September 2014 Moms

Rainbow Baby...Shower Question (maybe trigger)

Hi ladies. I haven't posted in a while. Hubby started a new job, baby prep and keeping our other 4 kids occupied. Lol. I have peeked in and see everyone is doing well as we enter the home stretch. :)

My shower is next Saturday and I am so excited. Lots of friends and family coming, some I haven't seen in a while. I was thinking about doing something or saying something to celebrate this baby who is a rainbow baby after 2 losses last year. Most of the people who are coming were my support system during the losses and are so excited to celebrate this LO. I also don't want to turn the shower too somber as I will probably be emotional already seeing my close friends celebrating with me and my family. I was thinking about wearing 2 angels or a rainbow pin or something. Just wanted to hear you ladies' input. TIA!
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Re: Rainbow Baby...Shower Question (maybe trigger)

  • I think a subtle acknowledgement is perfectly fine as long as you don't do anything that would make the guests uncomfortable. The rainbow pin sounds lovely. I thought about doing something like that at mine but in the end didn't because my family isn't very tactful when it comes to pregnancy loss and I really didn't want to reopen that can of worms with my family. They honestly try to be helpful but most of the time just say things that are mildly insulting at best. 
  • Do what feels right is all I can say. There's nothing somber in acknowledging that this is a rainbow baby/ you have two angels.

    My baby shower, thrown by my bestie last weekend, was "funfetti" themed, not only because I could devour every funfetti treat that ever existed, but it was also a nod to the fact that this is my rainbow baby. I didn't really bring up my losses, because everyone knows and it's been a bittersweet ride enough as it is (plus my sister and I lost it when I brought up my mother who recently passed). But again, do what feels right! Just keep in mind that you may choke up if you decide to bring it up (not that there's anything wrong with that, says blubbery blubbery Cat) ;)
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  • I have been trying to think of what I would say, and start getting teary-eyed just thinking about it. I think I will probably go with the angels or rainbow pins. And if someone asks I will probably just mention it so I can keep it together. Thanks ladies ;)
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  • I think it is a beautiful gesture.  I feel like you should do whatever YOU feel comfortable with.  Your guests have no reason to be uncomfortable with anything that you decide because while the loss of your two angels is heartbreaking, but it isn't a faux pas for you to discuss. This day is about celebrating you as a mother, so do what feels right for mama! Congratulations!
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