, with all my emotions swirling, the stress of prepping for our first baby, work, life, etc., I have to find a new OB. QOTW: nope, nothing of the such. Luckily, I have a hubby who is pretty much super man (and a mom who lives 30 minutes away and would just LOVE to come help cook, clean, anything

mmhopeful

Hopeful1029 said:

I am 30w5d today. I had my biweekly OB visit yesterday.....and got dropped. He discharged me from his practice. Why? Because he told me if by 36 weeks my LO is 7.5lbs or more, I must have a c-section because I am too obese to have a vaginal birth to a live baby. I do not have GD, my BP is perfection, but I'm "obese". Fuck him. So now, with all my emotions swirling, the stress of prepping for our first baby, work, life, etc., I have to find a new OB. QOTW: nope, nothing of the such. Luckily, I have a hubby who is pretty much super man (and a mom who lives 30 minutes away and would just LOVE to come help cook, clean, anything

I'm devastated for you! OMG!  Did the office at least give you any referrals?  Talk to people you know....family, friends, neighbors.....find out who they have and call them ASAP!  It might be a blessing in disguise as you want a physician you have faith in and who will support YOU!  So sorry and will add a few extra prayers for you as you need to keep your stress down. 

OKitty

Hi all! I haven't checked in for a while, but hopefully this is my last! 39+1 today and 3cm, 70%, -2 station: all with no real contractions that I know of! Maybe this is a good sign of easy labor to come...

It still feels unreal that this is really happening after 5 years of waiting!

If baby doesn't come on its own, our induction is scheduled for next Wednesday. Im not so nervous about that, as I work with all my nurses and my doc. Just scary that I have to be a patient!

Prayers for easy third tri's for everyone else!

marnief

Again with forgetting to post my own update... 

35 weeks today. Saw the MFM on Monday and he confirmed what my OB had told us, but in a more reassuring way. I suck at modified bed rest, and my Mom and DH kept telling me I have to think of myself as a princess, so I've started wearing my wedding tiara as a reminder. I'm back to the OB tomorrow, and next week will settle into the routine of OB on Tue, MFM on Fri. I feel fine, which is what makes bed rest so annoying. And the nesting instinct is starting to kick in, but I can't *do* anything...alas.

This Sunday we will pick up a bassinet bought for cheap on FB, then have a car seat installer come to our house because hubby can't get away during the week to go to the police station. Wednesday we have a handyman coming to assemble the crib and dresser for us because we are not handy types at ALL. And we are meeting with a lawyer to do wills and stuff. 

QOTW: we have a housekeeper who comes once a week already.. My parents will stay with us from Munchkin's arrival through the first week of October. After that, we may have the housekeeper come twice a week if I feel I need the extra help with laundry and cleaning...just dunno yet. DH wants to have a night nurse, but I am hoping to breastfeed and so I'm going to have to wake up anyway, so I don't really see the point. Hubby is worried about sleep. I really hope not to move into Munchkin's room but that may be the only solution if DH is getting too little sleep to function at work, given that he's the sole breadwinner right now, and he has a trial to prepare for in early Nov, so prep work begins just as my parents leave.

Allison7

@Hopeful1029‌ I am so sorry about your OB! I seriously can't believe he would just drop you like that at over 30 weeks. I hope that you are able to find a new OB quickly and the new one is much more compassionate and willing to try and let you have the birth you want!

SpartanGirl24

Hope everyone is well! I'm going to pop back in tonight to read updates.

@marnief I can take breaks during the day since I work at home, but it just drags out the day. We will just keep trucking along! 

How far along are you? 29 weeks, 6 days
Upcoming appointments? A cervical check next week, then on to NSTs!
Any updates to share? Nothing too big. My mom and sister were having a lot of fun watching my belly jump all over the place last weekend.
How are you feeling? Pretty good still. I've hit the point where I'm getting up at least once a night to pee and I hate it!

QOTW: Do you plan to have a night nurse, a cleaning service, or other paid help after the LO(s) come(s)? Nope, but we are all hands on deck! ILs live 30 minutes away and will be around all the time. Once we figure out how much time DH is going to take off, my mom is going to take a week off his first week back to come stay with us. I'm sure she will be down on the weekends too since she is only 1.5 hours away.

Sk8terWoman

Thanks for running a great check in marnief. 

How far along are you?  I'm 37w 1 day

Upcoming appointments?  Just had an appointment yesterday, so seeing the OB weekly.  Cervix still thick and baby isn't moving anytime soon.

Any updates to share?  Nothing really, ready to get this show on the road!

How are you feeling?  I'm feeling pretty good, although the swelling in my feet has gotten a lot worse.   I had to go into the office this week (I normally work from home) and made the mistake of wearing shoes.  My feet were so swollen at the end of the day i had to push down the back of the heel and wear my flats as '"slipper". I'll be wearing my roomy and still work appropriate sandals tomorrow.

QOTW: Do you plan to have a night nurse, a cleaning service, or other paid help after the LO(s) come(s)?  We are planning on having the house cleaned about a week before the baby is born.  Depending on how we feel, we may have them come out biweekly.

Cutiecruz327

Hello all! I'd like to be added please. I'm 28 weeks today (I guess yesterday, being after midnight). My due date is 10/23. We are expecting a little boy to be named Manny.

My next check up is later today. I'm actually at the hospital labor & delivery now. My dog accidentally jumped on my belly when I got into bed tonight. Doc wanted me to get checked out. Baby is doing great, but I'm being monitored for a few hours anyway. Better safe than sorry. I am so relieved to hear his stable heart beat.

QOTW: We don't plan on any paid help after LO comes. Except daycare when I go back to work. My MIL is coming up from Florida for a month after baby is born to help.

OutdoorGirl10

@hopeful1029 - how rude! that really sucks and I'd be annoyed too. Hopefully you can find a new OB who is more supportive.
@marnief - wearing your wedding tiara! lol, that's great!
@1983lindsey - I had something similar a couple weeks ago. The first one stopped me in my tracks when I was out for a walk and took my breath away. Next day happened on and off throughout the day. Dr said it's totally normal. I"m not worried if he's not.

How far along are you?  35w6d
Upcoming appointments? weekly NST and appointments now until LO arrives!
Any updates to share?  First NST was today and it went really well. He was moving around like crazy which made me feel better.
How are you feeling?  Still irritable, it's a good thing no one's talked to me much today.  Getting up 2x a night to pee. Also I've found I actually am more comfortable sleeping without a pillow between my knees or under my belly. Weird. I'm glad I didn't go buy a body pillow. Other than laying down, I can't seem to be comfortable. I sit for a while and want to stand and then after standing I want to sit. Repeat.

QOTW: Do you plan to have a night nurse, a cleaning service, or other paid help after the LO(s) come(s)?  No paid help, both MILs don't leave near us and we only have 1 extra room so we're trying to figure out which one is coming when to help out.  And there's a couple other family friends that have said they'll stop by and help with whatever so that will be nice.

GettinCrafty

Thanks for the great check in, @marnief! Love that you're wearing the tiara. Go girl!

How far along are you?

35w3d

Upcoming appointments?
Internal exam with OB on Tuesday, u/s to monitor growth and first NST on Wednesday

Any updates to share?
I keep hearing from OB baby is measuring a bit on the big side. Just hoping she stays at a reasonable weight. I don't want to be induced early or to have a c-section, though I'll obv. do what it takes to bring home a healthy baby. 

Also, GOOD NEWS about my mom! She finally was released from the hospital after 5 weeks -- with no leukemia cells left in the bone marrow (!!!), and is happy at home. There's a long road ahead of continuing treatments to make sure she gets into remission and stays there, but just heard she'll definitely be able to come to the hospital to see and hold baby whenever she arrives. I'm THRILLED! 

How are you feeling?
Not sleeping well thanks to indigestion and a really annoying and persistent pain in my mid back. But I know that's to be expected, so rolling with it and just loving feeling all of LO's movements. 

QOTW: Do you plan to have a night nurse, a cleaning service, or other paid help after the LO(s) come(s)?

We just hired a cleaning service this month -- biweekly. OMG, I love it so much. We'll continue with that for as long as we think we can. Other than that, it'll be just DH and me. 

marnief

THRILLED for your Mom, @GettinCrafty‌!

Hopeful1029

Thanks for the support ladies. @1983lindsey‌ no, he was always supportive throughout my pregnancy. He told me my weight gain was right on track, always looked good,etc. We also always had the talks about my wanting a natural, drug-free vaginal delivery and he always said "it's your birth, I'm just there to catch. I don't care if you stand on your head." But now, I totally believe it was the bait and switch thing going on. I truly feel like he was saying anything until I got towards the end of my pregnancy and then he could try scare tactics by using "dead baby" words. But, I'm educated in natural childbirth as well as these tactics and I wasn't shaken, which I think pissed him off more. I'm a nurse and my BP, urine, bloodwork have always been good. I don't have GD, I have thick thighs, a big ass and a large tummy. To a woman who is 150lbs in a size 10, I'm not that big.....my body doesn't fit the typical stereotype. If I were 120lbs., I'd look anorexic....I just have high numbers on a scale. I'm active, I'm fit, I'm healthy otherwise. I just think he had a plan the whole time to cut me, and when I called bs on him, he dropped me. I've had 2 consults, a midwife and an OB and I have two more scheduled. I'm feeling very good about things now

cachoque

It's been a while since I checked in & this will be my last. Sorry this is a long one but I need to get out my feelings!

How far? 40 weeks!
Update: So, baby was frank breech at 28w u/s and my practice doesn't do anymore u/s after that. As time went on, by 36w, my OB was sure that baby flipped based on external exam, and more recently, cervix checks. I continued to worry though. I just felt like the spot right under my ribs was the perfect hard round shape - like a head. And the nurse kept finding the heartbeat up near my belly button. But they shrugged off my concerns and convinced me that the round spot was his feet. Then Thursday at the 39w4d appt, again high heartbeat and this time (thankfully) my belly finally did one of those crazy contortions where my little bowling ball shape was incredibly obvious from the outside. This is what I kept experiencing at home and told them about. I just said, look look, and the OB felt immediately and said, ok we'll do an u/s just to be sure. Finally! Two minutes later, she put the wand on me and instantly said, yep! She turned the screen and there he was, skull right under my ribs... a few days before my due date. I immediately started balling and felt so upset that I didn't do more to confirm it and demand an u/s earlier. I would've tried things like spinning babies and maybe an ECV. But to find out so late is very hard for me. The OB said there's hardly a chance any of that would work now - he's just too big and I would likely go into labor with a breech & need an emergency c/s. They tried to convince me to do the c section on Friday but it was late in the day Thursday and I just couldn't do it - I needed more time to resolve my feelings. So, I'm scheduled for Monday at 9a. Believe me, I know that a c/s isn't the end of the world. Just that we're healthy is all that matters. And I am excited to see my baby so so much! And I know the likelihood of the same outcome is high even if I had known earlier. I just wish that I had advocated better for myself. Trust your gut ladies & don't be timid about asking for what you want!

I'm a bit scared of the surgery and I'm hoping I can just pull the same mental strength together that got me through all of the IVF procedures. DH & my mom have been a huge source of encouragement & I'm mostly cheered up. Just ready to get off this roller coaster & focus on nothing but my LO.

HeatherHam10

I already made another post but thought I'd put something here...my little miracle made his arrival on July 29th at 12:01 a.m at 37 weeks. He weighed 7 lbs and was 19.5". He is so beautiful and I can't believe he is all ours! Labor was long and awful but totally worth it! Good luck to all of you ladies getting close to meeting your own LOs!

mmhopeful

Hello!  A little late updating but wanted to check in.  (See below for pics in next post!  )

I am 31 weeks and 2 days along! Yeah!  Attached are a few pics of my husband and I on our 2nd wedding anniversary the night before we turned 31 weeks.  I am feeling good and am in the home stretch.  Less than 7 weeks away from cuddling our two miracles!  9/23 was given to me as a my cut off date. Can't wait!  Could go sooner.  Booked all of my NST's and have all of my OB appts booked as well.  The biggest question will be if my dr. allows me to start my school year or not.

QOTW:  We will hire someone to help clean for a big once over and then family will be assisting us with regular cleaning.  No night nurses or family will be staying with us.  We are excited to keep up together as a couple and share the duties of night time attention for the boys.  The daytime help is appreciated and will enable us to find our way as a couple. 

mmhopeful

Here are the pics!  I meant to attach them in my last post above.  Must be my pregnancy brain!